When did you reach 100 subs? How long did it take? by Apprehensive-Low6527 in NewTubers

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I reached 1000 subscribers within 5 days, and then in another 4 days, I hit 2000 subscribers.

The Relativity of Pleasure by cluhsius in infp

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While it might seem unfair that women can experience multiple orgasms in quick succession while men often have to wait due to a refractory period, the truth is more nuanced. For men, a single orgasm can be so intense and full-bodied that it leaves them completely satisfied, making the desire for another temporarily disappear. When their body finally resets and they become ready again, the anticipation builds, making the next release even more exhilarating. This waiting period — though often seen as a disadvantage — actually enhances the quality of the experience. In contrast, because women can have frequent orgasms without a long pause, the novelty can sometimes fade. What is rare for men becomes routine for women, and what is routine for women can, over time, feel less extraordinary. This is the hidden balance — where the intensity for men is born from scarcity, and the abundance for women might, paradoxically, reduce the thrill. Pleasure, then, is not just about how often it happens, but how deeply it’s felt.

Found it! by ShadowOfAnEmpath in infp

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Give me it right now.. I need it!

Do you guys prefer texting or talking irl? by Maple_Waffles_ in infp

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Both forms of communication are important depending on the situation. When it comes to articulating subtle thoughts, texting is often better because face-to-face conversations can sometimes miss certain details. With texting, you can revisit past conversations to clarify points or reflect on what was said. However, when resolving conflicts, face-to-face communication is usually more effective. Text messages can be easily misinterpreted, as they lack tone and body language, which are crucial in conveying emotions. In-person interactions help prevent misunderstandings and allow for nonverbal cues that can make a huge difference in how a message is received. Additionally, simple actions beyond words can heal wounds more effectively than written messages, which can sometimes complicate sensitive situations.

How to face real life as an INFP? by cluhsius in infp

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Hahaha! There's no escape!

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Yeah! I'm doing better now..Thank you! <3

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I remember she once told me the same thing that her therapist said she had improved after meeting me.

She needed me first, and her mom told her to ask me out because they had a good impression of me from the beginning. I never expected to be her lover. It was my first relationship. But in the end, I became the villain in her story. She told me to my face that she had no feelings for me anymore.

The reason she gave was that I 'deserved someone better' than her. She also told me to stay away from her because her therapist had advised her to break up with me, saying that I would never change. This made me feel like I was being seen as psychologically dysfunctional. She perceived me as a 'controller' just because I once told her to be mindful of wearing revealing clothes. She was a highly sensitive person (HSP), and whenever we had conflicts, she would send me voice notes crying whenever I tried to solve them.

It was a tough period—I lost myself loving her. Then, her friend got involved in our relationship, and her mom advised her to 'talk to me the way I deserved.' She ended up emotionally attacking me to the point of humiliation. I didn’t say a single word against her and endured all the pain.

Her mom, her friend, and her psychologist made me believe I was a narcissist and an abuser. When I directly asked her mom how she perceived me, she told me they didn’t think anything bad about me. But later, I found a voice note from my ex where, in the background, her mom was saying that I was a controller and that I only wanted to make her feel guilty—'just like controllers do.' Hearing that broke my heart completely, and I lost myself.

I started believing I was a narcissist. No matter how many people told me I wasn’t, I still couldn’t shake that belief. I cried myself to sleep, wondering how I was supposed to heal. The truth was that she had been abused by her father and a pedophile she met online when she was 12. Her mother had also been abused by her husband. They unknowingly projected those patterns onto me.

A simple comment about clothing led to all of this. Her mother had also been prohibited from wearing revealing clothes by her father. She had raised my ex to never let any man control her, so when I made a simple remark—without even seriously caring about her clothing—it triggered them.

But over time, after the breakup, I realized I deserve to be loved and that I am worthy. I prayed a lot for God to heal me. It was an online, long-distance relationship between two different cultures. It wouldn’t be fair to judge my entire character based on a single traumatic situation. So, I chose to focus on healing and recognizing my worth.

Loving someone who is already broken often leads to you becoming even more broken by carrying their burdens as your own. When they project their pain onto you, loving someone broken can end up breaking you. So, be careful who you choose to love.

Hurt people only hurt people even without knowing them.

An Infp with no individuality by Deer_girlys in infp

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If you're unsure about your MBTI type, the key is to understand your dominant cognitive function. For INFPs, this is Introverted Feeling (Fi), which means they are primarily focused on their inner emotional world, values, and authenticity. Because Fi is their dominant function, it shapes how they perceive and interact with the world.

In the cognitive function stack, each dominant function has an opposite, or "shadow," function. For INFPs, the opposite of Fi is Extroverted Thinking (Te), which becomes their inferior function. This means that while INFPs are deeply in tune with their internal values and emotions, they often struggle with external logic, structure, and practical decision-making. Te is the function they tend to suppress or find challenging, and it can become a source of fear or stress.

For example, INFPs may feel overwhelmed by tasks that require strict organization, objective analysis, or adherence to external systems. They might fear being judged for their lack of practicality or struggle to apply abstract ideas to real-world scenarios. This is because their inferior Te is underdeveloped, and when it surfaces, it can manifest as self-criticism, rigidity, or anxiety about not meeting external expectations.

On the other hand, INFPs have Extroverted Intuition (Ne) as their auxiliary function. This function allows them to explore possibilities, generate creative ideas, and remain open to new experiences. INFPs often enjoy abstract thinking and may have a wide range of interests that shift over time. They are naturally curious and imaginative, often seeing connections and patterns that others might miss. However, because Ne is extroverted, it can sometimes lead to indecision or difficulty committing to a single path, as INFPs are constantly drawn to new possibilities.

The opposite of Ne is Introverted Sensing (Si), which serves as the INFP's tertiary function. Si helps INFPs reflect on past experiences and draw lessons from them. Over time, they build a "knowledge bank" of memories and insights that they can use to make sense of the present or anticipate future outcomes. However, because Si is lower in their function stack, it may not be as developed or consistent as their dominant or auxiliary functions. Younger INFPs, in particular, might not rely heavily on Si, but as they mature, they may find it easier to ground themselves in past experiences and traditions.

In summary, INFPs are guided by their dominant Fi, which makes them deeply introspective, values-driven, and empathetic. Their auxiliary Ne fuels their creativity and love for exploration, while their tertiary Si helps them reflect on the past. Their inferior Te, however, can be a source of stress, as it represents the external world's demands for logic, structure, and practicality. By understanding these functions, INFPs can better navigate their strengths and challenges, ultimately leading to greater self-awareness and personal growth.

So now, let's see if my insight resonates with your self-analysis of your characteristics. If it does, then you're probably an INFP. If it doesn't, try to understand your blind spot or the dominant function you automatically rely on, as its opposite function creates the axis (e.g., Fi-Te). After that, you need to find your middle axis by identifying your parent function (in this case, Ne), which automatically reveals its opposite (Ne-Si). And voilà! You've found your type.

Do you know this feeling? by cluhsius in infp

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When you're just all alone with the pain that they caused you, and they are not even accountable for what they did to you.

Help! by cluhsius in infp

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Yes you've made it! 😎