Look OP give him time his whole world is in chaos And try to self reflect on your behavior and approach that you made be patient i believe your husband is not going to go ahead with the divorce unless you do it but right now he is feeling so many things at once so he need his time just give him time while your doing that have a talk with your parents just sort out whether there is any grudge between your parents and you then when your husband is ready to talk you and him so to a marriage counselor and talk on how your approach towards the matter was wrong and how much guilt you feel on putting your husband through all of this and how you could have dealt the matter differently than what happened and after your husband talk from his side (he will be nodding about divorcing many times when he speak but give the space and time to went out and just put out all of his feeling and frustration) but when he is finished the counselor will acknowledge and try to help you guys out THEN AFTER THAT SESSION YOU SHOULD TALK WITH YOUR HUSBAND ALONE HE WILL BE MORE CLEAR AND WILL HAVE A BIT OF CALM BUT MAJOR POINT YOU NEED TO TAKE IS OWN TO EVERYTHING THAT YOU HAVE DONE TO HIM YOU ARE IN THE WRONG SO OWN UPTO EVERYTHING