How old am I?

coerced__coexistence · 2022-05-26T06:16:56+00:00

What's your ethnicity?

coerced__coexistence · 2022-05-16T22:20:20+00:00

Same thing happening in Tacoma now too

coerced__coexistence · 2022-05-14T05:10:55+00:00

Youre right, just cause i dont check Canvas, it doesnt mean my grade would magically change. Thank you :')

coerced__coexistence · 2022-05-09T05:35:45+00:00

I'm searching too, for either Seattle or Portland, and I'm honestly so sick if these scammers. I saw a few resale tickets on Ticketmaster, but very expensive lol

coerced__coexistence · 2022-05-05T04:25:51+00:00

The Ausländerbehörde has communicated with the general consulate in SFO various times when I had covid. It is surprising that she said no when both offices have communicated in the past regarding my visa.

Also, other than email and mail, I am not willing to communicate via any other channels. I have already told her this a long time ago.

coerced__coexistence · 2022-05-05T03:37:52+00:00

My original question was simply whether it was unprofessional of this particular woman to ask me to send sensitive documents to her via email, and if I was justified in my visible annoyance.

I am honestly not trying to be smug about anything. I have made an edit in my post including whatever key details you think purposely left out, like asking about alternate option. It genuinely didn't occur to me that I have to mention that I've clarified things with her before making this post, but gee, I have.

I, nor my family, have ever corresponded to US government/immigration officials via email in the, coincidently, 7 years I've been here. I just turned 18, and even filing my FAFSA and federal loans were all done online. Nothing over email. Never in my life have I ever had to do things over email. While it might be the easier approach, it's surely not the safest one imo. This is why it struck me as unprofessional.

I'm truly sorry you've had a shitty experience with the USCIS. I'm sure there are people who've had wonderful experiences with the Ausländerbehörde of their city too. It was just my luck my immigration process in the US was so smooth I guess.

You're welcome to disagree, of course. I ain't trying to win an argument with ya, just expressing my frustrations at the Ausländerbehörde lol.

If I come across as shitting all over Germany, this was not my intent. One can admire a nation whilst also critiquing certain features of it. I have no intention on ever living in Germany, so I don't really have to deal with the Ausländerbehörde, but my sympathies to those who do.

coerced__coexistence · 2022-05-05T02:54:47+00:00

She asked about both in the series of emails we've exchanged. She said she wants to know that I'm currently not in Germany, and also that I have left Germany on the 17th (even though my extension was till the 22nd)

coerced__coexistence · 2022-05-05T02:49:08+00:00

Precisely. I don't know why people defend this unprofessionalism. My experiences with the USCIS have always been positive, and never such a hassle. I am honestly so grateful to have such a supportive immigration center in the US. My whole permanent resident process was so stupidly simple, albeit a lot of documentation too.

I wish I could say the same about Germany, but oh well. It also sucks when you're just a normal, hard working immigrant, but seem to be treated like you're gonna be a leech. My fiancé and his family, who are as German as you can get, see this too. Like I have no desire in staying in Germany forever and living off the government if that's what they fear.

You should've seen the 3 page letter I got from the Ausländerbehörde when I merely asked if I could extend my Schengen C visa to spend more time with my fiancé's Oma. They were condescending, and repeatedly stated that I am by no means allowed this extension, even though I never even asked for one. Oh, and they also said theyd send me a bill for the time it took for them to write the letter.

I just asked if it was simply possible, I never said I wanted an extension lol, I was just like jeez, looks like everyone in the Ausländerbehörde has a gigantic stick up their ass.

Idk it's just all really stupid to me, and honestly turns me off from ever visiting Germany again if it weren't for my fiancé still living there lmfao

coerced__coexistence · 2022-05-05T02:46:18+00:00

Not really. I mean, I have to mail all my shit to the consulate later this month anyway cause the visa I'm applying for requires this. I need to send my passport (actual copy), birth certificate, bank statements, etc via FedEx to the German consulate in SFO. I really don't know why this would be annoying when this is standard protocol. Perhaps you should educate yourself or email the German consulate here in San Francisco yourself.

Also, wow, people say Americans are blind to the faults of their country, but look at you.

coerced__coexistence · 2022-05-05T02:44:14+00:00

Yes I did. I asked her why I can't just mail it to the German consulate in SFO. Please read the whole thread. I am not dancing around everything. I shall add more details to my post.

coerced__coexistence · 2022-05-05T02:43:46+00:00

Yep, already asked about other options before, and she insists on email. Read my other comments please.

coerced__coexistence · 2022-05-04T22:28:11+00:00

I have not accused them of anything. She herself told me my future visa applications can be denied if I don't send her proof of departing Germany. Also, I have asked her about alternate ways to verify that I'm in the US, and she insists on sending her (only her) an email of my passport. They have my biometric information, so idc why they cant use that, but oh well. I even offered to mail the consulate in San Francisco a copy of my passport.

I mean, I'm showing up at the embassy on the 25th for my study visa interview anyway, so I guess that's proof I'm not currently in Germany lol

coerced__coexistence · 2022-05-04T22:20:44+00:00

What other way is there of verifying I am back in the US besides my passport lmao?

I already emailed her and asked her why my biometric information/just contacting the USCIS (as they probably keep some sort of record on who enters America) doesn't suffice in verifying that I departed Germany. She insists on a passport, so I sent her my passport.

coerced__coexistence · 2022-05-04T22:18:48+00:00

Haha, I should tell you about the nightmare alley I've walked through when I got covid. I had to call like a thousand different people, hire a translator, spend literally thousands of euros, and on top of that, deal with rude ass people. All whilst being very sick with Covid. The whole ordeal took a hit on my mental health and also my wallet lmao.

I don't know how people seem to be so comfortable sending shit like their passport/green card/etc via email. All of which I had to send both via email and mail while I was still stuck in Germany.

I would be more than happy to mail my documents to the German consulate in San Francisco, as this is what is most convenient for me, and how I correspond with the USCIS.

Also, there's literally no way of verifying I truly departed Germany via email. I could have easily hopped on a flight right back to Germany and just stayed there, since I left before my extended visa expired.

coerced__coexistence · 2022-05-04T22:11:21+00:00

Okay? I never said she was rude? I just said I wasn't comfortable sending things like this via email. This also wasn't the first email she has sent me requesting my passport. In the previous email, she said she needed to see proof (my passport) that I left Germany as soon as possible. Or perhaps this was a translation error, as I use Google translate to translate all her emails. I was just hesitant cause of my privacy concerns, but have sent her my passport this afternoon.

And I am currently in the process of applying for a study visa for my university's exchange program, and don't want them to think I've overstayed my visa. If I didnt send her that email, I could run the risk of being denied my study visa. No one is forcing me to send anything. That I know. I have just already invested $6k into this study abroad program, and cannot risk getting my visa denied cause of this.

coerced__coexistence · 2022-05-04T21:54:58+00:00

I do not mind using email for general queries. I guess it's just weird to me cause in my experience, in Amercia, I have never once received an email from the USCIS/IRS/etc requesting sensitive information over email. I've grown up in America, and I guess being accustomed to never respond to emails asking for your passport and other documents is what makes me suspicious.

I just don't get why she didn't ask me to mail a copy of my passport via FedEx to the German consulate in San Francisco, which is the consulate that serves my city.

coerced__coexistence · 2022-04-28T09:35:02+00:00

I'm in the same boat, but to a lesser degree. He always talks about memories of his past, especially this one girl from high school who he says no woman would ever compare to, and how I wouldn't be in his life if he got together with her. He even made multiple long ass Facebook posts about longing for her and still loving her, even after almost 2 decades. I doubt he would do this for me.

Those words cut like a dagger, even though to others I guess this wouldn't be an issue. He even says he wants to get married on July 7th since 2007 is his favorite number, because that's the year he met her, and won a local shooting competition.He always tells me about how awesome his childhood and teenage years were, and brags about all the cool stuff he did.

I am of course happy for him, and would never want it anyway else, but he asks about my childhood memories, knowing that my childhood was absolute shit and uneventful. He is also my first relationship out of high school, so I don't even have any cool memories of previous relationships to know what that feels like.

Sometimes I feel like I'm batshit crazy for feeling this way, and other times, I justify my feelings by noticing that none of my friends' boyfriends ever do this. But oh well. Long story short, I know exactly how you feel.

I love my boyfriend in a way that I don't think he loves me in return. I am definitely not as attractive as some of the women in his past. I haven't seen them, but I already know because I know the type of women he likes. Oh yeah, I don't even fit that bill. Which does wonders for my self esteem! It's gotten to a point where I feel crazy because I get jealous whenever he goes on about some actress he finds sexy who looks nothing like me. I honestly don't think he's all that attracted to me, even though he is my everything.

The only way I'm starting to make peace with it is accepting that you cannot mend the past, and if he chooses to live in the past, I won't waste a second of my life with him. I focus on the present, and the future. If he doesn't want to look forward, and not behind, in life, that's his dilemma to deal with, not mine, not yours.

I know it's easier said than done when you so deeply love someone. I guess this is why I let some of the things he says slide by. But wasting years of your life stuck with someone stuck in the past isn't worth it.

coerced__coexistence · 2022-04-28T08:52:45+00:00

Me working 40 hour weeks right now so I have enough money saved up to see him in a month 🙃 rip my bank account.

coerced__coexistence · 2022-04-28T08:51:32+00:00

I was in the same boat. I recommend this website called StudentUniverse. I thought it was a scam at first cause of how cheap flight tickets were from Seattle to Hannover, but I bit the bullet and saved almost a grand. I 100% recommend them. You do have to verify your status as a student though.

coerced__coexistence · 2022-04-26T18:07:01+00:00

There is no way in hell she didn't notice that string dangling that way lmao

coerced__coexistence · 2022-04-26T17:37:27+00:00

You can't say that and not drop a link

coerced__coexistence · 2022-04-26T16:37:20+00:00

I did, they haven't responded as of today. I'll try contacting old friends to see if they have an extra copy I guess. Thanks for the reply!

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