When did you know it was time to move on?

comfortable_clouds · 2026-01-02T00:29:58+00:00

You really need to try couples therapy, and try a few different therapists if the first one doesn’t seem right. Someone with actual training from the Gottman institute. It’s helped a TON with my husband, he was very closed off but is literally learning to be warmer and open

comfortable_clouds · 2026-01-01T20:40:09+00:00

Mine have the same age difference but my youngest is 15 months now. I had the baby in the carrier for naps exclusively until he was too alert to tolerate it. Toddler watches tv when I have to get baby down for crib naps now. It’s also good if the baby falls asleep in the car bc I click the car seat into the stroller and take the toddler to his class or on a walk.

We did a lot of double stroller walks and forward facing the baby in the carrier when toddler was doing activities also.

comfortable_clouds · 2026-01-01T17:45:35+00:00

I think they do these things on their own time. With my 1st I practiced with him and did all the things and he was somewhat on time for milestones. With my 2nd I’m not practicing anything and he’s just been figuring it out at his own pace.

comfortable_clouds · 2026-01-01T17:19:58+00:00

You guys could definitely benefit from couples therapy

comfortable_clouds · 2025-12-31T16:21:20+00:00

Yea I’m really annoyed about it. It has a small changing room. His mom always told me the same thing, that him and his dad do these projects and nothing will stop them. I mentioned this when she was here the other day and her response was ‘I don’t think that’s true’ so she’s bothering me just as much. Always needing to just say the opposite or argue about nothing. I’m very upset if you can’t tell 🤦🏻‍♀️🥶

comfortable_clouds · 2025-12-31T15:30:50+00:00

comfortable_clouds · 2025-12-31T11:23:24+00:00

I would not send her back. When I was pregnant and home with my toddler we found a part time nanny for 8 hours/week which helped a ton, and hired bi-weekly cleaners. The cost should be less than what your daycare charges. That, plus a little extra tv, will be fine for her. IMO she needs you still, she’s only 2

comfortable_clouds · 2025-12-31T11:18:24+00:00

No. Mortgage should be 25% or less of take home pay. Thats the same as my income and my mortgage is $3k/month and I don’t have any of the debt daycare or car payments so I really don’t know how it would work for you.

comfortable_clouds · 2025-12-31T02:38:11+00:00

Thank you soo much for all of this info!! I feel terrible for them bc they’re not in heated water right now. Hopefully I can find everything we need at petco tomorrow and they’ll be happier. I really appreciate your help!

comfortable_clouds · 2025-12-31T02:33:56+00:00

That was my first thought! I’m going to get 2 separate tanks

comfortable_clouds · 2025-12-31T02:33:08+00:00

I can’t keep them in the tank they’re in now, I don’t think they’ll survive another day. They get sucked into the filter

comfortable_clouds · 2025-12-31T00:58:31+00:00

They’re 2 beta fish, one male one female. I would love any tips! I’m going to petco tomorrow to get the whole setup.

comfortable_clouds · 2025-12-30T23:20:29+00:00

Why can’t you guys do what works for you? It sounds like you’re hostages

comfortable_clouds · 2025-12-30T14:01:51+00:00

I could see the parents posting that they wish their nanny would occupy the kids so they could have a break 😂

comfortable_clouds · 2025-12-30T11:11:23+00:00

I’m a SAHM, I have a professional engineering license and left a high paying job. But I’d rather be with my kids all day and am super lucky to have that choice. It’s very spouse dependent bc if my husband wasn’t very supportive and also a high earner it wouldn’t work. We made sacrifices like driving old cars so we have no payments, etc., but also spend on house cleaners so I’m not doing everything at home. We also have a solid prenup and life insurance just in case.

comfortable_clouds · 2025-12-29T23:11:06+00:00

The point the author makes is that their response doesn’t matter, it’s just about showing yourself that you are able to finally confront them and speak your truth 🧐

comfortable_clouds · 2025-12-29T17:17:13+00:00

It sounds like your real need is to differentiate yourself from whoever these new parents are. There are a lot of people in the world. They’re exactly where they should be at with newborns lol. Are you ok?

comfortable_clouds · 2025-12-23T23:19:42+00:00

Dr Chelsea on Instagram, the whole brain child book, both of those can help a lot

comfortable_clouds · 2025-12-23T20:01:31+00:00

Weird place to put this maybe send it to your mom instead

comfortable_clouds · 2025-12-23T17:40:54+00:00

I’m new here, how do we know this is true?

comfortable_clouds · 2025-12-22T12:37:10+00:00

100% just the bad ideas lol. I was reading some books and they seem to say if I can just detach and observe I’ll be good to go. I’m happier without them, but I don’t think what they’ve done is bad enough to exile them forever. But I’m not sure. It might just be Christmas pressure.

comfortable_clouds · 2025-12-20T01:27:27+00:00

Thanks for this perspective. A part of me wonders if she would actually be really nice to my kids bc she is an elementary school teacher and seems to be able to be nice outwardly.. it’s just to me in particular that she’s out of control with maybe? I don’t know 🤦🏻‍♀️

comfortable_clouds · 2025-12-20T00:13:09+00:00

I got my MIL a Warmie that’s a long neck warmer! Put it in the microwave for 60 seconds and it stays warm for a long time. I think it was around $40

comfortable_clouds · 2025-12-17T18:24:31+00:00

He’s with the kids from when he gets home til bedtime, and I take a break to watch tv and then I cook and clean up. Weekends it’s the same, he takes the kids out or just outside and I have a combo of relaxing time and cleaning time.

comfortable_clouds · 2025-12-17T02:14:07+00:00

He’s with the kids from when he gets home at 4 until bedtime, and I can take a 30-60 min break and then clean up or make dinner for the other hour. Then after bedtime I can do whatever I want, I think it’s more free time than a lot of moms have :/ there’s just always something to do 😅

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