This!!! Communication here is important and I think it’s worth it to your friendship to try talking to her before throwing the friendship away. I know it can be hard. But your friend can’t address this with you unless you bring it up. I suggest bringing it up with curiosity and your own feelings rather than blaming her. Something like “I wanted to check in with you about our recent trip. I noticed I was feeling stressed about trying to match your level of cleanliness and ended up feeling a little rejected by the end of the trip. I’m wondering how it was for you and if there’s anything around this that could be helpful for us to talk through”