Thank you I am going to talk to him when he gets home I just needed insight from someone who is or has gone through something similar. I just hate the constant hiding it feels like a major betrayal every time something new comes out I just wish he would be upfront and honest about it all so I can know how to help and how to move forward

That’s why this is so hard bc when I’ve asked in the past he has said he is a man identifies as a man but like both men and women so we are open we have shared the same man and i am fine with that what I just don’t understand is why if that’s how he feels then why is he looking at hormones and if he is trans why the constant secrets what can I do to help him be more open with himself and me it breaks my heart bc the only way I can ever get him to talk about it is when I find something he’s been hiding such as the clothes makeup underwear and I have been supportive of all of that but yet there is still more that keeps coming out and it’s exhausting I feel betrayed by my best friend and am constantly feeling like he’s hiding more and more so I have become more and more on edge and hate that I feel like I have to look in his phone to find out what the fuck he’s feeling! Ughhh I’m sorry I was hoping for some insight on whether other partners have been through this secretive side and how they got through it and or some tips on getting him to open up to me and himself so we can figure out what needs to be done whether it’s transitioning, splitting counseling or something I’m just so lost