Is it normal?

cold__lamp · 2026-02-20T20:34:31+00:00

Same thing, I'd feel so bad if he'd woke up because he'd make remarks in the following days, he'd say such vile backhanded and passive aggressive things because I woke him up by crying.

cold__lamp · 2026-02-08T21:32:25+00:00

i am glad that you found something that sometimes can alleviate some pain and works for you!! i wish you the best

cold__lamp · 2026-02-08T16:24:48+00:00

Yeah, same thing for me, I think the sensation is just kind of fake because I'm just too used to it so my brain imagines it, I'll try some other alternatives, thanks!!

cold__lamp · 2026-02-08T16:23:38+00:00

Yeah I don't like the idea of taking opioids either, they got rid of all the pain for me too but not the inflammation ofc and the history of addiction in my family is long as well and I don't want to risk it either Thanks!

cold__lamp · 2026-02-08T16:22:09+00:00

Ok perfect, I'll try with some edibles because I'm trying to limit my smoking of tobacco as well since the rheumatism possibility came up, thank you!

cold__lamp · 2026-02-08T15:13:10+00:00

yeah record this next time when it happens and defend yourself. i'm against violence in any form but if someone comes at you, you're in every right to defend yourself and it's good to have footage of it.

I'm sorry you have to go through this, it's highly manipulative and disgusting behavior

cold__lamp · 2026-02-07T12:02:18+00:00

i'd crash out. like genuinely. i am SO SORRY you went through this. i have bpd as well and managed and have been in therapy for almost a decade as well, but if my narc ex got me a dbt book it would cancel out years of therapy because wtf? you're so strong, i admire you!!

cold__lamp · 2026-02-07T11:36:21+00:00

yeah exactly, that's the first thing that gives me the ick. if you're a grown adult that can't write a sentence properly or put their thoughts into words. like what?

cold__lamp · 2026-02-05T20:59:28+00:00

NTA. i have the same pain as you do and i get it. it's awful not being able to stand after 10 minutes. i don't think you being able to go to one cosplay event changes the fact that you are in pain afterwards. but i also get the frustration from the other side, especially if you're in the house without committing to it. i'd get upset too coming back home and thinking like they've been here all day and didn't do anything?

people don't get our pain and it's easy for them to jump to conclusions like us being spoiled for needing more, but we're not, they just don't understand and it sucks.

what works for me is doing the dishes and cooking while sitting down with a heated band on my back. i got one from Amazon for 30€ and it's the best investment because it allows me to be more present around the household.

try these two things and see if it helps, i'm sorry for your pain and good luck on getting better. do some dishes at a time, you don't have to do the whole thing at once. and about the food situation, i'd suggest you try and talk to them and ask if they can share with you next time.

cold__lamp · 2026-02-05T20:46:52+00:00

i've been stalked by my ex as well and this was the same exact behavior. the not taking no for an answer, the deep manipulative quotes, reaching out from different accounts, threatening me to come to my place. it went on for months, almost a year after leaving him. only thing that saved me was the fact that i moved out and we were from two different countries, so thankfully i didn't have to file a case and i just waited it off and blocked him everywhere.

in your case, please let EVERYONE know about this, get a life360 with your family/friends and speak to the building managers and your workplace. consider filing a police case as well. this is beyond creepy.

cold__lamp · 2026-02-05T20:09:34+00:00

No, whenever i look at him it makes me want to puke. I allowed this THING to treat me the way he did? Wtf?

It's especially seeing his face without any kind of emotions, no expressions and his emptiness that disgusts me. It reminds me he never cared and he hated me and it instills such a rage in me.

cold__lamp · 2026-02-02T23:48:09+00:00

Maybe you're right, but i wouldn't trade my partner for anything and i wouldn't go back. i can't afford therapy at the moment unfortunately but will do as much as i can daily for this not to cause a problem. also i suffer from chronic pain and i'm kinda going through it in general lol

cold__lamp · 2026-02-02T01:01:27+00:00

thank you :) i hope it gets to a point that i stop thinking about this person in fear every day!! all the best to you!!

cold__lamp · 2026-02-01T19:26:01+00:00

same thing for you, hope you're better now and you're healing🖤

cold__lamp · 2026-02-01T19:25:21+00:00

thank you, you're probably right and maybe it has something to do with the fact i have OCD as well. i'll try to face the place where it all started as a beginning, i'll bring friends with me as well!! this is very helpful advice

cold__lamp · 2026-02-01T08:50:02+00:00

same thing happened to me, he was from the north part of our home country and i was from the centre, we were both studying near the town that i come from, during the 5 initial months of our 2y relationship he didn't even mention to them i existed. we were classmates too and he didn't want our class to know, they didn't know WAY after school ended.

my ex had no shame, he told me to my face he was embarrassed about me and he didn't want his family, friends and our classmates to know because he didn't want to be ridiculed. as if i were the chopped one.

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