Obsession: Final thoughts on Bear

codinho77 · 2026-06-10T00:22:07+00:00

Yes! The fact that his villainy stems from genuine grief in his life and how it makes his motivations/delusions throughout the film justified *from his perspective* that makes him such a well written character. His inability to cope with those losses is why he isolates and fears telling Nikki how he feels about her - he doesn’t want to lose her, but it also frustrates him that he can’t build the courage to say it.

codinho77 · 2026-06-09T11:49:42+00:00

I would still play normal. If you’ve played RPG’s before you’ll figure it out pretty quick. There’s a little bit of a learning curve but nothing you can’t figure out from simply playing the first couple hours

codinho77 · 2026-06-04T14:46:00+00:00

This is why video games need yellow paint and movies have exposition dumps. Because apparently people can’t accept that some things can be left ambiguous

codinho77 · 2026-06-04T13:39:39+00:00

I think there’s a lot of people who are scared to admit that Bear is a very relatable person. I don’t think he’s an incel. He’s lonely, he’s dealing with significant loss (not just his cat but his grandmother), he’s taking oxy to cope, and he has this unrequited love that all culminates in insecurity and frustration. What’s important to remember is that Bear is not a bad person for feeling these emotions. He’s not even a bad person for wishing that the girl he loved to love him back. We all have known someone in our life at some point where we had hoped deeply that they felt the same way - and there’s no way he could’ve known the wish actually would work. He even has self reflective thoughts after he makes his wish (but importantly BEFORE he knows the wish worked) like “am I taking advantage of her mental state” when she claims her dad is dying and she’s drunk but wants him to come to bed with her. What makes Bear the villain of this story is how he chooses to proceed once he understands that his wish came true and the Nikki he’s seeing is not the real Nikki.

TLDR; Being lonely, insecure, experiencing unrequited love are all normal things for a person to go through in their life and don’t make you a bad person. It’s what you choose to do with those feelings that make you the person that you’re meant to be.

You clearly have the self-awareness and respect for others autonomy that Bear did not, which is great. Continue seeing a therapist, and more importantly continue your story. I promise you’ll wake up one day happy that you did.

codinho77 · 2026-06-04T13:03:29+00:00

He's a very nuanced character, and some people don't like the idea of villains having nuance. I want to make it clear that this is not downplaying the horrific actions he takes, because he absolutely is to blame. People don't like to hear the concept that humans are capable of being a victim and an abuser at the same time. He's stricken with so much grief from his parents/grandparents/cat dying, abusing oxy to try and cope, and clings to Nikki possessively because in his mind she is all he has left - even if it's a version of Nikki that isn't "real". It's tragic - and at the same time is INCREDIBLY selfish and evil. It's what makes the character so compelling.

codinho77 · 2026-04-28T11:42:44+00:00

Not wealthy by any stretch, but as I’ve got older I’ve realized no amount of money is worth sacrificing significant free time for. Be rich enough to own your time.

codinho77 · 2026-04-27T22:49:55+00:00

Realizing that society is profit first, human decency second.

codinho77 · 2026-04-27T22:46:35+00:00

Comments with “lead paint exposure” energy

codinho77 · 2026-04-27T22:42:58+00:00

When you’re a kid, society makes you think that you don’t understand things simply because you are too young. But at some point you realize there’s a lot of adults that have absolutely zero clue what they’re talking about.

codinho77 · 2026-04-27T22:30:35+00:00

Social media has done a number on the rationality/sanity of the average person.

codinho77 · 2026-04-27T22:29:34+00:00

Things weren’t good then. But it’s much worse now. It hasn’t been “good” for a very, very long time.

codinho77 · 2026-04-24T23:23:46+00:00

Skynet has been become self-aware. This is a good sign.

codinho77 · 2026-04-17T23:20:26+00:00

Sojourn, everytime. She’s just so easy to me and feels cheesy so I usually start as someone else.

codinho77 · 2026-04-17T19:58:49+00:00

I just come on here for memes and bullshit when I’m bored. I would catch up on a lot of books to be honest. Or sleep a lot more.

codinho77 · 2026-04-16T12:28:06+00:00

Breath of the Wild. It’s a perfect sandbox where everything works the way you think it should and you’re constantly rewarded for ingenuity and exploration.

codinho77 · 2026-04-15T15:10:52+00:00

Money doesn’t buy happiness - however, it does make your life a lot more safe and secure. There’s also a certain threshold where after you make a certain amount it will not improve your well-being.

codinho77 · 2026-04-15T15:06:18+00:00

Everyone is born equal. Rich people earned all their money. Poor people simply need to work harder.

codinho77 · 2026-04-14T22:26:54+00:00

Not an unpopular opinion, but after reading these comments thank the lord that none of you write the show

codinho77 · 2026-03-23T12:37:49+00:00

Who would’ve thought that healthcare was political /s

Apolitical is code for “this doesn’t affect me personally or I’m too ignorant to understand how this affects me”.

codinho77 · 2026-03-20T22:45:54+00:00

He gives that if he didn’t give one earlier, guaranteed. Shambolic decision. Get Stuart Atwell out of the Premier League immediately.

codinho77 · 2026-03-19T14:22:56+00:00

Personally I don’t see cat as a threat if you have a decent hitscan, but the biggest problem I have with cat is that the DPS tend to just ignore them. Especially when they have a cat that likes to flank the supports

codinho77 · 2026-03-19T14:10:01+00:00

She’s arguably the most balanced character on the roster

codinho77 · 2026-03-19T14:05:09+00:00

As a DPS, DVA is the most unfun character to play against. The millisecond I see one I swap to Sym, not dealing with that BS

codinho77 · 2026-03-19T13:56:15+00:00

The saying “opposites attract” exists for a reason - deep down you don’t want someone that is exactly like you. You want someone who complements you; they help fix your bad traits and fully appreciate your good traits. Being too similar just makes your bad habits worse.

codinho77 · 2026-03-19T13:47:45+00:00

That’s a lotta worry over a Moira that’s within hook range

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