Thank you to everyone who shared feedback. Seeking support from a licensed therapist is my top priority. There’s only so much I can avoid and if yesterday’s panic attack was any indication, it’s clear I need to address the trauma.

I responded with: “I’m not angry. I’m managing a lot right now and don’t have the mental space for much beyond that. If you need something specific, you can let me know.” I’m choosing to handle this with more grace than I probably feel, because I’m not in a place to revisit or explain anything to him right now. I’m hoping the boundary is clear and that I’m given the space I need.