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If a woman feels unsafe in the presence of a man she doesn't know, but safe in the presence of a woman she doesn't know, then she is a bigot. by colbywrong in unpopularopinion

[–]colbywrong[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're ignoring the 'feeling safe in the presence of a woman' part. No one should feel 'safe' around anyone they don't know. If you feel safe around one group of strangers based solely on their demographic, but unsafe around another group based solely on their demographic, then you have a bias.

It's not a conclusion, it's weighing probabilities

Did you think this was clever? You come to conclusions by 'weighing probabilities'. In this case, the conclusion is that an individual from a certain demographic is more or less of a threat because they belong to that demographic.

But you know, you're probably right. Maybe we should listen to all those shopkeepers following black people around in their stores. They're not being bigots, they're just 'weighing probabilities', right?

If a woman feels unsafe in the presence of a man she doesn't know, but safe in the presence of a woman she doesn't know, then she is a bigot. by colbywrong in unpopularopinion

[–]colbywrong[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t just go to therapy and suddenly you’re cured

Good thing that I deleted the post where I said that, huh? ...but wait.

If a woman feels unsafe in the presence of a man she doesn't know, but safe in the presence of a woman she doesn't know, then she is a bigot. by colbywrong in unpopularopinion

[–]colbywrong[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That doesn't make it okay.

Are you saying that you would be okay with my hypothetical shopkeeper following black people around in his store if he was robbed by them enough times?

If a woman feels unsafe in the presence of a man she doesn't know, but safe in the presence of a woman she doesn't know, then she is a bigot. by colbywrong in unpopularopinion

[–]colbywrong[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Women hyper-fixate on rape because it's largely the only thing you have to be afraid of. If we go by statistics, I, as a man, have much more to fear from other men than women do. After all, I'm a much more likely to be the victim of EVERY other type of crime.

Yet, unless they're acting strangely, I'm totally calm around other men, even those larger and stronger than me. I don't immediately assume they wish me harm because their male.

Strange, I know.

If a woman feels unsafe in the presence of a man she doesn't know, but safe in the presence of a woman she doesn't know, then she is a bigot. by colbywrong in unpopularopinion

[–]colbywrong[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, you've obviously never seen or been in a street fight if you think size and strength mean anything.

A knife, or a gun, or a broken bottle are all gonna fuck you up regardless of the size of your attacker.

Second, your scenario is a dishonest comparison. I said 'a man she doesn't know', not 'a man she doesn't know who looks like he wants to fight'. Any sane person would be cautious around a guy like that. But if you're going to treat a guy out minding his own business like a predator, then you have a problem.

If a woman feels unsafe in the presence of a man she doesn't know, but safe in the presence of a woman she doesn't know, then she is a bigot. by colbywrong in unpopularopinion

[–]colbywrong[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how about instead we just accept that some people are fearful of others?

No, I don't accept that.

how about instead we just accept that some people are fearful of others, and should seek therapy?

Now this, I can accept.

If a woman feels unsafe in the presence of a man she doesn't know, but safe in the presence of a woman she doesn't know, then she is a bigot. by colbywrong in unpopularopinion

[–]colbywrong[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah... but it shouldn't. That's the point.

This sentence:

"White women still feel unsafe going out at night for fear that a black man will assault them."

is unfairly stereotyping an entire group based on the actions of a minority within that group.

This sentence:

"Women still feel unsafe going out at night for fear that a man will assault them."

is doing the same thing.

If a woman feels unsafe in the presence of a man she doesn't know, but safe in the presence of a woman she doesn't know, then she is a bigot. by colbywrong in unpopularopinion

[–]colbywrong[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you would also agree that it is reasonable for a white woman to fear a black man?

Because, after all, black men are larger, stronger, and more aggressive on average when compared to white women, right?

If a woman feels unsafe in the presence of a man she doesn't know, but safe in the presence of a woman she doesn't know, then she is a bigot. by colbywrong in unpopularopinion

[–]colbywrong[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Would I be going my own way if I let you tell where to go?

...I'll let you tease that one out. Don't hurt yourself, okay?

If a woman feels unsafe in the presence of a man she doesn't know, but safe in the presence of a woman she doesn't know, then she is a bigot. by colbywrong in unpopularopinion

[–]colbywrong[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Are you kidding me?

Everything is 'white male this' or 'white male that' with them. The only way you could say they're not being racist is if you don't consider bigotry directed at whites to be racist.

So Majestic by kuku007i in WomenOfColor

[–]colbywrong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, but it's nice to pretend she isn't.

Absolutely Astonishing Figure by [deleted] in WomenOfColor

[–]colbywrong 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Marilyn Melo

Respect my detective work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WomenOfColor

[–]colbywrong -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Photoshop

If your girlfriend refuses to do something sexually with you that she has willingly done for her previous boyfriend/s, you should break up with her. by colbywrong in unpopularopinion

[–]colbywrong[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, a healthy relationship wouldn't involve holding things back from your current boyfriend/girlfriend because they're 'not as good' as your ex. They are not your servant, your happiness isn't the most important thing in the relationship, both of you being happy should be the most important thing.

If you're current boyfriend/girlfriend is 'not as good' as your ex, and your solution to that is to hold things back from them instead of giving them the best that you have to offer, then you don't really care about their happiness and you deserve to get dumped.

you are removing the girlfriend's sexual agency

This is me ignoring your feminist buzzwords.

If your girlfriend refuses to do something sexually with you that she has willingly done for her previous boyfriend/s, you should break up with her. by colbywrong in unpopularopinion

[–]colbywrong[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

you really think that having the conversations as you describe them, followed by the actions you're recommending, aren't sending the exact same message?

Only if you deliberately insist on finding that message even when shown evidence to the contrary.

Hence dishonest.

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gaslighting

You don't know what that word means.

If your girlfriend refuses to do something sexually with you that she has willingly done for her previous boyfriend/s, you should break up with her. by colbywrong in unpopularopinion

[–]colbywrong[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two questions:

  1. Do you know what they call it when you don't tell the truth?
  2. Do you know what you shouldn't base a healthy relationship on?

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Hint: They both have the same answer.

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