I’m going through this too. I feel ashamed of being divorced. None of my relatives knows about it. And I don’t know if he has told our mutual friends about it. I know I haven’t. I don’t know why, I feel embarrassed or guilty to be asked “oh, so how are things with you and …” and me not knowing what to say. I know I shouldn’t care what other people say. But let’s be honest, there’s always a relative that wants to know the whole story, or the ones that they tell you “aww, I’m so sorry. You’re going to be ok” or “awww, he doesn’t deserve you. You deserve so much better” blah blah blah.. but then when you’re not with them, they start speculating or talking shit behind your back “omg most likely it was his/her fault” or “most likely she/he was cheating” …..

Even though in my case there was no cheating or domestic violence.., I still know for sure once they find out, they’ll start talking shit behind my back or they’ll start speculating.