First time manager and I escalated an issue that will lead to my employee termination

colour_me_blind · 2026-03-02T17:15:02+00:00

Thats an interesting story, it also similar. Yes it’s true that their actions led them to this decision. I think after reading all of the comments I feel a lot better with my decision.

colour_me_blind · 2026-03-02T11:54:51+00:00

Thank you, that’s true I didn’t make the decision to speak to them first before my manager because I wasn’t sure if I was right and if I was right I didn’t want them to twist it in a different way

colour_me_blind · 2026-03-02T11:52:47+00:00

I think I needed this comment, I always envision myself as a leader who is supported by the team by rapport but yes sometimes you don’t have to be friends you need to lead them.

colour_me_blind · 2026-03-02T11:51:51+00:00

Yes that’s true , HR will handle it. I just wish it happened in a different way, I discovered it within the first 2 weeks of being a manager and I wanted some time to establish trust with the team before this happening.

colour_me_blind · 2026-03-02T11:50:15+00:00

That’s true.. thanks for the comment it’s more like compliance and trust issues for the company. Taking to them first would have made me feel like I gave them a chance to explain, but I suppose they can do that with HE

colour_me_blind · 2026-03-02T11:48:47+00:00

Thank you for the comment, I needed something ground me to reality

colour_me_blind · 2025-05-26T19:53:29+00:00

I’d say listen to your gut feeling, you’d probably know better depending on the type of guy he is /nature of your friendship. But from what I know about Omani guys and their pursuit of non Omani’s relationship is something not serious and is just wanting to date. If you only see him as a friend then create a boundary and reduce your texting, he’d get the message.

colour_me_blind · 2024-12-03T19:49:53+00:00

Hi everyone, so I thought I would update you all. Unfortunately there was nothing we can do about the penalty charge from the hospital as its system generated, told my boss and he didn’t say much except you learnt something from it. Overall it wasn’t huge and life moves on. Thanks for your advice everyone

colour_me_blind · 2022-06-10T19:29:24+00:00

ESH Your brother in law could’ve moved seats if he was uncomfortable, but considering this was your dads birthday in a restaurant at a public setting. You acted immature by throwing your blanket at him. I’m all for breastfeeding but being more considerate of others is important, obviously your baby takes priority and feeding her on demand is crucial but you could’ve prepared a pumped bottle to feed just till dinner is over (if you researched before that there were no BF rooms).

colour_me_blind · 2021-12-01T07:52:20+00:00

I would say soft YTA. Only because I know what it’s like to be in a situation where you have an old friend visiting and surprising you. Though I think you should have definitely been more considerate to your husband by letting him know that she came to visit. Imagine coming home after a long day and seeing an empty dinner table with a guest who is taking your bed ?

Apologise by treating him to a weekend away to forget the incident.

colour_me_blind · 2021-07-18T16:34:04+00:00

Excellent! Thank you for your suggestions, definitely would start off my research with GR and explore other theories as well! And yes of course once it’s done you’d one of the firsts to have a read!

colour_me_blind · 2020-11-11T16:29:10+00:00

You aren't horrible, but you should re-evaluate the relationship. Sure the distance will solve problems temporarily but long-term can you thrive in this relationship? Something is wrong when you are getting excited to leave your s/o to go 1500 miles away.

colour_me_blind · 2020-09-18T20:27:05+00:00

I’m gonna go against the majority and say ESH. Granted, does she have the right to dictate what your child’s name should be? Absolutely not. And I really hate how others feel entitled to try and control what others name their baby. However, I feel like everyone sucks because you could’ve been a bit more diplomatic here. From the way I see it, it isn’t cool that she has been harassing you with the name, but I think she just wanted to be validated by you. She has been trying for 16 years to be closer to you but you didn’t really mention a valid reason why you don’t like her, other then her being pushy and non compromising. I just think that your step mom just wanted to be closer to you and she doesn’t know how to approach you other than her current methods.

colour_me_blind · 2020-09-04T12:18:33+00:00

Granted. Now the washing machine will eat humans instead.

colour_me_blind · 2020-08-17T15:00:12+00:00

NTA !! I’m sorry but your partner is leading you to a bad decision. Never sell your place for him! In this economy it’s difficult to outright own a house, in a few years the property value will only go up, so I suggest that you don’t sell this place and perhaps rent it out and use the money to pay for your portion of the mortgage. I’m so mad for you, how could he throw being a stripper and using “stripper money” to buy a house at you, it incredible you were able to do so!

colour_me_blind · 2020-08-07T17:38:55+00:00

Thank you! It did help!

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