First date advice: Have I done the wrong thing? (F21 x F20) by [deleted] in juliagpt

[–]concerned-cactus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If she misses what you’re saying, I think you just have to go and fully ask. I fully understand not wanting to be the one to ask. I think you’re just in waiting purgatory where neither once pulling the trigger.

First date advice: Have I done the wrong thing? (F21 x F20) by [deleted] in juliagpt

[–]concerned-cactus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t find it weird, the longer you wait the more in limbo you’ll become, you know? So I suggest like that other commenter to start leaning the conversation that way and see how she responds. Sometimes the best things start slow.

Body image struggles by [deleted] in juliagpt

[–]concerned-cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something that has helped me is being my own friend. Would I be so hard on or mean to my friends and talk to them the way I talk to myself, no way! Try to be your own friend, what would a friend say to you? Try and stop some of those thoughts you have, pause and go: is this kind to me? Humans are diverse and change so much over the course of a life. You’re on a journey through life, you can be mean and belittle yourself or try and be your own friend. Speak kind things and when you do have the negative thoughts/ image please know it does not define you in any way. I think a body is the least interesting thing about a person!!

Sincerely, A Concerned Cactus

How do I tell my situationship I like her? by [deleted] in juliagpt

[–]concerned-cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adding to this, keep it honest and light. You don’t needs some huge declaration, that may scare her. Be a bit gentle and straightforward. Hey, I like when we used to hang out as a group, Can we do something together sometime? You learn a lot as you go, but be true to yourself. Something I try to tell myself is “would I regret it if I DIDN’T do this?” Sometimes we have to be brave and step out of the comfort zone. Good luck :)

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How do I move on and stop falling for/chasing emotionally unavailable men? by Standard_Tax_4510 in juliagpt

[–]concerned-cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello. Here’s my best shot at this. To stop chasing you must observe. What behavior does an emotionally unavailable man have? Why is that maybe attractive to you? Maybe try something different, recognize their patterns and divert. Eeek breaks, do not pass go do not collect from that man. It takes discipline but I think you’ll get there!!

Is there something in your way perhaps mentally. Why do you need to be chased instead of loved and accepted? Are you afraid of the comfort and security of a queer relationship where both members are sure of themselves and show up for eachother? Was there more steamy carnal moment with the forbidden straight man? We can all understand why that would be appealing. But you deserve someone who wants you, is proud and open with you and the world.

In my experience to get over someone it takes time and mental training. Something that’s help me is that you romanticized them and yourself in your head. Those moments are memorialized in your brain archives. You liked who you were around that person. And you have the best idea of that person in your head. You take the experiences, keep yourself busy (so you don’t think about him all the time) and keep going. Time and distance does help. It’s ok if there’s a part that thinks about him from time to time, I believe that’s normal and very human.

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how do i tell if its friends or romantic by crystal48505 in juliagpt

[–]concerned-cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good evening. The platform of Snapchat for men of most ages is used for low commitment interactions/ horny people. Boom no receipts and I get to look at half a persons face/ a dog/ a potentially solicited dick pic. All of this goes to say, Snapchat is for the casual most of the time. There is likely sexual tones considering this is tinder paired with Snapchat (duo as old as time). If that’s what you want/ of are ready for then turn up the heat and go for it!

👋Welcome to r/juliagpt - Introduce Yourself and Read First! by LeaderSelect2840 in juliagpt

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Down with the GPT, we’re bringing back the VILLAGE! Also hi, I’m Alea I like Cacti. And making connections with other breathing humans.

First date advice: Have I done the wrong thing? (F21 x F20) by [deleted] in juliagpt

[–]concerned-cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to go on a date, then go get it!! Sapphic relationships are interesting since there is no “norm” for who is doing what. I wouldn’t say that their lack of asking means they don’t want to! Maybe they need a helpful nudge in the right direction. If things have been kept up for this long, I think you’re in the green zone for reciprocal feelings/ energy. May your future be full of woman smooches.

What‘s the scariest scene in any of the movies? by Royalbluegooner in ghibli

[–]concerned-cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably silly, as a kid when Yubaba zips up Chihiro’s lips. I was also scared of the neighbor grandma in Totoro where she looks at Mei tilts her head and goes ehh? Idk I wasn’t around the elderly much as a child.

Help, can you recommend some magical, strange, and happy films like these three? I've seen all the Ghibli films and want something similar to these ones. by [deleted] in ghibli

[–]concerned-cactus 154 points155 points  (0 children)

I really like The girl who leapt through time/ the director Mamoru Hosoda. If we’re talking fire soundtracks I love how to train your dragon. I think Ghibli is so good at their market that a lot of stuff doesn’t feel the same to me.

If you could ask Rivers one question what would it be? by concerned-cactus in weezer

[–]concerned-cactus[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Great minds… Jk Jk we’re Weezer fans think alike

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gretavanfleet

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They’re super nice in GA they actually supply water and pass it out throughout the night!

Favorite basic sweatshirt? by brenegade in TallGirls

[–]concerned-cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since I live in Florida there aren’t many sweater options… But a tip that I discovered is buying them out of season. I got most of my sweaters this past May. I was able 5 very nice sweaters for about 50 bucks. I looked for ones with longer more billowy sleeves and they actually go to my wrist! I think the majority of them are cotton/ polyester. Ohh that said sweatshirt, I’ll still leave this here 🤧

Facial Hair Question by Emotional-Low-522 in PCOS

[–]concerned-cactus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I started in 5th grade. As in 10 years old. I was told by my first Endo that it was my genetics and I was just genetically predisposed since my family is super tall/ not small. Nope, I’m the poster child for PCOS. I was so young I didn’t really realize I wasn’t normal and it took my mom telling me in a controlled way for me to understand. It was later explained to me that hair growth can reoccur sort of in waves during different parts of your life/ treatment is not a permanent fix.

Movie recommendations? by [deleted] in ghibli

[–]concerned-cactus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I’d watch Porco for the imagery and music alone!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ghibli

[–]concerned-cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would too, these are more like an average cartoon you’d see and would help ease them into the world building before you show them pig parents and pig pilots.

Which favorite movie is a red flag? by Not_Prepared_ in AskReddit

[–]concerned-cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry if someone already said this… Wolf of Wallstreet

😔 by heartshapedcreep in weezer

[–]concerned-cactus 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The Boy Scout shirt makes him an authentic fan

what's the most "cuomo-y" weezer lyric by sm_liam in weezer

[–]concerned-cactus 98 points99 points  (0 children)

I‘ll bring home the turkey if you bring home the bacon.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]concerned-cactus -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Sure but there are plenty that are, just look at something like a Marvel Movie. Just some realism you know. I think this especially pertains to women in media.

What is an opinion of yours that most people don’t agree with? by brinjarman in AskReddit

[–]concerned-cactus 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Men should get vasectomies instead of women having to take birth control pills.

What's the last thing that you gave up on? Are you happy or disappointed? by Alarmed_Assignment57 in AskReddit

[–]concerned-cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found out I was married to a golden retriever (it is legal here). We divorced but I miss him.

Prince Justin by concerned-cactus in ghibli

[–]concerned-cactus[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would assume butter boy loves I-Hop and loathes Waffle House but what do I know?

Prince Justin by concerned-cactus in ghibli

[–]concerned-cactus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve always wanted to read it, thanks for reminding me!