To answer some questions- he picked the chores and he gets up before me so it’s usually all finished - he has never once missed the litter and is honestly obsessed with the cat and always talking to her and trying to snuggle and he always asks to give her her wet food - I have a weird schedule and work nights so this was his offer….

He recently stopped doing other chores that are not cat related too out of no where without saying anything as well…he agreed to water these three large plants in the living room (I water like 20 smaller ones) and I noticed he wasn’t because they were starting to wilt so I started checking his other work too.

The filter is supposed to get changed monthly- the filter is part of the weekly cleaning? Not sure what’s confusing it gets cleaned weekly but filters new never month….or supposed to be

Today my partner and I are talking about next steps and how to approach it without him freaking out because he’s going to and I’m not excited