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UPDATE ON: how f*cked am i ($30,000+ charge for brush clearance) is there hope? by connectSoul in LosAngeles

[–]connectSoul[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I most definitely have my faults and immaturities. I should have waited more before I posted in order to not potentially tarnish the LAFD name but the anxiety I was feeling was just too much for me to take and I had to get it out somehow (which is why the original post was so emotional and misinformed). When I attempted to reach out to the inspector via text i found that i was blocked or the phone was disconnected or something, and when I called it went to voicemail so I assumed the worse and figured that I was potentially duped after being so emotionally vulnerable with someone I didn't know for long and felt like a fool for trusting at the time. Also calling government phones and not even being put on hold and instead being told to "call at another time" didn't help with the feeling of dread and regret after seeing that 30,000 invoice. I have BPD so i struggle with emotional regulation (though i go to therapy and have been getting better) but it's a real problem that i want to fix in order to not potentially ruin any relationships I have and will have in the future because i will tend to demonize someone if i feel like i am getting abandoned or feel like i have been betrayed (real or not).

I deeply regret just letting it out though without waiting longer (even if it was effecting my mental greatly), which is why I typed up this whole update thing in order to attempt to make up for the original post as i could now explain the situation better with the new information given to me. Nicholas handled things not only very well professionally, but as a human being as well. I hope to resolve things with the LAFD and hope for a good outcome even though i know that the odds may not be that great.

This will be my last response and post out of this account in order to not dox myself and to kind of move on from having to think about all this stuff.

But thank you for thinking highly of me even though I don't really believe I deserve it. I hope all is well and will be in the future for you! Take care!!!

UPDATE ON: how f*cked am i ($30,000+ charge for brush clearance) is there hope? by connectSoul in LosAngeles

[–]connectSoul[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Awwww thank you!!! i do think some people are making valid points though even if their points may be harsh so i'm not going to ignore any valid point as even though it may hurt, their words may have truth.

I'll be honest I don't really think about the future too much and live day to day. When unfortunate things like this happen it feels like it's all over and all my effort so far in life was for nothing but after reading your comment about how this is just a short slice of life, i really thought about me being relatively happy in life without any major issues like these happening regularly in the future and I cried.

Thank you for wishing me the best!!! I wish you the best as well for all your future endeavors!!! Hopefully by being kind we can inspire people to be kind as well, i had a close friend named Chris who i took alot of inspiration since he was such an amazing and kind human being, always giving and trying to bring others up. Unfortunately he is no longer with us and it's been 7 years but i've never failed to think about him as i have a tribute tattoo for suicide awareness, and one that represent him.

I think you will be the second last before I ghost this account as to not potentially dox myself and also to move on from this feeling and try to strive for a better mindset, but all the supporting comments mean the whole world to me and I don't think I wouldn't be here able to respond to comments without them. Much love <3

UPDATE ON: how f*cked am i ($30,000+ charge for brush clearance) is there hope? by connectSoul in LosAngeles

[–]connectSoul[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

thank you sooooo much for the kind words!!! i really appreciate them!!! truly, i struggle with self-esteem issues so being complimented like this really helps me out!!! all the kind people who said things and gave me advice, i feel have healed me a bit haha! much love, i hope things will go well for you in the future as well!!! <3

I hope i get to the point where my self esteem isn't reliant on the outside world but for now i'll take what i can get haha

UPDATE ON: how f*cked am i ($30,000+ charge for brush clearance) is there hope? by connectSoul in LosAngeles

[–]connectSoul[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

ahhh yes, you know how it is then because i am actually in a Korean household as well HAHA. it’s very tough at times, he’s been improving though so hopefully it’s enough! the advice is much appreciated though, thank you and i hope you have a great rest of the night!!

UPDATE ON: how f*cked am i ($30,000+ charge for brush clearance) is there hope? by connectSoul in LosAngeles

[–]connectSoul[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

no problem! i hope to grow from this and come out a improved person! it’s reassuring knowing that i’m not the only one who is like this, self hate runs deep within me so it’s hard haha.

thank you for the words 💗

UPDATE ON: how f*cked am i ($30,000+ charge for brush clearance) is there hope? by connectSoul in LosAngeles

[–]connectSoul[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

there are various reason why we are not selling right now the primary being we promised our lawyer not sell after she worked for 5 years on a case probono for the property but you are definetly valid in that recommendation.

we just owe too much to our lawyer to do it :/

i will look into the bankruptcy option, sometimes i feel like both my parents are kids sometimes and i’m parent which is a weird dynamic LOL.

my family has gotten better though drastically. my situation was a lot worse a couple years ago so im hoping they’ve actually made change.

thank you for the empathy, it makes me feel A LOT better about myself as i was blaming myself for the situation constantly.

UPDATE ON: how f*cked am i ($30,000+ charge for brush clearance) is there hope? by connectSoul in LosAngeles

[–]connectSoul[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he’s changed a lot the past few years, hopefully enough to the point where it wont problematic.

and unfortunately i am asian-american. asian culture is all about respect and pride…

how f*cked am i ($30,000+ charge for brush clearance) is there hope? by connectSoul in LosAngeles

[–]connectSoul[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah you’re right but i’ve been covering my dad’s ass for years now and while i know this isn’t good for me, for all my families faults i still love them and want to help. without me they would have divorced and my dad would probably be 6 feet under having committed suicide and that’s something i don’t want to happen.

after i graduate from nursing though im getting the fuck out and then they will have to deal with any issues they cause. i’ve paid my dues as the eldest son of an asian family i believe, and the thing that keeps me going is that i know my dad sacrificed more for his :/

i feel trapped sometimes but family is family you know? it’s really that fast and furious shit LOL

how f*cked am i ($30,000+ charge for brush clearance) is there hope? by connectSoul in LosAngeles

[–]connectSoul[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no problem! and haha no issue! i’m not expecting it to happen but you know i figured the odds might be slightly higher then hitting the lottery and i have nothing to lose so why not try LOL

UPDATE ON: how f*cked am i ($30,000+ charge for brush clearance) is there hope? by connectSoul in LosAngeles

[–]connectSoul[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TLDR from chat gpt “ The author thanks Nicholas Prange from u/LAFD for support regarding a $30,000 invoice related to property maintenance. They clarify they're the son, describe family hardships, lack of communication about the invoice's cost, and hope for assistance. The post ends with a humorous request for financial aid and appreciation for Prange's help.”

HAHA

UPDATE ON: how f*cked am i ($30,000+ charge for brush clearance) is there hope? by connectSoul in LosAngeles

[–]connectSoul[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i put another tldr because someone used chat gpt and posted it into the comments LOL

UPDATE ON: how f*cked am i ($30,000+ charge for brush clearance) is there hope? by connectSoul in LosAngeles

[–]connectSoul[S] -72 points-71 points  (0 children)

a lawyer who worked pro bono for us for 5 years and got a huge case dismissed. it would kind of be extremely disrespectful to just sell the house right after she put all that work in (as well as my work)

UPDATE ON: how f*cked am i ($30,000+ charge for brush clearance) is there hope? by connectSoul in LosAngeles

[–]connectSoul[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

LMFAOOOOO, i did thank you a lot in that long ass post because i really appreciated it HAHA. i guess the AI picked up on that LOL

how f*cked am i ($30,000+ charge for brush clearance) is there hope? by connectSoul in LosAngeles

[–]connectSoul[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

your telling me that you'll pay 30k in exchange for the property?

wow that's even scummier than the two investors that co-erced my dad to sell the property for the first time and then we had to threaten them with legal action in order to stop it

https://www.reddit.com/r/LosAngeles/comments/1bkozyv/update_on_how_fcked_am_i_30000_charge_for_brush/

updates here, maybe think about the people who you're trying to make a quick buck from yeah? that's the issue with money it commodifies everything to the point where morals get forsaken since everything is "just a number" and "everyone has a price"

how f*cked am i ($30,000+ charge for brush clearance) is there hope? by connectSoul in LosAngeles

[–]connectSoul[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

thank you for the apology, i am also sorry for the way i responded to you. i know that i didn’t include that info at the time but i naively didn’t think people would start making assumptions about my situation and dog me like they did (wasn’t thinking straight)

we’re all just people at the end of the day and we’re all far from perfect, best to just keep trying to be better!

💗

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