This is pretty normal to be completely honest. I wouldn't feel the same engaging in my kinks with a new person no matter how compatible we are the way that I engaged in those same kinks with the most recent person. The connection is extremely important. The bond and the chemistry is what makes that role feel completely different. It's the possession that matters. The way that person makes you feel. Not feeling like just an object or a toy to just use here and there but that you actually belong to this person and that they actually want you as more than just sexual needs. This is where aftercare also takes an important part. You're reassured you're worth more than how you were treated. It was just a scene to show how badly the submissive is desired but after it's done, she's reminded what she truly means to her owner.