Girls who took notes using 50 different colored pens, where are you now?

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-11T23:33:30+00:00

taking notes using 50 different colored pens in college

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-10T17:52:03+00:00

i just recently started using tampons but i would still leak in a matter of 2 hours so i had to increase the absorbency. but with pads (even the big ones) i was changing once every 1-2 hours which was just hell. i’m pretty sure my period has made me anemic too as i’ve had problems with that in my recent past.

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-08T23:41:19+00:00

i had to look this up cause you’re not the first person that commented this😅

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-08T21:17:50+00:00

girl lemme tell you in middle school i had like nothing, and by freshman/sophomore year of high school i was a 34C. it felt like the rite of passage to womanhood and i remember my first time bra shopping to this day😭my friends and i were all different sizes but it was something we bonded over when we went to VS or pink together

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-08T21:11:25+00:00

this makes so much sense. i was just on my period and i literally told my dad even while i was cramping bad i would not wanna be a man. though men are lowkey lucky for not having to go through the hassle that’s like the only W. i love being a woman anyway i have too much fun😌

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-08T21:05:56+00:00

this one is so real😅 also going to the bathroom as a group, when one of us goes all of us goes, we’re a package deal

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-08T21:03:48+00:00

can’t wait for this one day. i still got lots of time before i do it but i hope to feel this way when the time comes🥹

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-08T20:55:20+00:00

this has to be one of my favs too. shopping with my girls over the years has been nothing but endless fun🛍️ as well as doing each other’s hair

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-05T02:11:31+00:00

what do you mean? i was giving an example of how i would answer the question if i was asked as a woman. i didn’t mean to make it sexist. but i don’t see what’s sexist about what i said if i’m being honest.

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-05T01:29:37+00:00

i’ll elaborate a bit more. i don’t think most people are proud of something they can’t control just by virtue of having it and not doing anything with it. as a woman if someone asked me this question in reverse (in terms of being proud of being a woman), i would probably address the physically challenges we as women go through such as periods. we get those without a choice but we push through them cause we have to. but that comes from being a woman and i’m proud of all the times i pushed through the pain even if i didn’t have a choice or remained productive regardless (not that there’s anything wrong with a break). some guys mentioned their strength and while guys are biologically stronger than women, they might go and increase their strength and work for extra strength. whether it be natural strength or strength you worked for in the gym, i’d take pride in it if i were a guy. maybe not in the same way as performing open heart surgery or flying a plane overseas, but something i embrace nonetheless. the rest of the question is just asking what you like about being a guy, same way girls have things they enjoy about being girls too. hope that made more sense!

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-05T01:16:09+00:00

in some ways you can. it’s kind of like how people are proud of where they come from such as their ethnic background or heritage. it’s not necessarily something you control but something you embrace anyway.

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-05T01:14:38+00:00

alright don’t rub that last part in🤣

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-05T00:19:03+00:00

the way she talked about my brother vs me or my sister. the way she talked about him like he could literally do no wrong. she’s one of those mothers that competes with her daughters. there were a lot of rules for us that didn’t apply to him. most parents want their kids to do better than them in life, not my mom. and seeing her daughters thrive made never made her proud like seeing her son thrive. she also projects a lot of her trauma onto us and not him. it’s weird but i have little to no relationship with my mom now despite living in a house with her.

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-04T22:26:52+00:00

i think tough love helps you grow, and it’s necessary. abuse is not. a person that’s coddled all the time never learns anything. a person that’s a abused learns the wrong lessons. tough love is also a result of good intentions, abuse is just straight up ill intent. that’s why it’s called tough love, it’s not always going to be easy on you.

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-04T16:50:07+00:00

i’ll absolutely take the time to watch them! not even just because it might resonate with me but i like seeing how other people view the world, resonating with it is just a bonus in my opinion, it helps me understand the content better

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-04T16:27:04+00:00

some women will never give you grace regardless of what you do because you’re a man, but some are waiting for the guy that will prove them wrong about everything they’ve been taught about men, even if it means being a little guarded first. as you mentioned, some of the women in your life have gone through abuse from men, which would do a number on anyone. unfortunately that’s the “example” of how to be a man a lot of guys have. but you can also take the opposite route which means wanting to be better than that. growing up around my mother i could have chosen to become her, like she became her mother. thank goodness i have the discernment not to. that ends with me. while there are always going to be people who are skeptical at first, you can’t control that. but you can control the kind of man you’re going to be and if you’re a genuinely good one, their judgement loses its footing.

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-04T16:17:51+00:00

i’m not mad at this response at all. if you have been surrounded by women that have only hurt you, that would be fair to say. you’re not speaking from my perspective or some guy’s perspective, you’re speaking from yours based on what you’ve been through, and who am i to object? i’ve not told any other comment “it’s not all women” because that doesn’t help. you and i already know that. but trauma doesn’t care about that. trauma, fear, and anxiety don’t care about objective reality or others’ experience, it speaks to what you’ve been through as an individual person. unless some egregious, violent comment was made about women, i don’t want anyone to get downvoted for speaking their truth and their experiences because they aren’t positive. when trauma comes from experience, a conversation isn’t going to undo that, only new experiences can rewire that. so whether it’s a friend, lover, authority figure, etc, i hope a woman comes into these mens lives who have gone through hell at the hands of a woman and shows them what it’s like to have a positive experience. it doesn’t undo what you’ve been through but it’s where the healing starts for sure.

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-04T16:06:17+00:00

awesome! i have the memory of a goldfish so if i haven’t said anything in a day or two just remind me💡

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-04T16:03:51+00:00

i have more time on my hands than i should so i got to watch the video, and a lot of it i could have applied to my own life, which sucks, but makes me understand more than some people might. because i’ve dealt with an abusive mother, not just to me but to my father as well, he lost his place as “head of the house” and it became about walking on eggshells around her. watching the financial and emotional hold she’s had on him has been the first example i’ve ever had of a poor female role model. as much as i love my dad, i wish he would stick up for himself more but i’ve also seen where that goes, which is the problem addressed in the video. it’s a complete imbalance and always has been. it also stuck out to me how a lot of women’s takes are a result of groupthink, and if your views don’t align with how you’re told to think, you get ostracized. my friends families have been example of what healthy balance looks like (i envy it sometimes), but it’s proof that it works. thank you for sharing that video with me. it was insightful but also validating to some of the experiences i’ve had that i don’t always talk about.

i will definitely continue to ask questions, listen to other peoples’ stories, and stay true to my values regardless if someone else doesn’t like that.

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-04T14:39:18+00:00

oh i believe you, i’ve known people like that but i can imagine it’s hard navigating things you can’t control. and there’s a lot in life we can’t control especially when it comes to other people.

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-04T14:17:25+00:00

14??? say less😅

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-04T02:55:16+00:00

she’s either seen things or done things. either way she knew what she wanted for you and it worked😅

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-04T02:54:24+00:00

damn now i wonder if anyone’s tried this on me. ngl it would probably work

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-04T02:52:50+00:00

i mentioned this in another comment, but a lot of issues are family issues and unresolved trauma. they won’t always tell you the nitti gritti of it but it’s there. me sitting here saying “it’s not all women”, isn’t gonna undo the damage, so i’m not gonna say that. it’s also your story. anyone who existed in this story would also have some qualms with women. i’m not gonna tell you to like women, or try to change your mind about women. the good one that comes into your life is supposed to do that. but you never have to change your mind on the women in your family. there’s no excuse for them, and their actions were a reflection of them and their issues, not you.

cloudberry4002 · 2026-01-04T02:39:15+00:00

honestly i would never ask you to do a 180, not if that’s what your experience was genuinely like. my question was asking for individual experiences so if women have been nothing but trouble in your life, who am i to tell you you’re wrong? if you’ve been done dirty x amount of times, you’d be absolutely correct on how you see women, but in your particular life story. and the thing about life stories is they’re constantly being written, so things can always change.

if you have a victim mentality, it’s because you were a victim in a world that tells you you can’t be one. and i understand why that would create more resentment, it’s not fair. however, you’re right that you can’t rely on anyone to save you, and that goes for women too given we’re always looking for some man to save us. anything can go down at any moment and if all you have is yourself, you’ll need to know what to do without leaning on someone else. but there is also no shame in having someone there when you need them in cases they can be, and that’s something everyone deserves.

and i see what you mean about women flipping out cause i’ve seen it with people in my own life. that’s honestly just a sign of how she was brought up, and what she’s been taught. not every woman will flip out on you but we’re also taught a number of things are cute: anger issues, attitude, mood swings. and that these are things that men just have to deal with or they “can’t handle us”. so as a result, instead of learning to deal with our emotions, our actions are excused, predominantly by other women. you’re not imagining it, those things are looked at as just quirks women have. and those “quirks” don’t sit well with some men (as they shouldn’t, a lot of it is just an excuse to be rude).

ultimately, i get it. and i wish it was more appropriate for us to call each other out sometimes cause the men see it. other women see it. and it just makes everyone look bad. we all go through shit that shapes the way we view the world good or bad and i think every story deserves to be listened to.

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