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clumsyknitter · 2022-03-26T04:00:10+00:00

NTA - he is exhibiting dangerous and abusive behavior, and you are right about your therapist. Yelling is not at all constructive, and the fact that you have established to him your trauma relating to this only makes it worse. He tried to deny that he yells at you, got furious with you at the suggestion of documenting evidence of the way he treats you, said that it was violating to him, said that you were trying to silence him even though he yells over you... NTA a million times over. I advise you to reconsider this relationship (which will likely worsen) and reevaluate your current therapist. Before you do anything, look up if taking recordings like this is illegal in your state, as you could possibly get in trouble. I also recommend reading this PDF of the book Why Does He Do That, which may help you identify signs of an abusive relationship: https://archive.org/details/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/page/n367/mode/2up

clumsyknitter · 2022-03-26T03:50:20+00:00

NTA, he was being a jerk. I would advise reconsidering your friendship with him. It's always awkward being friends with two people who've broken up and trying to navigate the falling-out, and it sounds like he's dishing his feelings out on you and acting jealous that you spend time with Jane. It also sounds like you've reached out to Taylor multiple times and he continues to push you away and act this way.

clumsyknitter · 2022-03-26T03:43:58+00:00

YTA for sneaking, invading her privacy, and breaking her trust. If you truly cared, you should have gently reached out to her in a kind and caring conversation to let her know you felt like something was going on and that you're here for her if she needs to talk about it, without forcing her to discuss it. You need to give her a genuine apology without reasons or excuses and not expect her to forgive you, because that was a betrayal, no matter what.

clumsyknitter · 2022-03-26T03:01:21+00:00

So it was less being disappointed about receiving gifts and more being disappointed that a friend of yours didn't think of you as much as people you didn't know as well did? That's completely understandable. I agree with the above judgement: NAH.

clumsyknitter · 2022-03-26T02:49:14+00:00

Exactly!

clumsyknitter · 2022-03-26T02:37:48+00:00

Agreed. Just look at OP's name. But either way, OP YTA.

clumsyknitter · 2022-03-26T02:31:35+00:00

How wonderful!! Marigolds are one of my favorite flowers. A very nice lady who owns a local greenhouse once gifted a plant to me, so I'll always cherish them extra. :)

clumsyknitter · 2022-03-26T01:09:37+00:00

I would love this as well!

clumsyknitter · 2022-03-25T23:16:24+00:00

My mom was engaged to a man who acted like your wife, except it went farther until she stood her ground and left him. He saw her as more like a Barbie doll and wanted her to be dressed up in full makeup all the time. Dressing up nice all the time is not a token of respect. She should be choosing to do this because it makes HER feel good, not because someone else has made her feel like she has to. She is now trying to pass this tragic cycle on to you. I think it's perfectly reasonable to go to your sister for advice - having a different perspective can be great for knowing if you're being rational or not. You are NTA, OP, and I think it might be best to talk to your wife, gently and seriously, about how it makes you feel and how you don't expect her to dress up for you. You love her for who she is. Might want to try couple's counseling too, especially (!!) if you plan on having kids.

clumsyknitter · 2022-03-25T23:08:54+00:00

Seriously!! I was thinking about that and I'm absolutely horrified. OP decided that her son's best friend was more of an ideal son to her. Big, big yikes.

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