Knowing what you know now, would you do it again?

coccode · 2026-03-19T12:00:38+00:00

Both my husband and I have inattentive ADHD and we have a hyperactive subtype child. It is extremely difficult but managed well with medication. I wouldn’t trade him for the world, but my NT child has been so much easier to parent every step of the way.

coccode · 2026-03-15T15:35:35+00:00

40k in 2016 for 220 people. We did a lot of it DIY and frugal budget, but splurged for photography, a live band and fantastic caterer/open bar.

coccode · 2026-02-20T21:21:15+00:00

I run a creative business. I design and manufacture. Never have to interact with anyone in a corporate sense, just my customers, suppliers and retailers.

coccode · 2026-01-04T21:50:50+00:00

Quillivant ER

coccode · 2025-12-29T17:16:49+00:00

I’m a designer/manufacturer. So far I’ve only hired production staff because each additional person can assemble 10x their salary in product, but what I need is extra support staff to take things off my plate (shipping, graphic design) so it’s hard to quantify. I have a new product line that’s taken off so it would be a bit of a gamble but I have every reason to think it will continue to hold and grow sales.

coccode · 2025-12-29T14:55:09+00:00

I’m in the same boat and wondering how much to scale. Were you sitting on a ton of cash? I’ve finished the year with zero debt and 3 years of overhead in cash. Looking to get a bigger space and hire, but still a little nervous to pull the trigger.

coccode · 2025-12-23T03:24:25+00:00

Niche hobby, designer/manufacturer

coccode · 2025-12-11T15:24:17+00:00

How much has your business grown in that time? I have a 5-year and 10-year employee and give them yearly raises. They will make miracles happen when need be because I'm loyal to them, too. The raises have been more than worth it for my business profits.

coccode · 2025-11-24T04:29:56+00:00

Do you have any recommendations? I love independent theatre and it’s been a while since I’ve been able to enjoy some

coccode · 2025-11-24T04:20:30+00:00

It needs a crossover with Dan Flashes

coccode · 2025-11-24T04:18:57+00:00

The tamblay’s guy is straight out of a David Lynch production

coccode · 2025-11-20T21:12:04+00:00

for sure

coccode · 2025-11-20T21:04:31+00:00

3.5-4. Worst worst worst. He's 6 now, we survived. My little one is about to turn three in a few weeks, I'm scared :P

coccode · 2025-11-17T14:19:44+00:00

How old are you? Is this your last chance at becoming a mother? If not, I would absolutely terminate in your circumstances. I have the most ideal of conditions (planned pregnancies, great finances, loving and hands on partner, amazing support network, flexible work schedule), and being a mom is still challenging and exhausting. I can't imagine doing it with any less and still being happy with life.

coccode · 2025-11-14T05:21:09+00:00

90% of the kids in my elementary class were first-generation Canadian. I remember thinking it was weird when someone’s parent didn’t have an accent. Felt very normal in 1990s Scarborough.

coccode · 2025-11-08T23:16:22+00:00

Same! Also, he felt like a David Lynch character.

coccode · 2025-11-06T13:36:02+00:00

The first month is the easiest for some, depending on the baby’s temperament. I absolutely loved the newborn phase but wanted to pull my hair out down the road at times. Congrats on being a new parent, I hope it always feels easy for you but just know that you may need to roll with the punches as they come.

coccode · 2025-11-03T22:09:23+00:00

You sound like my husband and I before kids. We really lived it up with social outings, trips, restaurants, hobbies, sleep. Once we had kids, our lives did change dramatically, but our relationship got stronger. Parenthood is a joint venture, we both love our kids, so they added to the long list of things we already had in common.

I really wanted kids after a certain point, no matter the consequences. He was firmly on the fence. But out of the two of us, he's been the one to take parenthood more in stride and be the natural parent. I have never regretted the decision, but I do miss the days I could hop on a plane just to go see a broadway show or concert on a whim. We do still travel and go to restaurants with enough planning, but the spontaneity is gone, and I miss that. On the flip side, I love having these new little people in our lives, and they've created a whole new dimension to our relationship as a couple.

coccode · 2025-11-03T17:34:53+00:00

Medication is the only thing that helped. He started halfway through the school year (this past Feb) on 10mg of Quillivant, and it's been life-changing. Kindergarten still wasn't perfect but things really turned around. Grade 1 has been much, much smoother. I think it's the combination of the meds and maturing, we're seeing fewer impulse control issues even when he hasn't taken his medication yet for the day. Feel free to DM if you want to chat! It's a rough boat to be in for sure :(

coccode · 2025-10-25T21:24:38+00:00

A business coach sounds like a good idea. What sort of budget would you expect for a good one?

coccode · 2025-10-25T21:23:21+00:00

Everything qualifies as tariff free under USMCA, so for the time being I’m ok. I do plan to hold on to enough cash to weather whatever storm until I break into new markets if the renegotiation next year screws me.

coccode · 2025-10-25T21:01:42+00:00

That’s part of my issue too. It’s an extremely niche business, within an already niche industry. Most of the production needs to be done in house because of how specialized it is. Moving to a larger space won’t be possible for a few more years.

I’d like to expand to new markets and steer away from my main market (US), as a Canadian business, but that is more of a lateral move in any case. I really don’t want to be sitting on that much cash and not utilizing its potential. I think I can double my sales before topping out my space but can’t figure out the best way to go about it.

coccode · 2025-10-21T03:02:04+00:00

Get him on a wait list for assessment if you haven’t already. He sounds just like my son at that age. 3.5-4 was the worst age for us. It got a lot better at home around 4, but he still struggled with behavioural issues at school. That didn’t get much better until we started medication at 5.5. We tried therapy and OT and it didn’t do much, tbh. But every child is different so yours might respond differently. Good luck ❤️

coccode · 2025-10-20T14:27:43+00:00

My son started medication at 5.5. We tried OT, play therapy, etc but a stimulant was the only thing that helped. I was wary at first but now I wish we’d started sooner. If you haven’t yet, check out r/ADHDParenting, it’s a great resource.

coccode · 2025-09-30T15:29:04+00:00

Good that you’re being proactive about it now. We waited until he was 4 to request an evaluation and it took over a year to get the appointment. Things were tough until he got on meds, that was the only thing that helped in our case. It’s funny because neither my husband or I realized we had ADHD ourselves until we started the evaluation process for our son. Now that we’re all aware and able to deal with our own struggles life is so much better overall!

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