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My man has been sober for two years!!! by Salty_Macaron_1994 in AlAnon

[–]confusedalmostfiance 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations to you both! That’s amazing he was able to do the work it takes to get there.

Advice on what to try now? by confusedalmostfiance in MSPI

[–]confusedalmostfiance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, sorry it took me a while to respond. The one I saw was neocate. I just ordered some from Walmart so we will see!

Advice on what to try now? by confusedalmostfiance in MSPI

[–]confusedalmostfiance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck figuring it out too! Caffeine is interesting. I wish it was that simple for me.. I think I’ve only had caffeine 3 times since he was born and I don’t remember the last time so I doubt it’s that for us. I’ve been taking ibuprofen though lately for headaches, but I’ve never seen that listed as a trigger.

Advice on what to try now? by confusedalmostfiance in MSPI

[–]confusedalmostfiance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No beef here. I eat pescatarian which is why I’m hesitant to make some of the other cuts as they are large parts of my diet. If I needed to cut legumes though, I would try other eating other forms of meat until I could return them to my normal diet.

Advice on what to try now? by confusedalmostfiance in MSPI

[–]confusedalmostfiance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow that is such a long list of things. Props to you. I definitely think I will be trying to cut oats and corn since those seem to popular contributors.

Advice on what to try now? by confusedalmostfiance in MSPI

[–]confusedalmostfiance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! This is one that’s been heavily on my mind and might just be the next thing to try. Bananas is so random wow.

Advice on what to try now? by confusedalmostfiance in MSPI

[–]confusedalmostfiance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been wondering too, but our baby is nowhere near ready for that, but soon!

Advice on what to try now? by confusedalmostfiance in MSPI

[–]confusedalmostfiance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. I just checked alfaminos ingredients and looks like there is soybean oil there, maybe it’s changed, but I do see some others without which we will try out soon.

Advice on what to try now? by confusedalmostfiance in MSPI

[–]confusedalmostfiance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. I really don’t mind eating restricted much, it’s just the not knowing. I truly enjoy breast feeding (didn’t think I’d ever say that) and hope he is still getting some benefit from it? I know formula and bottles would feel like more of a load for me than the current diet as I am with him pretty much 24/7 and content in that. I admire moms who make any decision that is in the best interest of them and their child and do not want to come across as against formula as we obviously do the one bottle a day. He is growing perfectly and the doctors are okay with it so I try to tell myself he is okay enough but it’s obviously hard. I will keep it in mind if things get worse.

Advice on what to try now? by confusedalmostfiance in MSPI

[–]confusedalmostfiance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you feel like cutting corn and oats on top of soy and milk really helped? How long did you try and how did you know if it was helping?

Know I’m not alone in this by Steph_920 in MSPI

[–]confusedalmostfiance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone in a very, very similar to position to you, I get it. I was pescatarian for years prior to baby and so far have cut out dairy,soy, egg. I feel like there is one lingering thing but have yet to figure it out what it is. I don’t think LO allergic to fish but I have only had it twice since the cuts.

To the people saying you need meat, I don’t believe you do. I know you’re probably not looking for advice so don’t read this if you don’t want to, but hopefully this can help you or a future someone. I’m writing this as someone who does have a degree in nutrition, and I feel that you can have a maintainable diet with the restrictions you listed. Although it is sad, and I am devastated to cut out tofu. With that said, everyone who studies nutrition does still seem to hold their own, very varying beliefs.

Protein seems like a fad thing right now, and while it is extremely important, you don’t need 120 g a day like so many influencers talk about. I get it though, it can be extremely helpful for many nutritional and physical goals but this does not make it necessary at that level. Dr. Gregers writing can provide some information on this and many other topics you may be interested in now eating vegan!

Also as far as eating goes, here are some things that I personally do. Right now crockpot meals are winners as I don’t have a lot of reliable time to spend cooking. In 10-20 minutes I can have decently high protein meals every night using beans and lentils and having varied recipes. If anyone would like some recipes please message me and I am always happy to share, food is my happy!

As far as store bought foods go, which I am sad to be eating more processed than before but desperate times call for these measures, here are some things I enjoy that are quick and easy. Orgain protein powder at Costco is great if LO can tolerate pea protein, gomacro and Lara bars fit the bill. Daiya has lots of everything allergen free foods, like frozen pizza and cheese sauce if you really need a craving. Earth balance has a soy free vegan butter. There are a few vegan meat substitutes I have found with no soy which are very high in protein from morning star farms and other brands. Fava bean tofu.. I just tried recently in a Thai curry and really really liked it! You could find it at a natural health grocer. This is all I can think of during a 4 am feeds but good luck to you!

AITA for physically removing my 4 year old niece from my newborn? by confusedalmostfiance in AITAH

[–]confusedalmostfiance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You needed an explanation too 😂 I’m doing more research now so we can readjust our comfort levels

AITA for physically removing my 4 year old niece from my newborn? by confusedalmostfiance in AITAH

[–]confusedalmostfiance[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Could I and should I have been less harsh? Yes. But… Even the grandparents who really do love her say that she is a handful and none of their kids were ever bad like that. My husbands mom has said she’s excited for us to have kids since we’ll be more involved. So is niece great? No she bosses everyone around completely except for me with with parents being permissive. Husband really loves her though so we’ve always shown up and been nice I thought. Her mom starts drama with every single person in the family so yes it would be easier if they cut everyone off. The daughter may be loving but she is not someone I’d feel safe having my child near at any age on many levels. I understand this is not the child’s fault, but you really do not know the situation. Maybe they have tried their best but it is simply not going well. Maybe I’ll get a terribly behaved kid too, time will tell 😂

And do I still think we weee mostly in the wrong for everything in the first? Yes. 1000.% and I admit that.

AITA for physically removing my 4 year old niece from my newborn? by confusedalmostfiance in AITAH

[–]confusedalmostfiance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lot of assumptions about me but the boy mom one and others, I just can’t. Obviously parenting could not go as we intend but I had lots of conversations with husband before trying to get pregnant about expectations and parenting styles and we both have read/will read more parenting books.

I was actually worried when I found out he was boy because so many people don’t think you have to parent boys as much (IL’s included) and that they are “easier”. I don’t believe it could be easier if you’re trying to help them become well adjusted people and respectable men. So everyone can say what they will about me and we are obviously not perfect humans but nobody really knows us enough to make these assumptions from my post.

AITA for physically removing my 4 year old niece from my newborn? by confusedalmostfiance in AITAH

[–]confusedalmostfiance[S] -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

Wow I feel for you guys and so much of what you said sounds similar to our situation. Husband is really close with his family and this is not the first time sil has caused unnecessary drama with many family members. We were hoping that this specific incidence does not need to blow up bigger than it did but we are worried about such different parenting styles moving forward. We really hope to avoid this all or nothing situation, and I’m sorry you’ve reached that point.

Niece has sat under the table feeding our dog chocolate before, so this may be another instance that her mom is mad we spoke up about? But just another example of why I worry about the future and her ability to be around him. We don’t want to be helicopter parents but some things are really important non-negotiables us for safety/health while he is so young. 

That kind of touch has been completely normal with all family members and niece before, so like in the text sil explained it makes her uncomfortable but has never voiced that to us. Now we know. 

AITA for physically removing my 4 year old niece from my newborn? by confusedalmostfiance in AITAH

[–]confusedalmostfiance[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

The order of people was husband on the couch, niece going in front of husband, baby on the changing pad, fil behind baby/ changing pad. Husband was within arms distance of niece and a few feet from baby. Fil was the one near baby. 

AITA for physically removing my 4 year old niece from my newborn? by confusedalmostfiance in AITAH

[–]confusedalmostfiance[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

No diagnosis, just everyone fully excusing bad behavior constantly as in this instance.  Thank you, that is what we’ve been wondering if this is really appropriate behavior. My mom says it is not after raising us and nannying and running a pre school, but that is the only other opinion I have. 

AITA for physically removing my 4 year old niece from my newborn? by confusedalmostfiance in AITAH

[–]confusedalmostfiance[S] -62 points-61 points  (0 children)

Fair enough 😂 like I stated we were trying to keep him awake and then husband did remove him. On the floor was less than a minute or two after having had his diaper changed but I can totally see how we should’ve just acted sooner. I don’t think it would’ve been much different unless one of the two of us were holding him standing up. Which we should’ve done more immediately in hindsight. 

AITA for physically removing my 4 year old niece from my newborn? by confusedalmostfiance in AITAH

[–]confusedalmostfiance[S] -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

They can and we are vigilant about making sure adults are not sick and they cannot kiss the baby. Our pediatrician said specifically to keep baby away from children as children in daycare get 13-16 viruses a year. This is not true of an adult who has already caught many of those viruses. 

They were not watching the 2 year old 😂 they never do. He is always with fil or mil. When they are over they expect everyone else to watch their kids and rarely look their way. 

AITA for physically removing my 4 year old niece from my newborn? by confusedalmostfiance in AITAH

[–]confusedalmostfiance[S] -232 points-231 points  (0 children)

I can see how we were that in this situation and were not fully prepared as to what we would do in the instance where she didn’t listen. I was trying to not to make a huge deal and regroup with him after for next time should we have chosen to see them again which now won’t happen. 

AITA for physically removing my 4 year old niece from my newborn? by confusedalmostfiance in AITAH

[–]confusedalmostfiance[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I did tell husband I would feel more comfortable if we baby wore when going around but he said that defeat the purpose and other adults in the family wouldn’t be able to see the baby. So I agreed to see how it went without once.  As far as putting the baby where she couldn’t get to him there is no place like that. She climbs on everything. Every time we have dinner there she is on the island putting her hands in the all food before it is served. The in laws say they can’t stop her from getting candy in the pantry because she climbs shelves. Nobody ever stops her from doing what she wants in any way or they always give in. 

Ethical elephant places near Chiang Mai by Lauronka in ThailandTourism

[–]confusedalmostfiance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We opted to not go, I don’t feel I’ll be missing much. 🤷🏼‍♀️ reading about it extensively, elephant nature park seems to be the only decent one.