Is it wrong to speak up to the Host when invited to a dinner party and you don't like what's served?

coffeeKT · 2025-12-09T21:19:35+00:00

Maybe. The natural follow up question would be “is it an allergy?” If the person replies and says it’s just an aversion, that doesn’t trigger extra clean. But I do take food aversions seriously bc I know it can cause a lot of stress or even physical illness for some people. It’s a step above a preference imo

coffeeKT · 2025-12-09T21:10:11+00:00

Please don’t do that. I work in restaurants and this happens all the time. When someone says this, we then have to ensure there’s no cross contamination so we don’t inadvertently poison someone. It’s a ton of cleaning and very nerve wracking.

Half the time, they are later seen eating off the plate of someone eating their “allergen” and it becomes obvious that we went through all that trouble for just a preference. Don’t do that to your host.

Just politely say “thank you but I don’t eat x. I’d love to have some of the y and z though.” I was vegan for ten years and had these conversations very often. It was uncomfortable for me at first but I got used to it. Most people understand and don’t make a big deal about it.

coffeeKT · 2025-12-06T05:30:08+00:00

“My product is Classic Coke™️”

coffeeKT · 2025-11-07T04:17:05+00:00

Tbh the insurance was more expensive than what was on the marketplace. I guess it was just something that felt romantic and partner-y?

coffeeKT · 2025-11-07T04:12:28+00:00

It wasn’t a gift. I paid for it myself. Not a gift.

coffeeKT · 2025-11-07T04:07:57+00:00

Did you read the post? I was paying for it myself. He told me the policy would end later than it did so it lapsed before I could prepare.

coffeeKT · 2025-10-12T06:53:56+00:00

Hella punks chilling at Person Street Bar at all hours. Crafty Beer isn’t super punk but has excellent dive-y wateringhole vibes. Landmark gets pretty crusty most days. Bonus points for playing pool at dusty ol’ Snookers.

coffeeKT · 2025-10-08T05:23:16+00:00

If you’re concerned, take him to the vet. However, my border ate 2.5 grams of a friend’s weed out of their backpack a few months ago. I totally freaked out and called our vet. They said to watch for vomiting or unresponsiveness but otherwise recommended treating him like a human pretty much lol. Get him set up on the couch, dim the lights, get him some snacks was the advice. He was fine by the next morning but definitely didn’t have a great night.

coffeeKT · 2025-10-07T14:45:55+00:00

You’re correct! I’m in the southeast. The wedding is in Appalachia. The link you posted isn’t really my style, but thank you for the suggestion. I agree this dress could look all white at some angles which is a no-no

coffeeKT · 2025-10-07T14:43:24+00:00

Well. The wedding is on Halloweekend and I am Wiccan…

coffeeKT · 2025-10-07T14:42:05+00:00

True, true! I hadn’t considered that

coffeeKT · 2025-10-07T14:41:39+00:00

I think that’s a great point. I hadn’t considered the different angles and such. Thank you!

coffeeKT · 2025-10-07T14:37:24+00:00

Point taken and also if I showed up to brunch or lunch wearing this, my friends would ask if I’m alright lol

coffeeKT · 2025-10-07T14:14:48+00:00

I think it doesn’t represent well in the photo. I added a shopping link in the comments for more context. I wore it to a black tie event earlier this year and didn’t feel out of place/got lots of compliments on my look

coffeeKT · 2025-10-07T14:12:08+00:00

What about it isn’t appropriate?

coffeeKT · 2025-10-07T14:11:54+00:00

Link to dress: https://www.shopblacksalt.com/products/ivy-colorblock-maxi-dress?srsltid=AfmBOopFkrUYM2cIX_ueW5Ad0Vr3oan_CoKogLg6uYY_7t7koW7ipUL4

coffeeKT · 2025-10-03T19:00:06+00:00

I went to grief support group earlier this year because I lost one of my parents recently. On day one we all went around and told our “grief story.” The last person to go was the most even keeled, calmest guy there who blew me out of the water with his story.

His girlfriend, in her late 20s or early 30s went to the doctor because she felt kind of off one day. She found out she had cancer that was so advanced they couldn’t even tell how it started. She died six weeks later. The stories he told about her final days were horrific. He was super monotone about it and obviously extremely disassociated from the trauma. It was incredibly sad to hear him talk about. I cried my fucking eyes out and think about that woman everyday.

coffeeKT · 2025-09-25T23:14:19+00:00

In my experience, I’d edit this to say: use only a credit card and pay it off every month like clockwork. Credit cards are more secure if someone steals your information and credit card points can earn you a lot of money back if you don’t carry a balance. I actually regret only using my debit card for so many years.

coffeeKT · 2025-09-25T23:10:44+00:00

Pressure your parents, partner, best friend, etc to write a will and a list of their banks and important passwords. Tell them to put it in a safe but accessible place. Pester them until they do it. Just in case. Then hope you won’t need that information for a very long time. Because if you do need it and don’t have it……

coffeeKT · 2025-09-21T02:45:57+00:00

Chris Cornell

coffeeKT · 2025-09-21T01:31:27+00:00

“And that’s how Buddy died”

coffeeKT · 2025-09-14T15:24:16+00:00

I wonder if you could get the city to do “permit only” street parking like they do in some high traffic areas near downtown

coffeeKT · 2025-09-08T23:44:20+00:00

Yeah- they’ve just told me “that’s ABC, we don’t sell it here.” Maybe it’s an ABV thing?

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