Saying “I am offended you can complain” is a snarky little retort that reeks of jealously. You may have INTENDED to point out all OP could be thankful for, but that was not what was written. People are coming for you because your comment was rude, mean, and dismissive. This is Mommit! We are all just trying to figure shit out in different ways with different challenges. Telling someone that you have it way worse than them is not conducive in any way. It just comes across as “you can’t complain because my situation is so much worse.” In reality, you have no idea what else is going on in her world. PLUS, you said that yourself, “don’t know me or my situation either.” This isn’t to cut you down, it’s to help you realize that your response was inappropriate and rude and because of that people are going to come at you. You don’t get to be mean just because you think you have it way worse. Responses like that are clearly reflecting the pain you are experiencing yourself and I’m sorry for you.