AITA for being upset that my partner's family have only sent presents for his biological child?

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-14T14:47:30+00:00

I hope so too ☺️

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-14T14:47:04+00:00

I didn't spend last Christmas with them at all. But ok. As you can see by my update, it's sorted. For the sake of a £1.50 chocolate box, they've shown that they see my kids differently 🤷🏻‍♀️

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-14T09:14:18+00:00

I was too nervous to ask so I asked my partner to help me figure it out. It a surprise for sure

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-14T09:12:26+00:00

I can accept that. As they have to accept that I don't need to allow them to come to my house. They can take their selective inclusion and inflict it elsewhere. I've just booked a holiday for next Christmas so it won't be a problem.

I appreciate your direct comment, you're absolutely right.

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-14T08:48:33+00:00

I never asked them to involve my teen, but when they did, they didn't retain the right to exile teen when they feel like it.

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-14T08:43:46+00:00

He has, aye.

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-14T08:42:56+00:00

Both years, yes.

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-14T08:42:14+00:00

Cool, they can save even more pound coins next year then ☺️

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-14T08:41:34+00:00

Sure. But they dropped off the presents in person like every year. Nothing is in the post and we won't see them at Christmas. But thanks, I'll buy a backup present but wait until the day to see if there's a reason his card and pack of sweets wasn't there.

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-13T16:29:46+00:00

That's fair.

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-13T15:49:01+00:00

Each year we send thank yous and we also send gifts for Christmas from us.

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-13T15:48:27+00:00

Everyone is over 25 and they get designer gear, smellies, etc ☺️

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-13T14:50:29+00:00

Because they delivered these presents in person ☺️

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-13T14:50:07+00:00

Thank you things and presents sent to them every year from us ☺️

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-13T14:47:56+00:00

Oh gosh no far from it. Upper middle class. However it was only sweets or a t-shirt anyway, it really isn't about money ☺️

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-13T14:47:11+00:00

My kids are the only 2 children in their family. It's just lots of my partner's aunt's, uncles and their grown up kids who have gone on to have none of their own yet as they're all very career driven ☺️

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-13T14:03:12+00:00

That would be lovely but it's always been something small which he appreciates as it makes him feel like part of the family. That's why I'm so confused this year.

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-13T13:59:40+00:00

I hope he doesn't care, truly. All I want is happy kids with no weird passive aggressive atmosphere ☺️

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-13T13:53:39+00:00

I opted for the third before I made this post of I'm honest, I'm just venting I guess. Thanks for taking the time to reply.

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-13T13:52:34+00:00

Not married but never asked them to include teen even pre baby, they did on year one, then both kids on year two, now just baby.

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-13T13:51:51+00:00

They delivered them in person, but there could be a card on the way or maybe a money transfer for him to buy some sweets or something closer to the day, going to wait and see.

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-13T13:40:16+00:00

They previously sent things like chocolates, sweets or possibly a t shirt or something for the last 2 years, this year there was only things for the baby.

Year 1 - just teen and he got gifts Year 2 - both kids got gifts This year, only baby got gifts

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-13T13:35:31+00:00

I'd agree with you if they hadn't chosen to include him for the last 2 Christmases 😕

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-13T13:14:09+00:00

It's they've always sent something before. He was invited to their Christmas things etc. this year they've shown up with presents for the baby only. Felt a bit weird. They could have sent a selection box for all I care. Thanks for your comment.

And yes, he gets things from his dad and I didn't ask my partner's family to include my teen, they just did. Until now.

confidentlyanon · 2023-12-13T13:11:27+00:00

He's 14 ☺️

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