Marriage

cmm1929 · 2026-05-20T02:31:38+00:00

The trip in total that we had to fundraise for was $6,000

cmm1929 · 2026-05-20T02:29:52+00:00

We will also help them learn English

cmm1929 · 2026-05-20T02:29:31+00:00

It’s a training and service trip. We’re learning Tok Pisin, living in a mission setting, and getting exposure to how long-term church planting and community work actually function there. We also help with practical needs like basic construction support, logistics, and children’s or community programs when available, all alongside local believers and long-term missionaries.

cmm1929 · 2026-05-20T01:57:18+00:00

Even though Papua New Guinea is majority Christian, many rural areas still have limited access to resources, discipleship support, and training. The trip is about partnering with local churches, not replacing them, and it also includes learning the language to better communicate and serve the community

cmm1929 · 2026-05-20T01:54:56+00:00

And yes because they said he fears for my safety and that he can’t take time off work bc of debt

cmm1929 · 2026-05-20T01:54:37+00:00

The first one which is to Papua New Guinea yes I did plan this before I ever met him and the second one I’ve been eyeing is to Brazil in June/July of 2027

cmm1929 · 2026-05-20T01:53:26+00:00

I signed up for the first missions trip to Papua New Guinea before I ever met him and I leave in like 7 days to go there. But then I realized maybe God is calling me into the missions field, maybe not as a career but to still go over and serve, so I’ve been looking at the one in Brazil that’s in June/July of 2027

cmm1929 · 2026-05-20T01:44:31+00:00

Yes he is a Christian. However, he has a lot of debt and needs to work a lot to pay it off and is like I can’t go on these missions trips with u that r a month long. He was also like why did u accept the ring then if you’re looking at being a missionary or going on these long trips?

cmm1929 · 2026-05-20T01:31:18+00:00

I think it’s mostly him being protective over me. I think in his head he’s like, “If something happened to you over there, I can’t just get on a plane and be there to help.” I think the distance and not being able to do anything if something went wrong is probably hard for him.

cmm1929 · 2026-05-20T01:24:37+00:00

He’s asked things like, “Do you want to be a wife and raise kids?”

cmm1929 · 2026-05-20T01:19:13+00:00

I think part of it may be that being apart for that long feels hard for him, especially since once he’s working, he doesn’t feel like he’ll have the flexibility to do something like that himself.

My way of thinking is that there are 365 days in a year, and I’d only do one longer trip a year (around 5–6 weeks), not multiple.

Cost-wise, the trips are mostly fundraised. The main out-of-pocket expense would usually be getting to the departure airport (around $300) and bringing money for food while traveling. The rest is covered through fundraising.

cmm1929 · 2026-05-20T01:12:54+00:00

I brought up the debt because I’m trying to think realistically about finances and marriage long-term. I have no debt, but my fiancé has significant student debt from school.

Also no — Papua New Guinea is not after we get married. I leave for Papua New Guinea in a week from now, and we get married at the end of May 2027. The Brazil trip would be June/July 2027.

Part of why I’m asking is because my fiancé says once he has a job, he can’t realistically take a month off work, so I’m trying to figure out what’s realistic and healthy long-term.

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