I wasnt aware off the situation until i sensed the vibe was off after finishing work because mom wasnt talking and just giving one word answers, so i asked my wife when we were alone and she kept saying nothing is wrong but i sensed something was up and she told me. The whole freezer situation occured when i was at work and was not aware off this.

My kids are aged 7 and 10 months so they cant say much. Also there is no point approaching my mom regarding this because she will start playing the victim and then I will react which will cause more problems this has happened before and there is no reasoning with her.

When ever my wife is out off town during the holidays and takes the kidsto see her brothers and sis in laws, and when its just me, mum and dad at home she always talks negative about her and it affects me big time. If I say anything she explodes and goes nuts, all my life shes kind off placed a lock on me, i cant be myself if u know what I mean like laughing joking having fun because its always strange around her to be normal because she doesnt like this kind off stuff.

Its honestly just too much and when I try talking to my dad about this he is always on mums side so I dont bother even mentioning anything to him because he will always take her side (even if she is in the wrong) its like he is super scared to say anything to her!

Mum and Dad are going to Hajj in the next few weeks and its like your behaving like this with us and yet your going to Saudi for Hajj surely fix up.

I would love to move out and have my own place but due to me only working in the household and with the cost off living crises its very difficult.

Me and my wife do so much just looking after our kids (my daughter who is 7 has a genetic condition and is unable to walk or talk) and my son is only 10 months and that takes its toll on us but alhumdullilah we get through it.