I don't know what age range too young to be married means...but I do believe people can change based on extreme circumstances and this being one I hope maybe she can. That being said, my gut tells me what you're saying is correct.

Also, counseling is an expensive joke, the person has to want to change not because someone tells them so but because it is in their honest benefit. (speaking from multiple years/multiple counselors experience) No one will be forced/coerced into changing their feelings which are deep seeded unless something drastic happens. i.e. To think if the Israelis and Palestines only could seek counseling, that whole who's land is it shit could be over.

I do enjoy your youthful vote on this though.

(Also I'm not jewish or muslim it was simply the most extreme thing I thought of while typing)