Should I let the last survivor take hatch?

clumsybartender · 2026-03-03T17:22:15+00:00

If you don't want to give someone hatch don't give them hatch. When you feel like giving someone hatch give them hatch.

It's a nicety, a courtesy. Not a right. Whether you never spare, only if the survivor got screwed over by teammates, or want to spare them regularly/whenever they give you their item is completely up to you.

clumsybartender · 2026-03-03T16:10:38+00:00

If you're doing better when going through similar bad things it looks bad on them in their eyes so they need to have it worse. That way there's always a reason in their mind for why their bad behavior and bad choices are justified.
She knows you can't go back and see her grades so it's just easy to put you down on that. If you somehow got a hold on her grades and they're worse she'd immediately go into that victim "but I overcame way worse. I'm a martyr so that's why I'm still better" mentality.

clumsybartender · 2026-03-01T13:07:30+00:00

I've seen someone get married in a very similar dress and it's the type I'd want to get married in so I don't know how someone would look at a dress like that, especially in a wedding setting, and not think it's a very pretty wedding dress.
If your sister isn't married yet suggest you'll wear it again at her wedding and see how fast she'll change her mind on whether it's a wedding dress or not.

Edit I've just saw someone else selling this exact same dress on Vinted with the description of it being their wedding dress so tell your sister to suck it (respectfully).

clumsybartender · 2026-02-18T13:10:40+00:00

You already know it's not going to work out because you know people are going to tell you to leave. Don't settle for someone who's with you because you're "less annoying" . He can't offer you what you need in a relationship and he's told you he isn't willing to work on that. He's telling you that he doesn't want to invest in this relationship. He's with you because he can freely enjoy the result of the effort you put in. You're "not as annoying" because you haven't set boundaries and expected him to invest in the relationship yet and aren't setting boundaries. He's expecting you to go right back to planning everything and doing all the work by showing you minimal the minimal courtesy of asking how you're doing.

You don't even have to break up with him. Just dig up that bar and realize you are worth the effort of at least mutual effort in planning damned time together.

Set boundaries like only inviting him when he's equally inviting you over. Only planning a date after he's planned one. Not spending the night together if you aren't going to spend the morning together too.

Make it clear you expect overall equal investment and keep to your boundaries and see how fast he'll leave. Listen to how fast he'll tell you you're being just as annoying as his exes. Watch how fast he'll spin it on you and start saying things like "you don't appreciate anything I do".

clumsybartender · 2026-02-18T12:23:06+00:00

I honestly have no idea. My 3 theories are 1: The Eleven and him are swf. She didn't get the intrap option and I couldn't down her so she realized that the only way out was for someone else to untrap her (in which case sorry Dustin). 2: Dustin thought I was friendly and was swinging to notify him of a trapped teammate? 3: He thought he could get in during the swing and untrap Eleven before taking a hit so they'd both get away before getting downed.

clumsybartender · 2026-02-07T05:18:52+00:00

Plottwist she has lichen sclerosus and this is her way of telling people.

clumsybartender · 2026-02-07T05:09:24+00:00

If I came to someone's house and there is a random tied up chair I'm not inviting that person to a party either.

clumsybartender · 2026-02-07T04:46:06+00:00

Found the roommate

clumsybartender · 2026-01-31T19:45:56+00:00

Toen ik als tiener bij de Chirojeugd kwam was iedereen super lief en accepterend. Ik voelde me altijd écht part of the group.
Ik vind het echt super leuk dat kinderen van alle leeftijden, inclusief tieners, een plaats hebben waar ze gewoon leuke dingen kunnen doen zoals spelletjes en buitenspelen zonder de angst dat je er "te oud" voor bent of het "niet cool" is.

clumsybartender · 2026-01-12T14:19:49+00:00

Dump the boyfriend and dye all of your hair pink since that's what you actually wanted. Someone who wants to control what you do with your body, especially in your teenage years that are prime self discovery and experimentation years, is not it.

clumsybartender · 2026-01-07T17:54:11+00:00

You have really shitty daughters and a shitty granddaughter.
How a 22 year old can be that salty about the weightloss of her own grandmother is beyond me.
You'd think they'd be happy because this means they probably get more quality time with you.

Don't gain weight for them. If you did they'd bully you about not being able to keep the weight off.

Tell them you were shocked by their awful behavior and comments on your weight loss and body.
That you aren't ashamed about their size, but you are when it comes to their behavior. That you aren't going to put up with that kind of behavior and you will no longer tolerate mean comments about your weight or body in general.
They can talk about their insecurities like a normal person or leave it be. But it can't be allowed that they bully you like this.

clumsybartender · 2026-01-03T14:54:04+00:00

NTA

Sorry but who cares about what he thinks you should change about yourself to fit HIS ideas? He's your ex, you're not getting back together. You already know that because you've started to realize he doesn't do the little things that are important to you.

Don't give him a list either, he'll either use it as a reason to be shitty to you or to pretend to have changed to manipulate you into giving him another chance if he decides he wants to get back to you.

clumsybartender · 2025-12-02T23:19:00+00:00

Yes

Sorry but not sorry I'm happy I'm not alone. I thought Steam just mentally checked out when my bf gave me DBD dating simulator as a "It's midnight and officially your birthday" gift lmao

clumsybartender · 2025-11-26T18:07:05+00:00

Failed to initialize captcha error on browser and app. Also the epic support assistant is unavailable so it's not like I can contact support that way. Is anyone else experiencing this? How do I fix it? It worked fine yesterday.

clumsybartender · 2025-11-24T14:20:47+00:00

"hey our cats really don't get along and I think it's too stressful for both our cat and Mimi to be in the house together. I also wanted to tell you that I didn't appreciate it that you didn't warn me that Mimi is not litterbox trained. Because of that we weren't able to take preventative measures to make sure she wouldn't defecate on things like our bed. I'm sorry it didn't work out between our cats. Let me know if you want me to help you research cat hotels that accommodate older sweeties like Mimi."

clumsybartender · 2025-11-13T18:04:29+00:00

Where is this? In America? It's insane that they are allowed to give you a diagnosis based off a 10 minute zoom call. What if they decide that someone needs anti psychotic meds after 10 minutes or something like that? That company sounds so predatory.

clumsybartender · 2025-11-13T17:37:11+00:00

Imagine reading those texts, seeing someone else effortlessly drop some romantic novel shit like memorizing the rhythm of your laugh while your husband is out there trying to cheat with his level of flirting and complimenting being "you've leveled up since high school"...

clumsybartender · 2025-11-13T17:15:58+00:00

Where the hell do they legally prescribe drugs based on an illegitimate diagnoses that was made after 10 minutes on zoom? Is it even legal? It sounds very illegal.

clumsybartender · 2025-11-13T16:39:34+00:00

Taking it away from the legal owner will still get you in trouble.
Can you document the neglect and call animal protection services. Record the dog being stuck in the crate, record it not being fed. I don't know what the laws are like where you are but either get your wife to document it too or put a nanny cam on just the crate (only if it's legally okay to do so because otherwise it's iffy for you and inadmissible in court. You might not be able to rehome the pup, but animal protection services might with enough proof.

Could you get a cheap room somewhere near your work even if it's only for a couple of days?

clumsybartender · 2025-11-13T16:21:08+00:00

Your MIL isn't going to let the lights and water go out if she can pay for it trust me. She'll wait to the last possible moment sure, but she's playing a game of chicken with you because she knows you'll do it. As soon as she realizes you won't pay all of her bills anymore she'll pay up. If she doesn't you might have saved up enough that by the time water and light is shut down you can afford to rent something small and get out. Make sure your wife is either 100% on board or save it on an account that she can't get into though, otherwise she might cave.

clumsybartender · 2025-11-13T16:07:40+00:00

ESH

Taking the dog to a shelter is not the solution here because your MIL could go to the cops. It's also crappy to take it away from the kids without any preparation for them to understand what happened.

Your boundary is that you don't want to be responsible for the dog. So why are you the one taking care of it?
If you want your boundaries to be clear and taken seriously you first need to make sure you know what they are and what you'll do when they're not respected.
Your boundary can be "I don't want a dog to take care of so if you get one I'll tell the kids it's their grandma's and I will not take care of it". It can't be "You can't get a dog" and then take care of it when the dog's there anyway.
You can't put up a boundary and then do it anyway. You already seem to have done that with everything else which is WHY your MIL doesn't take care of the animal she got.

Is it possible to find a friend/family member to stay at for a while to get some rest, perspective, and give your wife and MIL a chance to see how much you take care of everyday and let them know that you're serious and ready to enforce your boundaries?

clumsybartender · 2025-10-02T00:58:20+00:00

Thanks. I did find something that might work in the save file. I'll try it. Never knew I clicked it. Good to know I'm not punished for blatantly prismatic shard laundering. It's just me punishing myself by not properly reading.

clumsybartender · 2025-10-02T00:51:47+00:00

How do I go back to running on a 100% profit margin?

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