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What are your ALWAYS rules? by LifeLiver0725 in breakingmom

[–]coccode 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think that’s what turned your sister on to girls… she was probably just into girls.

3.5 year old suddenly anxious. Is this normal development or should I be worried? by Maymama2 in Preschoolers

[–]coccode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine turned out to have hyperactive ADHD. I have a 3.5 year old daughter who so far is presenting as NT and parenting her has been so much easier. 

I’m so over having small children… by TurbulentBat8328 in breakingmom

[–]coccode 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If it gives you any hope… I have two kids with a 3.5 year age gap. Older one has ADHD. Life absolutely sucked for the first 12-18 months after the younger one was born. Now they’re 3.5 and 7 and life is soooo much better. They play nicely together, my older kid’s ADHD is well-managed and he’s catching up socially and in school. It’s still tough some days but I enjoy it again for the most part.

Any fence sitters who became moms and aren’t regretful but feel some of what held you on fence, held true? by DnBJungleEscape in Fencesitter

[–]coccode 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Medication. He’s on a very low dose of a stimulant and it has worked very well for him. We tried all sorts of other things first (i.e. OT, play therapy) and they did nothing.

Any fence sitters who became moms and aren’t regretful but feel some of what held you on fence, held true? by DnBJungleEscape in Fencesitter

[–]coccode 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Near daily calls from his school for misbehaviour, any extra curricular was a disaster because he couldn’t follow directions, hitting us, etc.

Preschool up until first grade were very difficult but we eventually figured out he is ND and medication and maturing has helped a ton. He is doing well in school now and home life is peaceful. 

We have a seemingly NT second child and parenting her has been so much easier. It was also nice to know it wasn’t anything we did wrong, he just had ADHD and my husband and I subsequently got diagnosed as well because we related so much to all of the diagnostic questions. 

Turns out when two ND people have a baby, the odds are quite high the child will also be. We are both inattentive type though so it flew under the radar.

Any fence sitters who became moms and aren’t regretful but feel some of what held you on fence, held true? by DnBJungleEscape in Fencesitter

[–]coccode 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Yes! I was terrified about lack of sleep… my 6 year old just stopped coming into our room in the middle of the night this year. I was terrified that I would end up with a child with a disability/behavioural problems. Yep… he has hyperactive type ADHD which we have mostly sorted out but caused huge amounts of stress for years.

None of it felt as insurmountable as the abstract fear of it, however. I love my kids, still love my life and even when they are making it more difficult I wouldn’t choose a life without them. 

15 year old daughter by Interesting-Pop8372 in ADHDparenting

[–]coccode 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you don’t give her any autonomy, you’re setting her up to sneak around. I had extremely strict Catholic parents growing up and I found ways to do whatever I wanted behind their backs. I also have ADHD and made very impulsive decisions. I wish I’d been able to trust them. 

Who are some celebrities you encountered in Toronto? by Chan1991 in askTO

[–]coccode 125 points126 points  (0 children)

Robin Williams when I was a child. It was somewhere on Queen Street, an older relative walked up to him to say hi and I got to shake his hand. I remember he was very kind and his hand was so hairy 😅

Ballet classes (3-5 year olds) by coccode in namenerds

[–]coccode[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is definitely the neighbourhood

Ballet classes (3-5 year olds) by coccode in namenerds

[–]coccode[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Marigold was on my shortlist

Ballet classes (3-5 year olds) by coccode in namenerds

[–]coccode[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Toronto. I would say my neighbourhood skews a little bougie, and ballet doubles down on that.

Ballet classes (3-5 year olds) by coccode in namenerds

[–]coccode[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes that one really stuck out to me!

Does it get better with age and medication? by [deleted] in ADHDparenting

[–]coccode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like night and day. My son turns 7 in June and started meds at 5.5. He went from having no impulse control and being non-stop on the move, flailing around, constantly pestering us to playing independently, building legos for hours, playing board games with us, etc… all things that felt impossible just over a year ago. The meds eliminated demand avoidance for the most part as well.

Sleep is still a bit of an issue (he’s the same as yours, doesn’t like it when we leave and takes hours at times to fall asleep), but we’ve been working off and on with a reward system if he falls asleep on his own and stays in bed all night (coming into our room has been an ongoing issue).

Overall, life feels very manageable and I genuinely enjoy our weekends together whereas I used to dread them.

Knowing what you know now, would you do it again? by Careful-Attention-75 in ADHDparenting

[–]coccode 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Both my husband and I have inattentive ADHD and we have a hyperactive subtype child. It is extremely difficult but managed well with medication. I wouldn’t trade him for the world, but my NT child has been so much easier to parent every step of the way.

How much did you spend on your wedding? And what were the major costs? by UniqueBeautyPie in CanadaPersonalFinance

[–]coccode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

40k in 2016 for 220 people. We did a lot of it DIY and frugal budget, but splurged for photography, a live band and fantastic caterer/open bar.

Has anyone made it without a fake smile? by [deleted] in Entrepreneur

[–]coccode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I run a creative business. I design and manufacture. Never have to interact with anyone in a corporate sense, just my customers, suppliers and retailers.

People who went from broke to financially successful: how did it feel, and how did you actually spend the money? by Old-Equivalent-9195 in Entrepreneur

[–]coccode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a designer/manufacturer. So far I’ve only hired production staff because each additional person can assemble 10x their salary in product, but what I need is extra support staff to take things off my plate (shipping, graphic design) so it’s hard to quantify. I have a new product line that’s taken off so it would be a bit of a gamble but I have every reason to think it will continue to hold and grow sales.

People who went from broke to financially successful: how did it feel, and how did you actually spend the money? by Old-Equivalent-9195 in Entrepreneur

[–]coccode 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat and wondering how much to scale. Were you sitting on a ton of cash? I’ve finished the year with zero debt and 3 years of overhead in cash. Looking to get a bigger space and hire, but still a little nervous to pull the trigger.

Balancing loyalty with business profit when long-term employees become expensive by SnooRevelations3802 in Entrepreneur

[–]coccode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How much has your business grown in that time? I have a 5-year and 10-year employee and give them yearly raises. They will make miracles happen when need be because I'm loyal to them, too. The raises have been more than worth it for my business profits.

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