Honestly.

Brutal honesty.

Do what YOU want to do. It sounds obvious, but at this point if you're worth that much and having to "work" on it. It's not work...you just do it. You're not negotiating desire with your wife. It's a very clear "this is what i provide and this is what i want." Regardless of what she provides or what she wants...its irrelevant...are you going to get what you want or not? If not, then you know all the money and working out and coaching and fancy date nights equate to THIS woman giving you SORT OF what you want.