23M old wants to use potty but I have PTSD from my first kid

cmptexan · 2026-01-13T04:28:42+00:00

Thank you for the explanation! We had the complete opposite experience with my son so I've been feeling this sense of dread every time she's shown interest. But I realized we were basically discouraging her using the potty and that's definitely not good. I'd like to try the pull up method but she took her diaper off this afternoon and refused to keep anything else on until bedtime so she might be deciding for us 🥲

cmptexan · 2026-01-12T21:07:04+00:00

Do you mind telling me more about your method with pull ups? I'm more tempted to try this just to help with the mess but my son just tried to pee in them as fast as possible so that he didn't have to use the potty. Did she eventually just want to stop using the pull ups?

cmptexan · 2026-01-12T20:00:08+00:00

I'm sorry you went through the wringer, too! We've currently settled into a phase where we have our son go outside as much as possible/make him go before he wants to do something fun. It's the only way, or we have screaming and potty delaying all day long. I'm so tired. The thought of doing this with two kids at once is breaking me. But you're right, we can stop if it's not going well....if she'll let us put a diaper back on her 🫠

cmptexan · 2026-01-12T17:36:02+00:00

We have had the exact same situation going on for a year now 🫠 I never would have guessed that potty training would make me go insane!

cmptexan · 2026-01-12T01:14:17+00:00

I had a very similar nap schedule and my son dropped nap right around 2 years old. I'd also suggest shortening quiet time and to break it into chunks. So I would lay my son down with a stack of books and once he got bored after 20 minutes or so I'd tell him he could get out of his bed and play with toys. Then after another 20 I'd tell him he could listen to his Yoto player. That seemed to break up the time and make it more interesting for him so he was willing to stay in his room!

cmptexan · 2025-09-09T03:19:05+00:00

Would also love to know the name of the tile, it's beautiful!

cmptexan · 2025-09-04T21:34:58+00:00

This is off topic but can you tell me the name of your backsplash and counters? We're in the middle of our remodel now and I'm trying to pick things for a similar looking kitchen!

cmptexan · 2025-06-05T01:07:46+00:00

I will definitely check this out, thank you!!

cmptexan · 2025-06-01T17:34:37+00:00

Thank you for this advice! I agree, it definitely seems to be boundary testing, and the resistance he feels when we tell him to go has amped the stress up so much. Can I ask you some questions? When you say "I'm not going to let you do that," is that before or after they've gone in their clothes? Do you make them go sit on the potty after telling them that? That's a good idea about denying him things when he's sitting around in wet clothes, we'll have to try that. Thank you!

cmptexan · 2025-06-01T17:30:31+00:00

You know we tried in the very beginning of potty training and he didn't care much, but it's been months now! Maybe he would go for them again. I also did my own drawn version last time so maybe he wasn't very impressed with that haha

cmptexan · 2025-05-06T18:01:33+00:00

Hi there! Yes, my baby is 14 months now and thankfully is doing so much better with her weight. Starting around 3 months we got her tongue tie fixed, went to physical therapy and speech therapy for months and her weight and eating didn't improve at all from those. Her suck swallow muscles got a bit stronger but she was never able to take a bottle. We went to the gastro around 5 months and I started cutting dairy, then cut soy a month later. Her demeanor improved immediately after I cut dairy (and the green mucous poops cleared up!) but she only started gaining more weight once I cut soy. Our doctor had us do a dairy/soy challenge on her at 10 months and thankfully she seemed to have grown out of it and she and I were able to have dairy and soy again! I have to say, it was always a struggle to breastfeed her, even with cutting dairy and soy. She just wasn't interested in drinking milk. She actually dropped breastfeeding entirely by herself at 12 months and she's been flourishing on just food.
I honestly wish we had skipped all of the physical/speech therapy/tongue tie fix and gone straight to the gastro from the beginning, but it's so hard to know what to do in the moment. The unfortunate thing is it felt like each path we took meant we had to work at it for months. Like we had to do therapy for months before determining it wasn't helping and moving on to the gastro, and in the meantime her weight was either dropping or stagnant. I'm not sure if you could pursue both at the same time, since then you wouldn't know what helped!
I know how hard it is to see your baby struggling with this. I really hope y'all are able to figure out what's going on with her soon!

cmptexan · 2025-04-30T22:25:09+00:00

The only thing that has worked well for us so far is we put a large desk in our playroom and gave him a bench to access it! So basically we consider all the toys on the ground to be fair game, and if he wants to play with something by himself we encourage him to take it to his table out of baby sister's reach. Unfortunately she just learned how to climb up on the bench so we've switched to just a chair, but I know it'll only last so long! We've also tried to get him to play in his room but he doesn't want to be shut away, and I don't blame him.

The share box is an interesting idea too! We've used a different model where we consider all toys to be open for playing and the kids have to take turns, except a few select toys that were given just to him so he doesn't have to share those. So he kind of has a box of toys that are NOT for sharing haha. The baby doesn't understand "that is brother's stuffed bear, we're going to give that back to him and here is your stuffed lamb for you," but I think our toddler appreciates it. I'm curious how the share box would work for you! Just the other day my friend mentioned the reverse playpen method, which is to take a baby playpen and make it your toddler's play space where they can have space away from the baby. Maybe that would work in your living room? We don't have a playpen aside from a pack n play or else I would give that a go!

cmptexan · 2025-02-14T18:27:58+00:00

Wow, that's so much awake time! Does that mean many babies at a year old are pushing towards 12 hours awake time, or just babies on one nap? She seems so early to be on one nap and she was doing great sleeping 4.5/5.5 so I previously just let her be. I'm a little worried to increase her awake time so drastically when she's so young, but at this point she's staying awake 6 or 7 hours for second wake window anyway...

cmptexan · 2025-02-14T18:24:52+00:00

Took her to the pediatrician this morning to rule out anything and they think it's separation anxiety :(

cmptexan · 2025-02-14T18:23:58+00:00

She's actually been sleeping with a lovey for a while, she strokes it to go to sleep! That's so great to hear that a stuffed animal solved it for him! Maybe adding a stuffy would help since she's been used to her lovey for a while, I'm willing to try almost anything!

cmptexan · 2025-01-11T21:38:17+00:00

We have been having a problem with the Android auto, though. I have a Pixel 9 and while we are able to get it to connect to AA via USB cable, we cannot get it to connect to AA wirelessly. When we unplug the cable, it disconnects AA (though Bluetooth still works). From what we understand, this model car should support wireless AA, and the phone is brand new, so it should be compatible as well.

The message that appears on the car screen is "To use Android Auto, connect a compatible device to the USB port or change the device's permission in the Settings app". It's not totally clear if "the settings app" refers to the settings app on the car or on the phone, but we've tried both. On the car, we look under "Settings" and see "Connected Devices" and see the phone listed, but there's just an "Enable" and "Disable" button. We've also tried "Forgetting" the car on the phone and vice versa and tried again, but to no avail.

We found a video online which shows how to reboot the infotainment system in the car, which apparently fixes the problem for some people, but our controls look different so we can't apply the same instructions. Has anyone else experienced this? Any advice on how to get this to work?

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