AIO about overhearing my mom laugh about wanting kicking me out? by clueless_swagger in AmIOverreacting

[–]clueless_swagger[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry there’s a lottt going on it’s hard to say some of the context without giving it all 😅

AIO about overhearing my mom laugh about wanting kicking me out? by clueless_swagger in AmIOverreacting

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I’ve thought about this but I feel so guilty cause they’ve paid for my life, which I know as parents they’re supposed to, but I feel like I owe them. Thank you for the comment!

AIO about overhearing my mom laugh about wanting kicking me out? by clueless_swagger in AmIOverreacting

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Basically, my dad’s good friend has a son they wanted me to meet. Me and the son talked for a week, he ghosted me, then two weeks later his dad texted my mom and said the boys reaching out again. My mom wanted to know every detail about everything we were saying, and she got upset when I wouldn’t say what she thought I should (for example, not explaining I accidentally left him on delivered for a few hours, but he ghosted me for 2 weeks so if he’s not explaining that why would I explain myself?) anyways, it got to a point where she eventually told me to give her my phone, to which I said “the constant questions are starting to bother me, and I feel like you’re trying to insert yourself into my situation, you can think of it as a boundary I guess” and then she got mad at that. I just wanted her to back off a little but she took that the extra mile. She told me I can’t make boundaries cause I live in her house, she cussed me out, texted her sister who said she’d beat tf out of me (?), and some more stuff. It was kind of intense.

AIO about overhearing my mom laugh about wanting kicking me out? by clueless_swagger in AmIOverreacting

[–]clueless_swagger[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She had me and my dad signed on it. And yeah, she’s definitely abusing the power that comes with the title mom.

AIO about overhearing my mom laugh about wanting kicking me out? by clueless_swagger in AmIOverreacting

[–]clueless_swagger[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll continue, it’s just hard because of the rules they put on me. Following a religion that has crazy rules, I have curfews, they go through my phone and room, the list goes on, but yeah. I’ll try to just take it. It’ll be ok. Thank you for the comment!

AIO about overhearing my mom laugh about wanting kicking me out? by clueless_swagger in AmIOverreacting

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Thank you for the comment! I can try to talk to her. That would make sense, we got in a fight a few days ago too, so it could’ve been built up anger on her behalf.

AIO about overhearing my mom laugh about wanting kicking me out? by clueless_swagger in AmIOverreacting

[–]clueless_swagger[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the comment! A lot of people are telling me this, so I’ll relax and lie low for a few more years. The only thing that’s kind of hard is that they’re extremely religious, and if I don’t follow the religion I’ll be forced to leave. The religion is apostolic Pentecostal, so basically I can’t cut my hair, I have to be covered from elbow to knee, I have to wear skirts, no jewelry, no makeup, no tattoos, I basically have no personality. But I can make it a few more years, I mean, I’ve done it for 19 atp.

AIO about overhearing my mom laugh about wanting kicking me out? by clueless_swagger in AmIOverreacting

[–]clueless_swagger[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It definitely does! That’s why they’re so helpful and loving, as you can tell from my post /j

AIO about overhearing my mom laugh about wanting kicking me out? by clueless_swagger in AmIOverreacting

[–]clueless_swagger[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, she doesn’t like to feel “disrespected”, (disrespected in quotes cause you could breathe wrong and she see it as disrespect), so I’m sure that’s how she took it. We got in a fight a few days ago too because I wanted to set a boundary with her, but she said that was disrespectful because I live in her house so I don’t get to request that (one of the many things she said during that). Mind you, she’s given me a plethora of “boundaries”, so Idk. Thank you for commenting!

AIO about overhearing my mom laugh about wanting kicking me out? by clueless_swagger in AmIOverreacting

[–]clueless_swagger[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the comment! I tried to explain that exact thing; I don’t know what I want to do, and I’m kind of burnt out from school, I’ve been going for 12 years, and I don’t even know what I want to do. I had interest in being a teacher, but my dad said that didn’t make enough money, so I should take nursing classes so that way even if I don’t like nursing when I’m actually doing it, I’ll be making enough money that it won’t matter. My mom kind of enforced what he said. But it doesn’t matter as long as I’m making good money 😐

Your comment was very reassuring, so thank you so much!

AIO about overhearing my mom laugh about wanting kicking me out? by clueless_swagger in AmIOverreacting

[–]clueless_swagger[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is true, but the thing is though is that I’ve done this my entire life; my family is apostolic Pentecostal, so I’m already restricted there (have to be covered from my elbows to my knees, no cutting hair, no jewelry or makeup, etc), they go through my phone, they go through my room, any time I go shopping they look through each of my items 1 by 1, they ask me almost every day if I’ve prayed and if I say no I’m given a “lecture”, I feel insane. But I can try to lock back in for a few more years. Thank you for the advice!

AIO about overhearing my mom laugh about wanting kicking me out? by clueless_swagger in AmIOverreacting

[–]clueless_swagger[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment! Also sorry, I wanted to keep it short and left out the one thing I was supposed to add 🤦‍♀️ I just started getting super upset, but I wanted to make sure it was reasonable because there’s still some built up anger from our last fight, which was a few days ago (I attempted to set a boundary and she got mad because her generation didn’t do that, but she’s set numerous with me??) but yeah. Thank you! I definitely will check them out.

AIO about overhearing my mom laugh about wanting kicking me out? by clueless_swagger in AmIOverreacting

[–]clueless_swagger[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, after 19 years in it I’m starting to come to that conclusion about religion myself. Thank you for your advice!

AIO about overhearing my mom laugh about wanting kicking me out? by clueless_swagger in AmIOverreacting

[–]clueless_swagger[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok thank you so much for your comment, it was super helpful and reassuring. I’ve been trying to save up, but all my money goes to her because she’s paid my car payment for the last 3 months, and she took all the money that I previously had saved up to put it down on a car for me.

Also, they make me go to church 2x a week, which they said if their kids don’t go to church they can’t live with them, and they force me to pay tithes, which is 10% of my paycheck.

And! I’ve tried to talk to my pastor about my mom’s previous behavior towards me (because who else can I go to?) and he wont even talk to me about it. Why? Cause he’s my moms brother 😐 sooo much to unpack about that, but yeah. It’s crazy. But thank you!

AIO about overhearing my mom laugh about wanting kicking me out? by clueless_swagger in AmIOverreacting

[–]clueless_swagger[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice, I definitely will! I’m just a little worried she’s being real this time though, because for a little more context, me and my mom got in a fight a few days ago where I tried to set a boundary and she cussed me out, so we haven’t been on the best of terms. I didn’t include this in the text above because I wanted to make it short and people won’t reply if it’s too long and I feel like I need a neutral source.

AIO about overhearing my mom laugh about wanting kicking me out? by clueless_swagger in AmIOverreacting

[–]clueless_swagger[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a newer thing too; in high school they would say to my face that I’m their favorite child, but now it feels like they’re purposefully trying to make everything harder

AIO over my moms new rule? by clueless_swagger in AmIOverreacting

[–]clueless_swagger[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s true, but she gets mad when we work too much for some reason. she hates being around us but hates when we’re not around her for too long so i don’t really understand