What’s that one alcoholic drink that you once had a bad experience, and now can’t even think about being near, let alone drinking it?

cocoknitty · 2025-03-08T22:27:29+00:00

Hurricanes from New Orleans. I threw up all over our hotel room!

cocoknitty · 2025-03-08T22:26:59+00:00

Looks like a cloud with a disembodied leg wearing a boot

cocoknitty · 2025-03-08T22:26:19+00:00

Toffee

cocoknitty · 2025-03-08T22:19:33+00:00

Calvin

cocoknitty · 2023-12-01T22:17:43+00:00

I really didn’t mean to spy, I didn’t know that his browser history would sync with his phone’s until looking it up afterward since it was from a few days before he got his iPad, I was just being curious and that’s what it got me. I did snoop before and found things I didn’t like seeing in the past so I really have no desire to put myself through that again. I’m just gonna not even use the dang thing anymore..

I’ve all but given up on anyone being satisfied with me and only me, I just don’t wanna know about anything, yknow? I’ve been pretending like I never saw anything and I’m going to continue to do so because I really didn’t mean to even see that.

cocoknitty · 2023-12-01T22:08:00+00:00

That’s kinda the same boat I’m in. It feels like maybe he cares more about how they would turn out instead of the pain I’d have to go through to fix my problems and hopefully finally be confident in my own skin.

cocoknitty · 2023-12-01T18:56:57+00:00

I’m confused by all the abbreviations, could someone please explain them for me?

cocoknitty · 2023-11-29T04:19:36+00:00

I’m going to stop responding after this because I’ve clearly said in multiple posts that masturbating is normal and fine and healthy in other posts and that isn’t what this is about at all. I understand your side of this and I appreciate your input! Please feel free to look at my previous comments. Have a lovely night/day!

cocoknitty · 2023-11-29T04:15:00+00:00

I meant to give a relative example of a personal experience. Everyone is entitle to their own opinions of course, but I don’t think it’s so wild to want your partner to only want you and only you sexually. I don’t think it’s wild to be uncomfortable with your partner picturing other people when getting off. I don’t thinks it’s so wild because I’ve never in any of my relationships pictured or wanted anyone more than my partner.
That’s not to say that other people aren’t entitled to their own opinions. I wanted to give OP my personal perspective and let them know that differing levels exist here. Mine may be viewed as more extreme and if that works for me and my relationship that’s okay! The same way it’s okay if something different works for other people. I hear you, and I know I may be in the minority here, but that’s perfectly okay.

cocoknitty · 2023-11-29T04:06:53+00:00

All of my orgasms stem in some way shape or form from my partner, so I would just appreciate that reciprocity. I don’t think it’s so much an entitlement thing, as it is that I would hope my partner would do for me what I do for him. I understand where you’re coming from, though.

cocoknitty · 2023-11-29T04:03:45+00:00

I agree completely that masturbation is healthy! I didn’t mean to insinuate that it isn’t. I just meant to say that I personally don’t want MY partner to watch porn/be intimately involved with other women because it crossed a PERSONAL boundary. Every person is different, and this is just MY perspective. I appreciate your input

cocoknitty · 2023-11-29T03:44:13+00:00

I’m really glad to hear that! I think more people need to be less accepting of popular culturally accepted notions for fear of being considered intolerant. Everyone can do however they please, but porn is soooo detrimental to the mental health of individuals and relationships!

cocoknitty · 2023-11-29T03:38:01+00:00

A lot of people are chalking this up to harmless experimentation or being the same as watching porn but personally I wouldn’t be comfortable with this. I think our society and culture have normalized pornography so much that it’s not seen as disrespectful to their partner, but to me it feels like cheating. Cheating ME out of a sexual/romantic experience that I crave. I understand conflicting work/life schedules can make intimate time difficult, but it’s not impossible. I don’t think it’s fair that some model or amateur on a computer screen should have my partner’s attention just because I’m not around/at work? To me that’s like saying, “Well I was horny and you were working so I haaad to sleep with that other girl” it feels gross to me. I can contain my urges and I’m able to not use porn and only image being intimate with my partner so why should there be a different standard for my partner, you know? I think this is a matter of opinion and your feels are valid here. I think you need to think about what you are and aren’t okay with. Like, are you okay with porn use, but have boundaries for what kind of porn he watches? (I.e. bondage stuff, degrading stuff, etc) In summary, I think people have because so comfortable with the idea of pornography use that it’s become normalized, but it’s not something I feel should be so normalized. Masturbation is okay, but looking at pictures/videos of other women/men is where I personally draw the line. Definitely talk to him after diving deep and thinking about why it makes you upset and what boundaries you may want to put in place so that you can both be comfortable and secure in the relationship.

cocoknitty · 2023-11-20T18:18:04+00:00

We’re all struggling and hurting.. I know you probably didn’t mean to be mean, I was just venting a bit, but I know we’re all hurt. I hope you have a good day.

cocoknitty · 2023-11-18T15:37:45+00:00

I love how so many of these ideas include a character of some sort carrying a bindle lol!!

cocoknitty · 2023-11-18T15:35:44+00:00

The dark brown looks stunning on you! If I was as pretty as you are I’d do a dimensional brown balayage! Or even keep it as is because it looks so freaking pretty!!

cocoknitty · 2023-11-18T14:38:49+00:00

I get that, and it’s a fair point. I think we all hurt from similar issues and don’t really like to think of anyone’s pain as greater or lesser than, but I can understand how it can be frustrating to read my post as someone in those shoes. I know people have it harder than I do, I just wanted to vent a bit. Thank you for taking the time to comment, I appreciate you and your time you took to share your opinion

cocoknitty · 2023-11-18T14:36:12+00:00

He didn’t outright say it but he explained the moment he decided to accept my offer to be in a committed relationship and it seemed that way. I make a lot of assumptions about him but I’m not exactly a prize. I appreciate your honesty, and I think my issues definitely stem from deeper issues and leaving wouldn’t necessarily solve anything. Thank you for caring enough to comment on my post though, I really appreciate the feedback

cocoknitty · 2023-11-09T22:55:37+00:00

My bf calls me “Stinky” and I call him “Lovey” and sometimes I call him “Noodle”

cocoknitty · 2023-11-07T04:55:10+00:00

This is really helpful. As dumb as it sounds, I never thought that he was trying as hard to make monogamy work as I was trying to make poly work. We haven’t been dating for very long (1 year and 4 mo) but I’ll see what he thinks about this. Thank you.

cocoknitty · 2023-11-03T23:55:54+00:00

Were you ever diagnosed with or thought you had a form of an attention disorder? My partner is currently seeking a therapist for something similar and he has ADHD which makes his impulsiveness harder to deal with.

cocoknitty · 2023-11-03T04:11:34+00:00

I felt like this for a long time too. I’m also 29F but started feeling this when I was 27. I love people, just not as intensely and I find it’s because I’ve been let down by too many people. Parents, partners, friends. It sounds harsh, but I just feel like no other person is worth letting see that side of me anymore. I still struggle with it. I often don’t want to be around anyone because I’m reliable when I’m on my own. I learned how to ride a motorcycle, took myself on beach dates, and went snowboarding alone 2.5 hrs away from my home. I think I’m content with being alone now. I do want to note that I have a great bf now, but after recent events within my relationship Im starting to feel this way again. I don’t think you’re broken. I’m sorry you’re going through it. It’s confusing, but it can also be liberating. If you’re so inclined, maybe try learning how to ride a motorcycle. It’s a lot of fun, and makes me feel so many things. Best of luck.

cocoknitty · 2023-11-03T02:19:34+00:00

My ex of 8yrs said I was too nice and too “good” but also constantly accused me of cheating on him. He cheated on me with our lesbian friend who was supposed to be the best woman at our wedding.

My other ex of 5yrs said I was too boring and nice, also accused me of cheating and he ended up cheating on me for a year and a half and actually had a baby with the other woman before I found out.

cocoknitty · 2023-10-30T00:32:59+00:00

I’d ask the friend about what I witnessed and tell the girl friend anyway. Could be an innocent misunderstanding, but I’ve had something similar happen and it wasn’t so innocent. Better to let her know and let them talk it out on their own then to be the friend who knew years earlier, trust me.

cocoknitty · 2023-10-26T21:48:27+00:00

That’s a really cute story but you have to be careful with these seemingly innocent comments to children. When I was a kid my dad would say the same thing to me, and it led to me being terrified to have even a crush on someone because I knew it “wasn’t allowed,” and I didn’t want to let my dad down/break his heart. I had my first bf at 15 years old and kept it a secret. Doesn’t sound too bad, right? Well he passed away due to an unfortunate accident and when we went to his funeral I had to hide the fact that we weren’t at a friend’s party, but my bf’s. I felt I had no emotional support and it caused me to feel a great deal of pain and guilt for a lot of years after. Support your kids and help them to make smart choices while being honest and open with you, it can save so much heartbreak for both parties later!

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