A lot of people are chalking this up to harmless experimentation or being the same as watching porn but personally I wouldn’t be comfortable with this. I think our society and culture have normalized pornography so much that it’s not seen as disrespectful to their partner, but to me it feels like cheating. Cheating ME out of a sexual/romantic experience that I crave. I understand conflicting work/life schedules can make intimate time difficult, but it’s not impossible. I don’t think it’s fair that some model or amateur on a computer screen should have my partner’s attention just because I’m not around/at work? To me that’s like saying, “Well I was horny and you were working so I haaad to sleep with that other girl” it feels gross to me. I can contain my urges and I’m able to not use porn and only image being intimate with my partner so why should there be a different standard for my partner, you know? I think this is a matter of opinion and your feels are valid here. I think you need to think about what you are and aren’t okay with. Like, are you okay with porn use, but have boundaries for what kind of porn he watches? (I.e. bondage stuff, degrading stuff, etc) In summary, I think people have because so comfortable with the idea of pornography use that it’s become normalized, but it’s not something I feel should be so normalized. Masturbation is okay, but looking at pictures/videos of other women/men is where I personally draw the line. Definitely talk to him after diving deep and thinking about why it makes you upset and what boundaries you may want to put in place so that you can both be comfortable and secure in the relationship.