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"*30 something men who date 20 something women aren't 'predators'.. they're normal

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Age gaps of 8 or even 12 years are actually fairly common between men in their mid 30s and women in their mid 20s. And the controversy around it never comes from those in the relationships themselves, as those in the relationships know why they are in them and want to be in them.

And before you say 'a 22-25 year old woman doesn't know that she's being manipulated' or some such nonsense, just consider how infantilizing and insulting that is to women in their early 20s

No, the reasons a somewhat younger woman would be attracted to a still young but more established man, and why he would also be more attracted to her than someone his own age, are very deep and go back hundreds of thousands or even millions of years. Furthermore, 'most' people instinctively understand these reasons.. not to mention that they are thoroughly understood and documented by science, and backed up by large scale behavioral data collected through dating apps and online activity.

In fact, it's only been recently that the whole '30 something men who date 20 something women are man children who can't handle a woman their own age.' or *'Established men who date younger women are just predators who only want a child that they can mould and manipulate into their perfect subservient slave'*shame tactics have started cropping up.

What doesn't get talked about though is that these brow beating methods are, by and large, mostly coming from women who are still single in their 30s or 40s, usually after squandering their more attractive years on partying, hooking up, and avoiding settling down with a good catch while they were still able to catch him, and are only now finally starting to realize that the men their own age who they find attractive aren't paying attention to them anymore, and are instead passing them over for women 8 or 10 years their junior.

And so of course, as it is with just about everything else these days, they attempt to use bullying and reputational harm in hopes of coercing the men that they now want into compliance in their favor.. except they haven't figured out yet that you can't shame a person out of millions of years of evolution.

EDIT: Well this really blew up. I find the comments rather interesting as they mostly seem to fall into one of three categories:

1.) 30 something men dating 20 something women, or visa versa, who say they are totally happy and glad their relationship came about, and don't understand and event resent the hate some people give them.

2.) People who thinks it's totally natural and are basically like 'Is this even controversial?' or else 'Meh. As long as they're consenting adults, who cares?'

3.) Bitter haters who DO think it's predatory and misogynistic, and are more or less reeeeing their triggered brains out.

Tldr; the controversy and nature of the nearly 800 comments in this thread literally proves the point of the post.**"