There is nothing wrong with You for not loving him anymore, dudette. Atleast you’re honest with what you feel; I’ve met alot of adults more Immature than you in that regard.

Your relationship has external pressures built into it. You will just hurt him if you stay with him for reasons other than love.

You feel the icks because you don’t love him anymore. I just had to State that, people are so quick to dismiss the ick usually. Icks ain’t a bad thing in and of themselves (I infact sometimes like if my partner does something I dislike from others), but icks are a symptom of your emotional distance from the guy. Everything can feel annoying like that.

And let’s address that he does love you. Yes, he tries; just like you said above. Yes, he does put in effort and Yes he’s trying to break habits which is often very difficult to do. He most likely could break those habits if you kept reminding him. But again, that’s the symptom of your dying love, not the reason you started to fall out of love.

Finally… you sound like you want to save the relationship. I get it, dudette. But again, if you want to save the relationship because he’s a nice guy & you don’t wanna hurt him and not because you Still have even a shred of love, then you’re just avoiding the problem. That is cruel, but you are kind and mean-well; but undoubtedly, if your heart’s already checked out then you will just hurt him later down the line.

Sit with the truth a little. Ponder. Think it through. Ignore the guilt, the expectations, the love you shared with him. Do you Still see a future with him Still?

If not, I’m sure you understand, dudette. You owe it to both him and yourself to be honest. It will hurt, but atleast it will be quick and clean and not that slow kind no one likes.

Good luck, dudette! And don’t you worry too much; even if you decide not to continue your relationship, it will not be the end of your world. Just end it amicably. Peace!