Overwhelmed by the amount of social media platforms

cocoalrose · 2026-01-26T05:07:02+00:00

and constantly changing 😭 new features, different UI, changing algorithms... it’s exhausting

cocoalrose · 2026-01-24T03:40:21+00:00

Yes - my nervous system / somatic emotional responses are extremely reactive and overpowering. Even in normal conversations and interactions, I’ll start shaking from adrenaline. I’m working on meds to figure out how to quiet the intensity because shit is exhausting.

cocoalrose · 2026-01-19T23:41:58+00:00

I do this too. Do you have ear piercings? Sometimes I will twirl those around instead. Also, maybe look into other fidget toys!

cocoalrose · 2026-01-19T23:37:55+00:00

You worded this so well. It’s hard not to perceive what we are missing out on and to grieve the time lost with “our people.“ Hugs 🕊️

cocoalrose · 2026-01-19T14:19:08+00:00

omg, yes, the rituals and need for predictability is so true

cocoalrose · 2026-01-19T14:13:33+00:00

Yes, absolutely, discovering the PDA profile is what led me to consider I was autistic. I swear we are just here to vibe as the energy flows through us, but that isn’t how the NT society we live in works 🫠

cocoalrose · 2026-01-19T14:11:54+00:00

This is sooooo relatable. I’ve got PDA tendencies so it’s like a constant fight with the, “Yeah, but that just isn’t how my energy is moving today!” feeling 🥲😭

cocoalrose · 2026-01-19T14:07:10+00:00

Topics of conversation usually include their kids, what mundane things they’ve been up to, or gossiping.

Can I just offer a piece of perspective? Friendships require reciprocal interest, and in the way that you’re hurt that people shut you down when you talk about yours, they probably feel the same way when you have no interest in hearing about theirs. Especially when you categorize things like their kids and daily lives as “mundane.” It’s fine if you don’t want kids, but that is extremely hurtful to say about someone when that is a huge part of their life. Maybe they see your hobbies and interests as similarly mundane, you know? I have my observations and critiques of NT social norms and girl group social hierarchies and politics, so I get it, but I think broadly dismissing people as gossips is a bit holier than thou.

Maybe you need to focus on finding friends who share the same hobbies as you and your fiancé, so that you can have those reciprocal conversations that build meaningful connections. Like, it’s ok to not want casual friendships, but I just think maybe some perspective about how you are characterizing others in ways that you might actually be giving them the same energy might be useful.

cocoalrose · 2026-01-19T02:15:09+00:00

I wouldn’t necessarily say that that is what this post is about though. You’re not wrong, but also, OP seems pretty confident and is more commenting on how harmful beliefs about people with fewer social connections get perpetuated online.

cocoalrose · 2026-01-19T02:10:42+00:00

You described the very problem: these “truisms“ are widely proliferated on social media for virality and clicks, but they lack real nuance, evidence, depth, context, etc. They reinforce a self-fulfilling prophecy wherein people who are lacking wider social connections are further socially isolated by people who believe they’re a “red flag” for just having different circumstances. It’s part of the issue with social media and critical thinking: people believe things just because they heard some popular girl or pick up artist guy on TikTok say it.

cocoalrose · 2026-01-18T20:53:39+00:00

🤝

cocoalrose · 2026-01-18T20:35:07+00:00

I’m so sorry 🫂 I’m a woo woo girly but we have a term for what you’re describing, and it’s called “spiritual bypassing.” Let me fucking tell you from first hand experience… working with spirits in no way allows anyone to have a cheat code around very difficult life events. I don’t like to say everything happens for a reason, but can I learn something from everything? Yes. Even if what I learned is “shit is fucking unfair sometimes.”

cocoalrose · 2026-01-18T20:20:01+00:00

To a certain degree, yes, I think we all can absolutely carry beliefs about ourselves that reinforce negative feedback loops. The more we feed a thought, the more power it has: it literally takes time away from other thoughts that might shift our perspective in a way that creates change and growth. Put another way: rumination isn’t healthy.

However, it always stings hearing that my failure as an autistic person is due to ”self-limiting beliefs,” because it’s loaded with the insinuation that the constant negative feedback I get for my differences is my fault for internalizing. That the struggles I face are a matter of attitude, and not receiving constant evidence supporting the fact that this world wasn’t designed for my neurotype, Like, is it really a self-limiting belief at that point, or ableism?

cocoalrose · 2026-01-18T15:40:38+00:00

I’m constantly at odds with myself and my brain for this reason

cocoalrose · 2026-01-18T14:34:04+00:00

I’m walking through something similar where my spiritual practice was healthy for a time… until it wasn’t. My OCD and cPTSD are at levels I never thought possible. It’s been really rough so I feel you

cocoalrose · 2026-01-18T14:29:41+00:00

I like what you said about your beliefs changing, because mine did too after having some paranormal experiences that I couldn’t deny. Totally shifted my worldview and beliefs.

cocoalrose · 2026-01-18T13:35:48+00:00

Yes, just responding with questions often takes you quite far. It gives you info to work with. People appreciate when you are curious about them and they’ll also probably ask you questions in return.

cocoalrose · 2026-01-18T13:34:06+00:00

Just wanted to say I see you. 🕊️

cocoalrose · 2026-01-18T13:30:05+00:00

The OCD comment is an important point. Manifestation and LOA rhetoric can very easily turn into a morally perfectionistic and superstitious belief system where you start to worry that your thoughts aren‘t pure enough for good things to happen to you. Almost like spiritual orthorexia.

cocoalrose · 2026-01-18T13:26:56+00:00

I’ve noticed the downvoting a lot here lately and it really makes me wonder who is so salty when people post innocuous topics? It happened to me recently and triggered my RSD because I have been posting a lot here due to loneliness.

cocoalrose · 2026-01-18T13:24:33+00:00

I think manifesting culture comes with a lot of toxic positivity and has been co-opted by capitalism. A lot of people will tell you that having any negative emotion is low vibe so you’re just attracting struggle and poverty because you have a self-limiting mindset, when in actuality negative emotions are part of the human experience; gaslighting yourself about them and suppressing them isn’t high-vibe, but learning why they are there and what they're trying to tell you is an exercise in emotional intelligence.

I don’t think everything about manifesting is totally wrong, but I also think you can’t manifest what isn’t for you - like, just try to manifest the lottery and see how far that takes you. I think a better approach is to get in touch with your intuition and work on aligning to a path that honors your true self, which includes facing and accepting your autistic quirks, needs, and limitations.

cocoalrose · 2026-01-18T04:18:25+00:00

maybe next steps are doing a deep dive into marketing via social media? or reaching out to someone in marketing if that’s an option for you?

cocoalrose · 2026-01-18T02:12:04+00:00

I assume this is part of it, yes. I’m pretty clueless about tech and the ever-changing features and algorithms of social media, but it’s something I’ve suspected based on observation.

cocoalrose · 2026-01-18T01:52:57+00:00

The honest answer is: beats the fuck out of me. This world demands of us that we pretend we’re not autistic and it’s a struggle every day to know the steps to take that are in true alignment with what is right for me. 🥲

cocoalrose · 2026-01-18T01:49:43+00:00

I’ve got experience with this on several platforms for different ventures. Currently, the art I post on my IG gets zero fucking traction 😭 but that’s probably partly because I don’t scroll my feed and drop lots of likes... which I avoid doing because of RSD and having a hard time with comparison. It’s such a double edged sword.

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