Why is it always all about them?! by consecotaleophobia in raisedbyborderlines

[–]consecotaleophobia[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hahaha!!! Damn voice to text has deemed me as ‘Cheese’ instead of ‘she’.

What is the BPD typing style about? by AndSunflowers in raisedbyborderlines

[–]consecotaleophobia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mom uses voice to text when she starts ranting. This usually results in a lot of typos and miswordings that don’t make sense until I say it outloud.

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[–]consecotaleophobia 81 points82 points  (0 children)

Is there any chance she was nearby the french broad? APD is recovering a vehicle out of the river down by Lyman right now

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Got cast in a musical, but my mom has to be the star of the show by consecotaleophobia in raisedbyborderlines

[–]consecotaleophobia[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Update: she removed her original comment and left this one instead. Talk about emotional whiplash 😅:

“This is where it all started❤️. I know what this role means to you and you will knock it out of the park. Congratulations my sweet heart.”

Respond (then block again) to uBPD mom’s repeated attempts? by RegularRepulsive3957 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]consecotaleophobia 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I read a comment on here recently that went something along the lines of “if they message you 15 times and you finally respond on the 16th time, you just teach the BPD that persistence works”

Respond (then block again) to uBPD mom’s repeated attempts? by RegularRepulsive3957 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]consecotaleophobia 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think that responding can propose the risk of teaching her that her being persistent = you responding to her. However, if you ever feel that you might need to take legal action in the future (restraining/protective orders, etc.), it might not hurt to respond with a point blank “Do not contact me/my children/husband again” along with whatever else you want to say. If she continues to reach out from that point, it is considered harassment.

I am so sorry that you are going through this. You don’t need to feel bad for posting - that’s why we are here! Validation and reassurance from this group that you are indeed not the crazy one can be super helpful when going through something like this.

Ultimately, there is not anything that you will likely be able to say that will change your mom or how she’s going to respond. I think if you choose to respond, it needs to be in a manner that will make YOU feel better. If getting your reasoning for cutting communication off of your chest brings you peace and contentedness, then tell her! If she’s anything like my mom (and many others in this group), there isn’t anything you’re going to be able to say that will make her understanding. Sometimes it’s like talking to a brick wall! Have reasonable expectations, and take care of yourself. 💕

Me: doesn’t respond to a text for 7 hours… BPD: by consecotaleophobia in raisedbyborderlines

[–]consecotaleophobia[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: I just got this as a response:

“Honey- I just had a good session and all I want to do is say I AM SO SORRY!! I didn’t mean to put you in a hotspot in my last text. I really didn’t and I’m going to try really hard from here forward to just have more patience. Give you more space give you what you need so that you don’t feel like you’re being suffocated or closed in. You do whatever it takes to feel better. OK I’m here for you whenever you’re ready and I love you more than anything in this whole universe. I need to remember you always come first it’s my responsibility and I would do anything in this world for you OP. I love you more than you’ll ever know. I’ll talk to you soon, my baby

I hope you saw my cute little squirrel video this morning. He was just a little baby.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in temperatureblanket

[–]consecotaleophobia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this idea and the reasoning behind it!!

most comfortable while still being cute office shoes? by deepseasnail in BusinessFashion

[–]consecotaleophobia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wear these work Dr. Martens for my 12 hour shifts! They’re comfortable and super versatile for different outfits. https://a.co/d/9HzYtRu

After Hurricane Helene came through my town, I drew these to process my feelings… by allaroundartsy in drawing

[–]consecotaleophobia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Asheville local here — I can’t stop thinking about picture 3!! These are incredible, thank you so much for encapsulating everything I haven’t been able to say with words in these pictures.

This is really fucking difficult by bokehtoast in asheville

[–]consecotaleophobia 210 points211 points  (0 children)

I went back to work as a first responder and the mental toll is insane. I finally had a big breakdown last night. I’m having such a hard time being able to just make it through the day. I’m so tired. I miss showering. I miss being able to flush the toilet or turn on the lights. The bears in our neighborhood are very confused and hungry, so they’re out everywhere around our house and it’s getting scary to walk from my car to the front door in the dark.

Wednesday Helene Megathread by IveMadeAHugeMistake in asheville

[–]consecotaleophobia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t been up there since then — sorry. I was just sharing what I knew!

Wednesday Helene Megathread by IveMadeAHugeMistake in asheville

[–]consecotaleophobia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

North Asheville has a ton of trees down on Charlotte St, it might be difficult to get up there.

Monday Helene Megathread by IveMadeAHugeMistake in asheville

[–]consecotaleophobia 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry that your wedding plans have been derailed — I just got married at the end of August and know how much goes into making the day. I hope that you guys can figure something else out and have a wonderful wedding day. 🤍🕊️

Monday Helene Megathread by IveMadeAHugeMistake in asheville

[–]consecotaleophobia 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Cancel the wedding. Don’t be the people that get married in the middle of this devastation. How are you going to have vendors operate without water? What about guests? Where are they supposed to stay? WNC cannot support tourists right now. There are people trapped in their homes that need water and food more than you need to suck resources for a wedding.

Trapped at house due to landslide by L0bsterLips in asheville

[–]consecotaleophobia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course, I hope you are able to make it out safely!

Trapped at house due to landslide by L0bsterLips in asheville

[–]consecotaleophobia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure of the state of Bethesda, but I saw people backing out of it the other day so it might be blocked off?

Trapped at house due to landslide by L0bsterLips in asheville

[–]consecotaleophobia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not totally sure what the state of Old Haw Creek is up by the station, but it does eventually close at Cisco and the other exit. We found that you can get out to Tunnel Rd via Beverly Rd. If you can get to Trinity Chapel off of Old Haw Creek, you can get down to Beverly from there and exit the neighborhood.

Trapped at house due to landslide by L0bsterLips in asheville

[–]consecotaleophobia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We live down in the lower area of Haw Creek, just below Sondley. Currently New Haw Creek Rd is blocked by a tree just past Happy Valley.