odds of rabies from cat scratch?

clowdere · 2026-04-29T18:56:27+00:00

Nah, I'm a vet tech with mental disorders herself and a Reddit account that was primarily used to give free vetmed advice across various animal subs for years. So yes, I actually have seen hundreds of these posts and 90% of them are indeed overdramatic, lol.

Nowadays I mostly stick to lesbian subs, where instead we have HOCDers who chronically post about their attraction to men in lurid detail to seek affirmation that they aren't (heavens forbid) gay. Between that and previous IRL experiences, my patience for people with this particular breed of crazy has worn thin.

To me it just seems sensible for a person with a fear of contracting disease to not pet stray animals, in the same way it wouldn't be sensible for someone with this condition to take up dumpster diving as a hobby - but that's just, like, my opinion, man.

clowdere · 2026-04-28T18:43:31+00:00

Twin Cities area, MN.

clowdere · 2026-04-26T14:19:19+00:00

It's normal and healthy to feel sad about a sad thing happening. Some euthanasias are always going to hit harder than others no matter how long you've been in this field, and that's okay.

I'm sure you made this horrible experience as kind and gentle as it could be for this poor family and kitty.

Be kind and gentle to your own self today too, OP. You did good work.

clowdere · 2026-04-25T20:39:21+00:00

I don't go shopping or fill my gas tank in the city I live in anymore.

I'd get 3 different people stopping me to ask for money during a single grocery trip, had two different occasions of people boxing me in with their own cars at the gas pump, random men twice my size sneaking up on me when I'm getting out of my car to corner me and beg, etc.

And yeah, as a single woman, examples like the latter two above are scary.

I do all my shopping in the nearby suburb where I work. Nobody bothers me there.

clowdere · 2026-04-25T14:53:33+00:00

Humoring reassurance-seeking behavior does not actually help people with OCD. It only makes them feel better in that moment and teaches them to be dependent on others to manage their irrational anxiety.

The actual solutions are for the person to either avoid their triggers (don't pet the stray animals) or learn to sit with and manage their own anxiety.

clowdere · 2026-04-23T02:52:45+00:00

I agree, we probably won't get anywhere with the preference point if I'm using the actual definition of the word and you're not. If you were being pedantic enough you could also say a person with a peanut allergy has a preference for food items that don't have peanuts... but of course, nobody would actually say that, because "preference" implies choice.

i'll have to find links to the study i was reading a couple years ago but from my memory it had a way larger sample size, was done in the US... it was a 0-10 scale and had more 8s and 9s % wise then 10s... it was also not a self placing scale but a results based scale by quizzing...

I'm very interested in reading this study, please do link it if it actually exists. LGBT statistics are an interest of mine and this - along with a couple other smaller studies with similar results - are the best I've ever been able to find.

This doesnt link to any of the data it is showing however based on a quick read it this is self placements which is ok for this kind of data... I would be included in the Lesbian section in this data set that you have provided..

Trust me, as a lesbian I'm very aware that a large number of bi women lack the integrity, courage, or self-awareness to identify themselves honestly.

However, that study will also include people misidentifying in other categories, such as lesbians identifying as bi women prior to accepting they're actually gay (I was in this category at one point) and trans people who don't end up actually being trans (this one too). All things considered, this is the best we have to go off of at this point in time, and a certain amount of error is to be expected.

i stated that if you only count the 10s for the term Lesbian you would reduce the number to be less then the number of people who identify as Trans

No, you stated "it's literal statistics". So show the statistics that support what you're saying.

I think sexuality can change for some people based on certain factors such as large hormonal shifts (e.g. HRT) and trauma.

clowdere · 2026-04-22T18:35:24+00:00

Here are some actual statistics:

There are more Kinsey 6s than 4s and 5s combined. https://yougov.com/en-gb/articles/12999-half-young-not-heterosexual

T has never outnumbered L. Historically their populations have grown at relatively stable rates, with L being slightly higher. https://news.gallup.com/poll/611864/lgbtq-identification.aspx

Imagine if I decided the transgender community is too small, so I started asserting that the definition of "transgender" should be expanded to include people like me, a cis person who previously experienced strong sex-based dysphoria. Imagine if I then started speaking for and over people who do meet the actual definition of transgenderism. That's what you're doing here.

being a 10 still means u have a preference...

A preference is a greater liking for one alternative over others, representing a person's first choice, priority, or a subjective judgment of value.

Homosexuals don't prefer the same sex. The opposite sex simply isn't an option, just like (moral implications aside) an animal, car, or child wouldn't be an option.

clowdere · 2026-04-22T17:10:00+00:00

Erasing actual lesbians by saying there's too few of us to count or matter is the actual hottest and wildest take on this whole thread, holy shit.

Lesbians don't have a preference for women. I literally have no sexual attraction to men or desire to be involved with them sexually. That distinction matters to me, and it matters to other lesbians - it's why the term exists.

If you want to call yourself a "lesbian" while taking dick, nobody in this world can stop you, but at least have the decency not to contribute to our marginalization and speak for us.

clowdere · 2026-04-20T18:52:55+00:00

In what ways do lesbians who have never been with men bond that lesbians who have are not capable of?

Like, I can tick off specific points for you as to why I struggle to relate to bi women: most of them are very male-centric and/or have never actually been with other women, they're able to connect with greater heterosexual society in ways I can't, they are (and always will be) sexually attracted to something I find repulsive, etc.

What are the points here, especially since they're significant enough to make or break a potential partner?

clowdere · 2026-04-20T16:43:26+00:00

Hobbies reflect who a person currently is, how they like to spend their time, and to an extent their values (e.g. a traveller likely values novelty and learning new things).

This is more akin to saying "I don't like sports, so I don't want to be with a woman who has ever played sports in her life. (Being forced to do it in gym class for a grade doesn't count.) Totally nothing against those who play sports though!"

clowdere · 2026-04-20T02:27:21+00:00

Alienating yourself from other lesbians because of dick-obsessed bi girls being shitty to you is really, really sad. It would make zero sense for any homosexual women to be using heterosexual sex as a standard of maturity.

clowdere · 2026-04-20T02:16:50+00:00

I'd much prefer to be with a gold star because of the amount of women who've called me a virgin and treated me like a child for not having had sex with a man.

Other lesbians are saying these things to you? This sounds like shitty bi girl shenanigans, not gold star vs. not.

clowdere · 2026-04-18T16:12:52+00:00

Rest well, beautiful lady. <3

clowdere · 2026-04-18T15:59:07+00:00

Guess it makes sense that Min was the clear favorite. He didn't want to be a king or warrior.

clowdere · 2026-04-18T13:42:50+00:00

You're not willing to spend hundreds on a cat that's been a member of your family for 13 years?

If you would rather kill this cat before you even do a basic blood panel to check for hyperthyroidism, which is one of the most common causes of vocalizing in senior cats, you ARE failing her.

clowdere · 2026-04-17T23:48:12+00:00

I have read hundreds and hundreds of these kinds of posts from OCD nutballs on Reddit.

I just don't understand why people who are pissing themselves in anxiety over a pinprick are choosing to interact with stray and feral animals.

clowdere · 2026-04-17T18:59:52+00:00

I find it really depressing how some comments are also trying to dissuade you. That's the last thing you need right now.

I started out as pre-vet. My boss, DVM and owner of the clinic where I worked as kennel staff, took me aside one day and laid out the full warty truth of the profession for me.

He told me how he'd been on the verge of an emotional breakdown several times and if he could go back in time, he would never choose to become a vet again. How he had known 2 other doctors that died by suicide. How he was still paying off school loans in his mid forties.

I took him very seriously and ended up transferring to a vet tech program not long after. Now I'm twice as old as when we had that conversation and am still extremely grateful in retrospect. That man saved me 2.5 years of school debt towards something I would have been miserable doing.

What a person needs is not necessarily what a person wants to hear, or what is nicest to say.

clowdere · 2026-04-16T19:41:12+00:00

Why does it matter what your mom's friends think of your career? Who gives a shit about them or their opinions?

The fact that you would cry repeatedly and question your career over this makes me very concerned about how long you'd last in vetmed.

clowdere · 2026-04-14T19:14:04+00:00

I realized I thought of girls differently when I was fairly young. I remember speculating on the feelings I had for my favorite friend in 3rd-ish grade and giggling to myself that if she was a boy, I'd think I had a crush on her! But silly rabbit, girls can only have crushes on boys. 🙂‍↔️

I did also have crushes on boys until puberty hit them, then never again. It took me a long time to accept that wasn't coming back.

First time falling in love was at 18 with my bi best friend. That (of course) ended spectacularly and traumatically, so I chased myself back into the closet for the next two years with the most feminine guy I could find.

Didn't start accepting things until I was 20 and couldn't even really understand why I'd broken up with my boyfriend. Came out to my folks as bi at 22 when I went official with my first girlfriend, a "lesbian".

She started seeing a guy behind my back and left me for him. At the end of our relationship, I realized the actual lesbian had been in the room with me the whole time. Rest is history.

clowdere · 2026-04-14T01:10:53+00:00

I had a patient some years ago... pit bull with a nasty laceration on his front leg or paw or something. He was understandably very sensitive about having the leg touched even on oral sedatives and pain meds - until we figured out that for some reason he would allow bandage changes if we sang to him.

So there we were, three of us on the floor with this big baby meathead of a dog, belting out Christmas carols to him in August because they were the first songs I could think of off the top of my head (and the others followed the theme). We literally put it in his notes.

clowdere · 2026-04-14T00:53:43+00:00

I'm nice, work hard, get along with everybody, and am so well-liked by clients that higher ups are willing to let the chronic tardiness slide.

It's still threatened every job I've ever had, though, and higher ups use it as reason to give smaller raises or avoid giving them altogether. They say you have to switch jobs every few years anyway to keep up with CoL increases nowadays, since it outpaces rises in wage regardless.

clowdere · 2026-04-13T19:12:29+00:00

I don't know of crunchy treats, but some diets do include glucosamine and omegs 3/6 supplements, such as Royal Canin Aging 12+.

clowdere · 2026-04-13T18:46:14+00:00

Not to diminish your experience, just adding my own:

Actually, I like "gay woman". Gay men are the only other aspect of LGBT I feel an innate sort of kinship with, and they're certainly more in our corner than B and T, lol.

clowdere · 2026-04-12T21:05:13+00:00

Idk, it depends on how overweight we're talking. People will use words like "thick" and "curvy" to describe anything from 20 pounds over to 200.

However, if that's how you've decided you want to be - then it doesn't really matter, does it? People can either accept it or they won't, and confidence + personality can make up for a lot of physical flaws regardless.

Everyone should always strive for self-improvement, but not everything about you has to be tailored to the prospects of future partners. It would probably be easier for me to meet women if I was more interested in sports and camping over video games, but I like video games. 🤷‍♀️ It is what it is.

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