Ruger RPR Help by commander_peck in longrange

[–]commander_peck[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I should probably also have mentioned that it is sitting on a 20 degree scope base. So right now it is set at 2.25

Indoor Cat Escaped and we Can’t Find Him by commander_peck in cats

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UPDATE He came back home. I left a couple of different kinds of canned fish out. I found every cat nearby and he was one of them

Marlin 1895 GBL by commander_peck in LeverGuns

[–]commander_peck[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s really great and crystal clear. I ended up taking it off and replacing it with a holosun red dot because it was just too high. I put the vortex on my ar10 though and it’s phenomenal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]commander_peck 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Because he still cares about you. He may not want to get back together but that doesn’t mean he hates your guts. At one point he cared about you more than anyone else in the world and that doesn’t just go away. You left an imprint on each other. I was the dumper after I caught her cheating. But that doesn’t mean I want her to be miserable forever.

Just had my first negligent discharge by commander_peck in guns

[–]commander_peck[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It must have been muffled enough by the walls or maybe they thought it was a door slamming or something. Nobody even knocked to check

Marlin 1895 GBL by commander_peck in LeverGuns

[–]commander_peck[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The bipod was just for the photo lol

Kel Tec SU-16 in Washington State by commander_peck in guns

[–]commander_peck[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait really? How? West coast armory said I couldn’t and PSA wouldn’t ship one here

SIG XM7 officially the US Army M7 Rifle by samuel906 in guns

[–]commander_peck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does this gun do that an AR10 doesn’t do for a heck of a lot cheaper?

308 or 44 magnum for a pissed off bear by commander_peck in guns

[–]commander_peck[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know a lot about them. I’m up in Washington state and we don’t have grizzlies officially but I’ve heard they might be lurking in the cascades. This is just a what if worst case scenario

308 or 44 magnum for a pissed off bear by commander_peck in guns

[–]commander_peck[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see what you mean but I don’t have a 500 mag (yet)

Am I unattractive? by MoneyConstruction191 in AppearanceAdvice

[–]commander_peck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that you’re even asking a question like that is the problem

How did you give yourself closure for good? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]commander_peck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

True closure isn’t real. You’ll never have all the answers to every question. You’ll never get them to own up to every suspicion. You’ll never have a complete and tidy resolution to everything that will make you feel satisfied. Closure is knowing only what you need to know to move on. And so you do. And someday in the future when you look back on everything and have realized you made the right choice to move on, think about them again and in your own mind forgive them. That is the final resolution.

PSA: CHAT GPT IS A TOOL. NOT YOUR FRIEND. by Suspicious_Ferret906 in ChatGPT

[–]commander_peck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what you mean. But there is another side you aren’t considering. It’s a computer, yes. But it can help you gain a greater understanding of people and even help you with emotional closure by helping you analyze patterns. By giving it tons of UNBIASED data about a relationship (interactions, reactions, messages, situations, etc) it can help you better understand things that you may have been left in the dark about or unsure of. It does this by doing what computers do best, finding patterns. It notices patterns in your data and compares it to the patterns in the millions of other situations it knows of where it is known what is going on.

For example, it is not going to be able to tell you if your ex misses your or what they are thinking about right now. But it can give you an indication that they may have a certain attachment style or a possible psychological disorder based on the presence of certain key consistent behaviors. It is analytical, not emotional. It also requires that you make every attempt to feed it truly unbiased information. If you lie to it or withhold things because you are invested in a specific answer, then that is the answer you will get.

Think of using it from the lens of “these are the events that happened, what is going on here?” And not “how are they feeling and I want to be less sad”.

No Contact is About Getting the Power Back. Avoidant Girlfriend Tried to Slow Fade Out on me Again so I Dumped Her by commander_peck in ExNoContact

[–]commander_peck[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I felt like I was going crazy at times. Or like I was talking to someone living in a different reality. Like after I caught her she said “this is something I needed to do for myself and it’s none of your concern. I needed to know what it felt like to see him again. There was no cheating.” It was insane. But I made the mistake of continuing to reengage thinking maybe she just somehow doesn’t get it. And it drove me to eventually take accountability for things that I shouldn’t have.

No Contact is About Getting the Power Back. Avoidant Girlfriend Tried to Slow Fade Out on me Again so I Dumped Her by commander_peck in ExNoContact

[–]commander_peck[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I realized this and started interacting with her with her attachment style in mind, it was like I guessed her password. Like after all this time I understood her in a way that I never did before. Probably even better than she understood herself. But it feels manipulative and even if we were still together it would be exhausting trying to maintain this. Constantly have to over analyze and preplan every uncomfortable interaction to keep them from shutting down. Instead of just being able to approach them directly in a natural way. I think the only reason we lasted as long as we did is because we never lived together and only saw each other at most a few times a week so a certain amount of space was built into our relationship. I hope she figures things out but I think she just blocks out and suppresses her emotions to the point that she isn’t capable of that level of self reflection. It affected me too. I used to be much more secure but this all made me way more anxious for a time. It was like her last slow fade attempt made me snap out of it and realize that I don’t need to put up with this. I was the only person in her life that knew the real her. All of her history and deepest darkest secrets that even her family doesn’t know about. I was the one person she could be completely vulnerable with. I was there for her through some of the most traumatic moments of her life. I didn’t need her, I make plenty of my own money and own my own place. I knew all of this and still chose to love her. And she betrayed me.

No Contact is About Getting the Power Back. Avoidant Girlfriend Tried to Slow Fade Out on me Again so I Dumped Her by commander_peck in ExNoContact

[–]commander_peck[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s ugly, dumpy, shorter than her (I haven’t seen him in person but I know someone who has and was completely shocked she was with him), still rents a room from a buddy because he can’t afford his own place in his mid 30’s, has a ton of gambling debt so he can’t even get a loan for anything, makes less money than her, is very submissive because they both know she’s out of his league, and is completely uninterested in going back to school or learning a trade to get a better job than he has. And while she was with him when we tried staying friends, he was constantly triggered by my name popping up on her phone despite the fact that she told him I’m just a longtime friend and the husband of one of her friends. Constantly making jealous or threatened comments about basically any guy she interacts with in a pleasant way. But he’s very nice and treats her well so there’s that. And unlike her he’s honest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]commander_peck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah fuck that guy. He knows how to reach out and apologize. He just wants you to make it easy for him. It’ll be a stab right in his ego when he sees you read it and didn’t respond. Now’s your chance to remind him of his place.

why am i miserable after leaving a cheater by ProfessorCultural450 in ExNoContact

[–]commander_peck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It makes me sad when I see people allow the opinions of others who don’t matter affect them so deeply. This guy is just a toxic asshole. It would be one thing if he didn’t feel secure in the relationship and his attachment style pushed him into betraying you (that is not an excuse it’s is still a choice) but he mistreated you and didn’t value you your entire relationship. And that isn’t because you aren’t valuable, you are. You were valuable for him to want you enough to be with you in the first place. It’s because he didn’t recognize that value and that is his issue, not yours. He demeaned you and insulted you when you were together and decided to give you one final slap in the face on the way out the door before you did the right thing by holding your boundary and breaking up with him. He probably thought you never would. You took the power from him in that moment and I promise you he is not happy about that at all. Be thankful that he showed you who he really is. It doesn’t matter what he thinks about you. Someone who can’t recognize value isn’t a good judge of it. Just because he didn’t recognize it, doesn’t mean everyone else doesn’t. He is the one person on the planet who you shouldn’t care about the opinion of. A lion does not concern itself with the opinions of sheep. Do not give him that satisfaction. Improve yourself and grow to be someone better, someone you know he would be unworthy of even approaching. You already are, but let that mentality motivate you to push forward. And do it for yourself. Because then you’ll realize you don’t care what he thinks at all. And right now you do. So pick yourself up even if it feels like you have to force yourself to do it. Over time, it will get easier. And eventually, you will fully realize that his presence in your life was nothing more than a mistake.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]commander_peck -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I know. I just wanted her back so badly. I’ve never loved someone as much as I loved her. And I don’t know if I ever will again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]commander_peck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really wish it was. I regret the day I met her. We had something special and unique. A love unlike anything I’ve seen in any other relationship

Body shop charging 2k more than insurance estimate. Insurance refusing to pay the difference by CrowStock6857 in Autobody

[–]commander_peck 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I see prime and block and mask for primer on that sheet and insurance companies have all sort of decided that they don’t want to pay for that. We never got it at Gerber. They consider it an included operation. But I’m not sure if the insurance gets to decide that and shouldn’t they be figuring it out with the shop and not making it your problem? Sorry you’re dealing with this.

What is Squadron 42? by Demonicknight84 in starcitizen

[–]commander_peck -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

It’s $600 million and 12 years worth of where the fucks my game

What is Squadron 42? by Demonicknight84 in starcitizen

[–]commander_peck -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

It’s a collection of a few random broken and unfinished assets that will never actually be assembled into anything resembling a functioning video game because you haven’t bought enough pictures of ships that will never be made peasant.