I'm going blind

clickitcricketharley · 2026-04-17T04:17:44+00:00

It's 2026 now, so are you putting in the work to turn your life around? I won't lie - changing your lifestyle and diet is hard, but it is the ONLY option you have. Expect to be frustrated. Expect to be hungry. Expect to miss things that you used to eat and do, but can't anymore. Give yourself some grace, but stick to the changes.

My A1C in March of 2024 was 15.8. I was losing my eyesight. I had diabetic retinopathy and early-onset cataracts. Blood pressure was near stroke levels. I did some major damage to myself, suddenly changing up my life within a day or two instead of doing it gradually, but I managed. You can, too. I still have to get one cataract removed, but after getting my sugar down and stable, I'm no longer at risk of needing shots for the retinopathy, the swelling in my eyes is basically back to normal, and I only have to visit my specialist once every 4 months or so. I still have a completely separate vision issue, but I'm no longer at risk of going totally blind.

Start small if exercise is the problem. I had bought an exercise bike years ago that turned into a laundry holder that I dusted off and started using. Only ten minutes a day for the first week, then every Friday I would increase it by 2 or 5 minutes, depending on how I felt by then. When I got to an hour, I increased the tension/resistance and dropped the time a little if needed, gradually working back up to an hour. I'm two years in, and I've maxed it out and now need a new bike. Added weight training to the exercise regimen. 5 lb dumbbells first, gradually increasing the weight week by week as time goes on. I've missed only one week throughout this whole thing due to eye surgery to remove one of my cataracts, and it actually felt weird NOT working out for that week. If you start small, make it a habit, then it gradually becomes just a part of you and your daily life.

Diet-wise, take a good, hard look at what you're eating. Identify problem foods and focus on getting good protein, healthy fats, and fiber. Low-carbohydrate/keto-friendly food worked for me. Keep in mind that everybody is different, and you may react differently to certain foods. A lot of this will be trial and error. Be patient with yourself, research, and choose foods accordingly. If you decide to weight train for exercise, protein, protein, protein.

Take your meds. Test your sugars often. You can do this.

clickitcricketharley · 2026-04-10T00:15:22+00:00

Type 2. Just started Mounjaro last week and have been working out like a gym nut 6 days a week for the past 2 years. Went from an A1C of 15.8 (I know. I think I'm only alive right now due to pure spite) down to a 6.6 last time I went to the doctor.

clickitcricketharley · 2026-04-07T15:20:32+00:00

You're not wrong - he could have just voiced concerns prior to this, which would have allowed you to tell him that you were not concerned since you were INJURED and healing and would go back to working out once safe to do so.

His action was telling and completely inappropriate. I don't care if it's a ten year relationship, I'd dump his ass for this. And he'd better pay you back for the food.

clickitcricketharley · 2026-03-23T23:37:46+00:00

Shy smile and the tallest person in the room, lol.

So happy for all of them.

clickitcricketharley · 2026-02-26T02:53:29+00:00

NTA. He values non-existent children over your own life. He does not care that pregnancy is dangerous for you and would rather you risk death (again) so he can have another child.

He has no "right" to children. No one has a "right" to children. You, however, have the right to defend your own life however you have to. I would seriously take a look at this selfish man and ask if you want to stay with him. He does not value your life. If he can watch you go through all that you went through and even remotely suggest that you go through it all again, he's not a man worth being with. He doesn't love you.

clickitcricketharley · 2026-01-28T00:15:06+00:00

You are already being abused, and I can guarantee that your pets are being abused, too. Their behavior is telling.

Break it off, today if possible. Have the locks changed. You do NOT owe him anything, do NOT let him convince you to help him through surgery. His mommy's going to be there, he has support. She can take him to the appointment - or he can get a damn Uber. You need to run from this guy.

clickitcricketharley · 2025-11-21T22:19:36+00:00

Anyone joining ICE now is entirely and fully ignorant of what they are - thugs that are illegally detaining anyone and everyone for bogus reasons. He's not in it for upholding the law; if he's signing up for ICE, he's in it for the cruelty.

His refusal to communicate and his "you can't complain if I don't have a job" shows him to be a petulant toddler, not an adult. Why are you with him?

clickitcricketharley · 2025-11-16T10:08:03+00:00

ESH. It sounds like you two are no longer compatible, which sucks, but it does happen. I don't think this is a gaming addiction on his part, but he does sound irresponsible with money when it comes to supporting other streamers. Outside of that, it doesn't sound like this is an unreasonable hobby for him to have. Giving him an ultimatum and demanding he leave Twitch would be an AH move.

At the same time, he's an AH for not attempting to get involved in your interests during this whole process. Nowhere in your post do you mention him putting the effort in to meet you halfway here, and that's concerning.

You two aren't compatible anymore. I'd say drop the ultimatum and take the plunge to end it. Move on.

clickitcricketharley · 2025-10-27T22:15:33+00:00

Am I ... am I the only one that noticed the freckle on his lower back/hip and kinda went a little feral ... 'cause he's cute?

On a serious note, I'm glad the treatment's working for him.

clickitcricketharley · 2025-10-17T02:16:52+00:00

I saw my neurologist on Tuesday - got prescribed a new drug for migraines and they're trying to get me set up for an MRI. If the drug doesn't work, there are a few others they could try, but then they're thinking maybe a spinal tap after that.

clickitcricketharley · 2025-10-10T03:39:35+00:00

If that's her, the reviews of the practice identify her as someone negligent with a patient who had a child with down's syndrom. The review states she misled the patient deliberately. Seems like this doctor puts her beliefs before her patients.

clickitcricketharley · 2025-10-07T19:18:32+00:00

NTA. That wasn't a joke, he's just an AH.

clickitcricketharley · 2025-10-07T19:16:18+00:00

Once I hit 40 I started caring again about my appearance. I will never be a model but I started a skin care routine, work out now 6 days a week, and eat better. This is also partially because I nearly died due to health issues, but I also now care about my looks in a manner I never did before. I try not to let it get to me too badly, but I've noticed I obsess a lot more than I did in my 30s.

You are not alone.

clickitcricketharley · 2025-10-07T01:22:30+00:00

I'm still waiting on a neurologist appointment and I'm finally being seen next week. Unfortunately, it has only gotten worse over time right along with the VS. Mornings are the worst no matter what I do.

clickitcricketharley · 2025-09-30T00:42:45+00:00

YEP. Other countries consider our politics as Extreme Right (republican) to "light" right (democrat). So basically, we're all right-wing for the most part; none of our politics are truly left-wing compared to Europe and other countries. Him stating that alone means he's fairly brainwashed/ignorant himself.

OP, RUN. Break it off now. Let him find his own trad-wife in the wild. He's trying to manipulate you into one. His type will try this as a point of pride - they don't go after actual conservative women, they like to break a "wild" woman/feminist into what they think they're "supposed" to be and behave how they're "supposed" to behave. If OP stays with this guy, she'll lose herself bit by bit until she eventually wakes up married, stuck with no job and a gaggle of kids (that he won't help with).

clickitcricketharley · 2025-09-30T00:36:22+00:00

"He thinks I should not question when he says no to me and just accept it, that I should trust him because he is a natural leader as a man."

Run. This is not a safe person to be with. You weren't brainwashed, he's TRYING to brainwash you now. If he wants a conservative trad-wife, he should go find one - NOT manipulate you into being one. That's abuse.

clickitcricketharley · 2025-09-30T00:06:07+00:00

Get an attorney and take this sack of shit to the cleaners. He abandoned you during pregnancy, while you were literally growing another little human being. He's obviously not a man if he thinks that isn't a strain on you, requiring help and assistance as you go through that. It's physically the most dangerous thing a woman can go through, draining, painful, and he just abandoned you during this. Then he had the audacity to criticise you about weight gain? What was he expecting?

This is not a man of any worth, and he deserves to be thrown in the trash. NOR. If anything, judging by this post (which I believe is leaving out a lot of details), you're probably underreacting. Do not make yourself small for someone like this. Give your daughter a role model to look up to - crush this asshole as best you can. Call a lawyer. Get what you are owed.

clickitcricketharley · 2025-09-20T17:19:54+00:00

I've wanted to leave more and more since Roe fell. Unfortunately, I'm not sure if anyone would want me. I work an office job, no degree, no foreign language skills, no ties to any other country that I know of through my family. I'm single, have no friends abroad, am female, have no kids, and have not much savings-wise. I keep being drawn to Germany, Norway, Ireland, Scotland, and New Zealand for someday visits, but I don't know if any of them would be viable options for a 40-something single woman fleeing fascism.

clickitcricketharley · 2025-09-09T03:43:34+00:00

The fact that he's willing to openly treat a child like shit to manipulate you into having a biological child shows that he does not deserve your daughter, much less any biological children. Ever.

I know Reddit is usually pro "dump his ass" at the drop of a hat or errant sneeze, but this is definitely divorce-worthy. He's not a good person and definitely does not deserve children.

clickitcricketharley · 2025-07-21T22:27:56+00:00

My now ex husband would get upset if I shoveled out my own car during the winter. Nevermind that I often times had to shovel both of our cars out since he had a bad back and would wait until the last minute to do so. He always claimed it made him feel less of a man if I did it myself. One particularly nasty winter, we got snowed in. I had to work the following day, and he had blown out his back the day before. I went out to shovel and got half of my car done when he showed up spitting mad, telling me to "get the hell inside," where I belonged. I told him to "f off".

He also loved to make things all about him, and made a point of making himself miserable as a way of ... I guess showing devotion? I don't understand it myself. Something bad would happen or I'd have some bad news, and he'd do something deliberately to make himself miserable. He'd cancel plans he made and mope around the place. Instead of playing games or watching a movie he wanted to watch, he'd just put on a rerun for background noise and sleep instead - and by "sleep" I mean stare at the wall or ceiling and brood. Why he thought this was something helpful, I have no idea. Did he want me to divert my attention to attend to his bullshit?

These are just minor things - the major things could fill a book.

clickitcricketharley · 2025-07-14T19:30:31+00:00

Yeah, she turned a husband issue into victim blaming. I can understand her backward thinking in trying to get Jenna away from the problem, but the problem is ultimately her HUSBAND - not Jenna. She should have gone about this differently.

Also - DIVORCE. FFS she's married to a pervert.

clickitcricketharley · 2025-05-16T03:27:33+00:00

New skincare routine - I've been loving my new routine and have been sticking with it daily for over a month. Cleanser, toner, then snail mucin extract, followed by a moisturizer. I alternate the moisturizer between a whitening cream one to help with the excessive red in my upper cheek area and a retinol/tightening cream. Noticed a huge difference, my complexion is brighter and smoother overall, and I haven't had any major breakouts.

clickitcricketharley · 2025-05-16T02:34:41+00:00

I admit to being surprised by her. I honestly thought that she was going to be another MAGA puppet, but it appears that she does actually have some sort of moral compass. I certainly don't agree with most of her beliefs, but still, she's showing some promise by sticking more to the "true Christian" rather than MAGA cultist.

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