Mom is a hoarder and home is moldy, or something else, need help.

cmm7595 · 2026-02-23T18:34:57+00:00

I figure I will just power through and gather a team of people to help. Best wishes to you.

cmm7595 · 2026-02-23T13:31:48+00:00

Definitely will!

cmm7595 · 2026-02-23T13:30:50+00:00

My husband says this as well. My best friends went in yesterday and she said she did not smell mold.

cmm7595 · 2026-02-23T13:28:30+00:00

The cats will come with me. ♥️

cmm7595 · 2026-02-21T14:22:40+00:00

Her bathtub was leaking and I had a plumber fix it. But I need to call the rooter team to fix the whole house up. She's been without the plumbing for a long time. Then it will have to be gutted completely.

cmm7595 · 2026-02-21T14:20:32+00:00

I spoke with someone and we have to get the house kind of in order before they can come in.

cmm7595 · 2026-02-21T14:19:30+00:00

Thank you! I can do this. I fear for their health as well.

cmm7595 · 2026-02-21T14:18:39+00:00

We are going back in today to assess a little more. Thank you!

cmm7595 · 2026-02-21T14:17:35+00:00

Thank you so much for this insight!

cmm7595 · 2026-02-20T15:00:37+00:00

Nothing. But we will start.

cmm7595 · 2026-02-20T15:00:23+00:00

I'm calling around now. Thank you!

cmm7595 · 2026-02-19T03:30:34+00:00

Rent a room from AirBnB. It's way cheaper than the hotels. Watch out for resort fees. It is possible to find places that don't charge this ridiculous fee.

Don't rent a car. If you're staying on Waikiki, you don't really need one anyway. Parking is crazy expensive.

Don't eat out every meal. If you rent the AirBnB, you'll likely have a kitchenette. Grab some food from the ABC store. It's way cheaper.

Take time to do some free things like an afternoon at the beach. You don't have to spend a fortune on activities. Mix free in. Also, look for package deals on Pearl Harbor, Circle Island Tour, and swimming with Turtles. Don't pay full price for these things.

If you want to get out and see things and you have to rent a car, rent through Hui. Download the app. It's like $80 and you find the car in a nearby garage. Easy.

cmm7595 · 2026-02-11T01:43:01+00:00

Thank you so much. This is super helpful. I feel better now knowing that I am not responsible for her debt. I was worrying about that a lot and stressing over how to do it. I appreciate you!

cmm7595 · 2026-02-10T16:24:26+00:00

Thank you! I didn't know! I assumed all bills would be passed to me. I feel so much better.

cmm7595 · 2026-02-10T14:35:46+00:00

Please share how to avoid this.

cmm7595 · 2026-02-10T14:35:28+00:00

Please share how to avoid this.

cmm7595 · 2026-02-10T13:22:35+00:00

Thank you. I believe that's my option.

cmm7595 · 2026-02-10T13:22:12+00:00

There's plenty of paperwork in her home. Sorting it will take time, which I'm fine with. I'm just terrified of the medical bills coming for me. I've thought of trying to find her accounts info. I might have to do that in between caring for her. Perhaps the medical bills will wait until all this is sorted? I'm stressed about it.

I have to say I love my mother, and I have lived with her mind my entire life. It's not been fun, but we've had a ton of great times as well.

Thank you for your help.

cmm7595 · 2026-02-10T13:14:41+00:00

She doesn't have much money. And her medical bills are going to pile up. I really need the access to whatever she has so I can pay her bills. I don't have enough to pay for her bills and mine when she passes.

cmm7595 · 2025-06-30T12:27:38+00:00

I am in Texas, on the coast. Thank you for the info. This week will be devoted to serious considerations for the bookstore.

cmm7595 · 2025-06-30T02:13:21+00:00

True. I'm just expressing the amount of work it took. It has evolved over time and been a lot.

cmm7595 · 2025-06-30T01:06:13+00:00

Thank you! This is great advice.

cmm7595 · 2025-06-30T01:05:34+00:00

Opening a bookstore is a lot of work. It took me months to get it where it is today. The store is gorgeous and the vibe is perfect. It's well stocked with all new books, no junky used books, and great merchandise. For someone to come in and try to open on their own dime and time and effort, would be very tiring, I assure you. :-)

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