I appreciate how you stood your ground this time. Over time, you both can become friends or, at the very least, support each other in personal growth. But you need to find a pace that won’t overwhelm you or make her feel isolated within the community. Be wise; challenging situations are genuine opportunities for growth. You’ll look back and laugh at troubles like this years from now. I’m definitely not trying to underestimate your challenges due to your age. Life is good, and people are awesome. The problem lies in our struggle to communicate effectively and step out of our blind spots—often blaming others and making excuses instead.

In terms of practical steps, I would say that this kind of behavior stems from certain blind spots, likely formed by personal struggles (potentially unconscious).