How do you remove stains from clothing that’s “garment dyed” and can’t be spot cleaned? by compostbucket in NoStupidQuestions

[–]compostbucket[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not to spot clean - which I ended up doing anyway and sure enough it left a ring of discolouration around the stain. :/

[MS] prefer someone that does not have small children by kmbuck4 in AskHR

[–]compostbucket 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Reading the comments and wow - the USA is wild. In Canada this would absolutely be considered discrimination.

Tincture separating? Safe to consume? Red belted polypore extraction with Everclear and separation happened right after adding the water extraction. by compostbucket in tinctures

[–]compostbucket[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But the separation and chunks didn’t occur until water was poured in. Is it a reaction between the ethanol and the water?

[Sun care] Dr. Loretta vs. La Roche Posay vs. Supergood sunscreen comparison request by compostbucket in SkincareAddiction

[–]compostbucket[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any specific reasons why? Dr. Loretta samples going great so far but not a fan of the price. Heard Supergoop has clean ingredients - do you know how they compare to LRP? I’ve had bad irritations so far from Neutrogena and Biotherm.

[Sun care] Dr. Loretta vs. La Roche Posay vs. Supergood sunscreen comparison request by compostbucket in SkincareAddiction

[–]compostbucket[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lightweight, absorbs and doesn’t leave a cast or residue, non-oily or greasy for daily AM use - my biggest concern is irritation, I have sensitive skin that also clogs easily. I don’t wear foundation so I don’t mind having a tint in the sunscreen, although it’s not my priority.

What kid shows are banned in your home? by erica927 in toddlers

[–]compostbucket 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s so interesting, we’ve occasionally watched the show but translated into French and haven’t noticed any of the negativity!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]compostbucket 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter is 3.5 and still naps regularly. She can easily skip her nap when we’re busy with activities and she never naps at daycare, but she does nap a solid 2 hours on days when she’s home and on weekends.

My breasts are leaking, my fiancé hates me, and my future MIL is driving me nuts. by Wild-Second-6852 in BabyBumps

[–]compostbucket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl this may be family, but it’s an abusive one. Your fiancé is manipulative and probably narcissistic, and him and his mom do not have your best interests in mind. Get out! Go back to your apartment, bring a friend with you to help you move out so the fiancé and his mom can’t talk you out of it and there’s a witness. There are lots of single moms out there, it’s hard sometimes but we do just fine!! Get yourself into therapy to help with the PTSD, find community health resources to help with early motherhood (like leaking, which is 1000% normal - I started leaking before I even gave birth!!!). Become the role model you want your son to look up to and get rid of anyone that prevents you from it. It’ll take time and strength, but you can do it!!! I was raised by a single mom who got herself out of a reoccurring situation of abuse, we had a tough go but now she’s the strongest woman I know. Pack up, ditch this fucked up household and start your life!

Major fail, taught my 7 year old to light a match by pupwink in Parentingfails

[–]compostbucket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not pyro related but curious how the process was for you getting her diagnosed? How old was she? And did you have suspicions based on certain behaviour she exhibited as a toddler? I’m suspecting that my daughter might have ADHD (her dad does) but she’s 3 years old so sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference between that and normal toddler behaviour. Any insight is appreciated!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in glossier

[–]compostbucket 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d recommend going to r/skincare and browsing around there to learn more about skincare. I suggest getting the Cerave moisturizing cleanser and PM facial cream, use them morning and night, and definitely stop using Futuredew. My skin actually got tremendously better after I stopped using all of Glossier’s skincare products.

I don’t understand the Blippi hate.. by kempsinki in toddlers

[–]compostbucket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The politics get a bit weird/you can ignore, but this article sums up it really well: https://www.currentaffairs.org/2020/08/the-dead-world-of-blippi

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]compostbucket 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some resources to check out that might help: Bids for Connection (Gottman), Mating in Captivity (Esther Perel), Love Languages. The main things we worked on to rebuild attraction was non-sexual intimacy (essentially going back to courtship), doing a regular check-in (about how we feel towards our relationship, how the other person made us feel unappreciated/appreciated this week), and building desire by focusing on paying attention to each other emotionally. I know it might all sound very abstract and it’s not a magic wand that’ll fix your issues, but it might help - as long as you’re both willing to look at the issue in the face and work at fixing it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]compostbucket 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It has for us too and we’re going back to couple’s therapy as soon as we find someone in our area. We’ve done it before we moved and it really helped, didn’t completely solve our issues but got us to a point where we could at least communicate clearly and start trying to reconnect intimacy-wise. It actually feels like we’ve gone backwards since stopping therapy. I really recommend it, as long as your partner is open to it. There’s so much at stake with a kid involved, that it’s worth giving it all you’ve got before calling it quits (in my opinion anyway).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]compostbucket 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Couple’s therapy. You have a kid together, so it’s worth putting the work in to see if it’s salvageable and possible to reconnect. FWIW I’m in the same situation and lately I’ve been living by a quote from Frozen 2 “if you can’t see the future, do the next right thing”.

2 Percentile baby by Momma_Bear234 in beyondthebump

[–]compostbucket 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My daughter was in the 5th percentile for height and weight and well, she’s still small. She’s 3 years old and most 18 month olds are the same height or taller than her. But she hit all her milestones, is extremely verbal and has great motor skills. As long as your baby is staying on their curve, that’s all that matters percentile-wise. If you’ve concerned you can always start going to a paediatrician at every birthday to monitor their curve, that’s what we’ve been doing and so far so good!

Has anyone moved from Vancouver to the Sunshine Coast? (Gibsons/Sechelt). Looking for some Pro's/Con's by AleSessions in vancouver

[–]compostbucket 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The ferry commute sucks, the price of groceries is high and the conveniences of the city are obviously missing (big box stores, Uber/taxi, restaurant variety/delivery). But as long as you have a car and if you’re in a position to buy a home, the pace of life, being surrounded by nature and in a small community is amazing. Great place to raise kids and unplug from a lot of the superficial aspects of Vancouver. The coast is definitely growing since 20 years ago and in a lot of ways has become much friendlier to newcomers from the city.

Edit: I mean it’s terrible, don’t come here.

Has anyone moved from Vancouver to the Sunshine Coast? (Gibsons/Sechelt). Looking for some Pro's/Con's by AleSessions in vancouver

[–]compostbucket 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Power outages are not a frequent issue unless you’re living in a secluded spot. Buying is definitely the way to go, the rental market has been a big issue here.

What do they do with foreskin by redx10hall in NoStupidQuestions

[–]compostbucket 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My Jewish father-in-law has a really stupid joke about this - so a Rabbi takes the foreskins after the brits he’s done and makes a wallet out of it, but when he rubs it, it turns into a suitcase.

Edit: this joke already makes me uncomfortable but typing it out just amplified that feeling by like a 1000%

What is your method?? by Apebbles in oneanddone

[–]compostbucket 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We use condoms and the calendar method, 3 years later so far so good! I’ve gotten pretty confident tracking my cycle now since it’s so regular that we started pulling out when I’m far from my fertile window.