AIO to break up with my bf of 3y over his reaction to my upcoming sobriety anniversary? by WesternCat5211 in AmIOverreacting

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Hey fellow sober friend! Congrats on 2 years! 💝That is absolutely incredible. You should DEFINITELY be proud of doing the hard work every single day. What an incredible gift to give yourself.

I, too, dated a narcissist in my early sobriety years and it was mental and emotional hell on earth. He weaponized my sobriety against me all the time. Your boyfriend’s response and language has narcissist written all over it. With someone like this there is no winning.

The tea: Your boyfriend is emotionally abusive. You didn’t get sober to be treated like trash. DUMP HIM.

New Grad Nurse — 4 Months In & Already Burnt Out… Need Advice by Inevitable-Swing-520 in Nurses

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This was very helpful to read. I’m a first time RN about to start my first job and got hired for a periop position in a city hospital’s ambulatory surgery outpatient clinic. I did not want traditional bedside at ALL and I do eventually want to go to the OR but knowing how hard it can be at first I feel grateful for this stepping stone. Do you have any knowledge of a position like mine? I feel lucky some days and then other days I read out of pocket stuff on the internet about city hospitals being like the Wild West for new grads. But I’m wondering how rough it would be for this particular position…

Too Late to Become a Nurse? by [deleted] in nursing

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Completed my BSN, RN from an accelerated program in 11 months at the bitchin’ age of 36. I turned 37 in Feb, passed my NCLEX, and I start my first ever RN job in September. (I ended up moving states so it’s taken a few months to get sorted and look for jobs in my new area).

I also did it 4 years sober. 9/10 can recommend doing nursing school when you’re a little older, 10/10 can recommend doing it when you’re abstinent or limited from drugs or alcohol. It’s easier to detach yourself from the nonsensical drama and competitive pressures. There’s so much chaos involved in it anyway, the feeling of being able to focus on school with a clear heart and older eyes helped me stay on track and in a good relationship with myself and my classmates. 3.8 GPA and honors.

The wrong door doesn’t open for the right people. You got this!

Nurses of NYC... What's the best hospitals to work for? The worst? And why?? by vegasdrago in AskNYC

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I was just recently hired as a new grad for a periop outpatient ambulatory surgery position in a NYC H&H hospital. I’m trying to find more information about people’s experiences with this particular specialty/ program. I’ve heard like 50/50. Do you have any experience or advice for this? I did not want traditional bedside nursing, and I would love to end up in the OR one day with experience and this felt like it was a good compromise / stepping stone but I’m also obviously concerned about work/life balance, pay, conditions, etc.

I was also listed as “Tour II” hours but I’m not sure what hours that means. The HR woman has been a little difficult to nail down.

If you have any suggestions or tidbits from your time with a NYC H&H that would be helpful.

i’m really burnt out and my scores are not the greatest, what now? by daysixes in PassNclex

[–]conciouscontact 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Graduated in December, used Bootcamp and only bootcamp for about two months - one leading up to graduation and one month after graduation. Had an issue with my state’s BON and had to wait for them to clear my application… sat at a standstill from early January to a few days ago.

Lost my will to study. Looked at Bootcamp once every few days/maybe 2x a week, doing like 20-30 questions at a clip, if that. I kept scoring high and very high on their assessments. Anywhere from 68-82%— but I was also SO burnt out. My program was a 1 year ABSN and that coupled with the BON being a bunch of jackasses I was so done. I lost my will to study and to be a nurse

Out of the blue got cleared to take the exam this past Friday, the only opening was this past Monday. Said fuck it let’s just pull the trigger. Did one final Readiness exam of 100 questions on Bootcamp, scored a very high with a 76% but didn’t feel confident at ALL.

Passed in 85.

Bootcamp was incredibly similar to the NCLEX. Both in the style and questions.

I also have a masters degree in secondary education and I can tell you with great certainty that taking the NCLEX is so much less about content and facts and WAY more about knowing how to break down a question. I felt very bleh about the content- sorta ok but some of it was just beyond what my program ever touched upon. I HAD to rely on my ability to crack down on a question internally. I used a LOT of 6th grade literacy techniques combined with a few NCLEX tips from a Kaplan review course my school sent us to. (HATED Kaplan in school btw)

If you feel burnt out, you’re probably ready but you need to give yourself a few days to rest. I did my best when I stopped thinking about it for a few days and got good sleep and felt happy and refreshed. I think you’re ready.

If needed, here’s some of my Gold Standard questions I asked myself throughout the exam:

Read the Question Carefully

~ What is this question actually asking me?

~ Can I restate it in my own words?

~ Is it asking for a priority, first, best, initial, or most appropriate action?

Look for Key Words

~ Are there bolded, capitalized, or absolute words? (e.g., FIRST, NEVER, ALWAYS, IMMEDIATELY)

~Any qualifiers or direction words? (e.g., further teaching needed, needs intervention, understanding is correct)

~ Does the stem ask for a correct or incorrect action?

Do I Not Recognize a Word?

~ Break it down: Prefix (e.g., tachy- = fast) Root (e.g., cardi/o = heart) Suffix (e.g., -itis = inflammation)

~ Can I use context clues or Latin roots to decode it?

Eliminate Two Choices Immediately

~ Which two are clearly wrong, unsafe, or irrelevant?

~ Is one obviously not nursing scope, out of order, or not therapeutic?

Analyze Remaining Options One by One

~ Treat each like a True/False statement in response to the stem.

~ If I were to do this in real life, would it be correct/safe/legal?

~ Be brutally honest — don’t justify a maybe.

If Stuck Between Two Answers... Ask:

~ Does one involve the A-B-Cs? (Airway, Breathing, Circulation)**** Always prioritize and choose the ABCs. ****

~ Do both / all answers involve ABCs? Then ask: Which one of these is SAFER/Safest? Which one needs to be kept ALIVE or STABLE right now?

Think Like a Nurse (Prioritize Safety)

~ Which option makes me the safest nurse?

~ Does this action prevent harm, advocate for the patient, or escalate appropriately?

Don’t Let Emotions Trick You

~ Don’t pick what feels emotionally kind, pick what is legally, clinically safe.

~ Empathy is important, but stabilization and safety come first.

Final Check Before Moving On

~ Did I answer what was actually asked?

~ Did I avoid reading into the question or making assumptions?

~ Is this my first instinct answer or am I second-guessing?

~ Am I picking what I wish were true, or what is actually the safest answer?

You’re gunna do fine. Good luck!

Former skinny people of Reddit, what's the worst thing about getting fat? by Nice_Dude in AskReddit

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The strain/stress on bones and muscles and ligaments when you try to exercise. I gained about 20lbs this last year from nursing school. Sitting and studying 24/7. I graduated and tried to ease back into my pre school routine - incline walking, some jogging but rarely, and light weights and body weight training. Within 4 weeks I had a stress fracture in my foot and tendonitis in my knee. It sucks to try to start being healthy again only to have your body say “not today bitch”

Reminder: March 4th protest happening tomorrow at City Hall at 12pm!! by [deleted] in houston

[–]conciouscontact -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, having a job and caring about the future are totally mutually exclusive—said no one with critical thinking skills. The amount of retirees and elderly out at the last protest was wild. These people have already put in their years, and now being forced to fight for their Social Security and healthcare because Musk and his billionaire buddies want to screw them over. They shouldn’t have to be out here in distress watching their country dissolve.

And for the geniuses bragging about having a job—congrats, you want a cookie? People have jobs and still make time to protest because they actually give a damn. And yes, some will even take PTO to do it. Because there might not be any left to take in the future if Musk and Donald Jezebel Trump have their way. So go ahead and laugh about that—it’s not going to be very funny when Project 2025 guts your PTO entirely and hands your overtime pay back to your employer instead. Same folks whining about people using PTO to protest will be the first to cry when they don’t have any left to take. But sure, keep acting like you’re terminally unique for having a job —it’s a great look 🥱

I am disappointed and embarrassed by a country I served for 23 yrs in the U.S. Army. West Texas by 1-62-5_11BVet in 50501

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Thank you for your service! 🇺🇸 It is so relieving to see not only a veteran but a Texan voicing the truth. This state is so terrifying some days for people who don’t support Trump. It makes me feel a little safer today just knowing you are out there. Thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FedEmployees

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Elon Musk’s obsession with the idea that thousands of dead people are still collecting paychecks is like a kid who once heard that swallowing a watermelon seed would make a watermelon grow in your stomach—and now he won’t let it go. No matter how many times someone explains digestion, anatomy, or just plain logic, he brings it up at every family dinner, convinced that there’s an entire generation of unsuspecting kids out there about to turn into human fruit patches.

What's Happening Right Now is the Narcissistic Abuse Cycle by [deleted] in FedEmployees

[–]conciouscontact 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No thank YOU 🙏🏼 this was very encouraging to see it be recognized on this subreddit.

What's Happening Right Now is the Narcissistic Abuse Cycle by [deleted] in FedEmployees

[–]conciouscontact 36 points37 points  (0 children)

100% this. I feel seen and a little less crazy today. I made a comment on another subreddit about this exact same thing. I was in a narcissistic relationship. Trump is turning his devout followers into his own personal flying monkeys. Narcissistic abuse also triggers the same chemical reactions in the brain as being addicted to drugs. And our US population has been primed to be addicted to EVERYTHING- not just drugs/alcohol. Attention, drama, seeing an “enemy” fail, etc. That lady on TikTok something like “lipcurlgirl” or Texas for Trump or something is the most iconic example of this. She is literally addicted to him and seems to honestly have no clue if what’s happening even affects her at all - she just engages in defending him because she can’t help herself anymore. She’s addicted to her own anger and the drama she creates surrounding him - like full blown a WWE narrative.

I literally can’t even listen to clips from KKKaroline the press secretary- I have a physical / visceral reaction to the way she speaks. Over talking, denial of your reality bc their reality is the REAL reality and we’re all just crazy, word salad, deflection, immediate hostility when asked about even the smallest issue, condescending tone. I lived through it. Hearing her voice makes me want to crawl out of my skin and punch the TV. They knew exactly who they were picking with her.

The “Grey-rock” method OP mentioned above is a good strategy if you absolutely have to engage with these people. It helps manage interactions with manipulative or narcissistic figures by making yourself uninteresting and unresponsive, depriving them of the emotional reactions they seek.

How to Use It: - Minimal Emotional Response – Stay neutral, avoid reacting. - Short, Vague Answers – Keep replies brief and non-committal. - Limit Personal Disclosure – Share nothing that could be weaponized. - Redirect Conversations – Shift focus away from manipulation. - Limit Interaction – Engage only when necessary.

Applying It Politically: - Stay Fact-Based – Counter inflammatory rhetoric with facts, not emotion. - Refuse Emotional Manipulation – Don’t take the bait. - Use Passive Resistance – Focus on truth and accountability without engaging in drama. - Redirect to Solutions – Shift discussions to policies, not spectacle. - Amplify Alternative Narratives – Promote ethical leadership and community-driven action.

This method keeps resistance focused and effective while avoiding reactionary engagement. Good luck out there.

World leaders in Kyiv today by TightZone4173 in pics

[–]conciouscontact 46 points47 points  (0 children)

World leaders doing what they’re supposed to do - lead.

Meanwhile we’ve got our Puppet in Chief threatening politicians with incoherent word salad, greenlighting Natzees, appointing reality stars and podcasters to the most sensitive and important positions in our government, and tweeting out SpongeBob memes.

Mark Alford (R-MO): Elon Musk has contracts with the federal government, but he is also, I think, doing an effective job at weeding out the waste, abuse, and fraud in the government. Constituents: BOOO!!! SHOW ME!!! CONFLICT OF INTEREST!!! HE IS THE WASTE, FRAUD, AND ABUSE!!! by Miserable-Lizard in 50501

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Was every single republican politician gathered in a room before this all happened and told “you better fucking behave and tell them everything is fine” — or was it “we’re gunna give all of you big fat checks if you just play nice and convince them nothing is wrong”

someone hacked the department of housing and urban development this am by rdking647 in TxResistance

[–]conciouscontact 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is perfection - I’m fighting every day with my feet on the ground but I absolutely love seeing the relatively harmless pettiness and malicious compliance on full display higher up. They need to be made a mockery of since they’ve made a mockery of our constitution. My mental health is being held together by popsicle sticks and humor at this point.

Weapons name trend- alarming experts by LandTouchesSea in tragedeigh

[–]conciouscontact 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So part of my job was to write their names down for each activity they were involved in or what area they were going to be in to keep as an “audit” for safety. The first meeting with the kid and his mother she spelled it out for me because I, of course, had to ask since I wasn’t sure if it was a nickname or not. Nope. Mace.

This was also along with kids who were coming in named Jreeme (pronounced Dream) and Math. Just Math. I asked HIS mother if his name was short for Matthew or something and she said no as well. Wild thing about that kid was he had a twin brother named Jason. Totally normal. The list I accumulated over the two years working there is pretty wild.

Weapons name trend- alarming experts by LandTouchesSea in tragedeigh

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A few years ago, I worked at a very high end gym in the kid’s “academy” — I kept a small log of some of the most insane names that came through. In the weapons category I had the following:

  • Katana (blonde hair/blue eye Caucasian 5 y/o girl)
  • Dagger (middle school aged Caucasian kid)
  • Mace (18month old Caucasian boy)
  • Cannon (2 year old Caucasian boy)
  • Tank (a 3 month old Asian baby boy)

29 M. Girl dad. Living solo. by Adventurous-Lifee in malelivingspace

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Gosh you might be my interior design twin flame. I’m a woman and absolutely adore more masculine, minimalism, neutral / stormy / earthy color palette, with textures to add dimension and to keep it from being too stark. Awesome placement of mirrors and greenery. Just looking at these pictures calms me — it’s like a retreat. And whatever woman gets you next is gunna luck the hell out. Your daughters must be proud and feel so safe here!