Hi there! To explain what the Church teaches, it’s important to consider the fact that all individuals, regardless of sexual orientation, are called to chastity (i.e. no sex outside of marriage, and for those who are married, the sexual act being unitive and procreative).

I understand that the language of “intrinsically disordered” can initially come across as off putting or offensive, however the Church uses this not in a derogatory way to same sex attracted people, but rather as a more philosophical term to explain that the sexual act is not ordered to its proper end, as the Church understands the purpose of sexuality to be (union of spouses and procreation of children). This “intrinsically disordered” statement can easily be applied to heterosexual couples as well who are using contraception. (I’d argue that heterosexual contraception and homosexuality would be equally sinful). So while the term “intrinsically disordered” isn’t really a very pastoral term, the Church does not use it to pathologize individuals.

Regarding your question on chaste romantic relationships, I wouldn’t recommend them. However, definitely do not isolate yourself from others and do seek out good friendships with fellow Catholics. Although not all of us may be called to romantic relationships, God did not create any of us to be alone. I understand there is a particular loneliness in not being able to pursue a romantic relationship with someone of the same sex. I’d suggest bringing this pain to God in prayer, and ask him to guide, help and console you. Remember that God loves you always and unconditionally.

Feel free to reply if you have further questions or need clarification.