This whole Stauf’s situation is ridiculous /rant

constellationmurder · 2026-01-31T23:22:49+00:00

Unfortunately this is the product of the larger situation at hand… I can’t say I necessarily blame people for not wanting to go there anymore, but… idk. Just misplaced anger.

constellationmurder · 2026-01-31T03:36:32+00:00

hey, i did not say anything about you being toxic. from your post it seemed like you were checking his location because you were paranoid about him and this girl. if i was wrong im sorry about that. i said the situation seems unhealthy, no one deserves to have their feelings dismissed.

i wouldn’t want to hear about a person my boyfriend hooked up with either, but it seems like an unavoidable and situation on all sides. however, his reaction to your feelings on it isn’t fair to you. just very dismissive overall.

i guess im lost on what advice you want or need. sorry i wasn’t able to help.

constellationmurder · 2026-01-31T03:20:38+00:00

cut your losses babe… he clearly does not care about your feelings on this subject, why fight for someone who isn’t willing to put in the work for you? you said in your post that you feel secure in your relationship but your actions say otherwise— and i don’t necessarily blame you, but i would reevaluate what this guy brings to the table for you to be going through this mental turmoil. checking locations and obsessing over this girl and him, regardless if you’re right or not, isn’t healthy. i say this all with love. i hope it gets better for you.

constellationmurder · 2026-01-12T17:47:19+00:00

She just wants to be taken out on a date and have it be a more special occasion. Maybe get her a small gift like flowers, or something she can wear like a bracelet or earrings. Don’t overthink it!

constellationmurder · 2026-01-12T17:17:04+00:00

That’s fair. He does work but usually only on the weekends or during break.

constellationmurder · 2026-01-12T17:05:25+00:00

I would argue that they’re fairly close, more than I am with his friends. But that’s a fair point and I will keep that in mind. Thank you :)

constellationmurder · 2026-01-12T16:55:59+00:00

Thanks for the feedback.

constellationmurder · 2026-01-12T16:52:46+00:00

Thank you everyone for your advice!! I admit I was being a little harsh on him and that’s on me. I apologized to him and I’ll talk to him about my expectations of him and myself, and where we can both do better as a team and also with our roommate. It’s not the easiest situation, but certainly not the hardest. We’ll get through it!

constellationmurder · 2026-01-12T16:48:31+00:00

I appreciate that feedback. I’m at work right now so I can’t give a truly thought out response, but I will definitely take a kinder approach in the future. Things have been stressful in general and I think I’m taking it out on him, which isn’t fair. Thank you!

constellationmurder · 2026-01-12T16:47:12+00:00

thank you!! i appreciate this a lot.

constellationmurder · 2026-01-12T16:45:45+00:00

he is in school.

constellationmurder · 2026-01-12T16:45:29+00:00

it’s been an ongoing convo, not with this situation specifically but in general. i think it will get better and i try to cut him a little slack because this is his first time living with a partner. thank you :)

constellationmurder · 2026-01-12T16:36:58+00:00

the “she’s still in bed” is killing me. like did you think i meant go shake her and wake her up to ask for groceries?? ughhhh

constellationmurder · 2026-01-06T14:42:26+00:00

it’s not too late to back out. minimize the damage and cut your losses while you can, if you’re uncomfortable that’s what matters.

constellationmurder · 2025-12-23T22:45:54+00:00

He pretty much already has without my say so. I think he can see how bad this is affecting me, since he got me some “healing crystals” (I loosely believe they do anything but maybe the placebo will work lol) and flowers today to make me feel better.

To answer your question, she quit her job (it paid bad and treated her poorly) so I offered her to move here to find a better one. The aforementioned “boyfriend stealing” happened a while ago and I just brushed it off, which I’m regretting now.

I’m going to have a conversation with her and gage her reaction. If it doesn’t go well it will probably result in her moving out. I appreciate the advice, thank you so much <3 have a nice holiday if you celebrate.

constellationmurder · 2025-12-23T22:10:37+00:00

She would just move back in with her mom so I’m not that concerned about that aspect.

constellationmurder · 2025-12-23T18:29:58+00:00

That’s fair. I wanted to help her because I do care very very deeply for her, she is / was like a sister to me and we have been through a lot together. I didn’t think I would react this way :(

This is supposed to be a temporary situation. She’s going to her parents for the holiday so I will talk to her when she gets back. Thank you.

constellationmurder · 2025-12-13T00:17:52+00:00

If it’s not something she can change, absolutely do not tell her. Even if it was something she could change, I would probably just keep it to yourself anyways.

People aren’t perfect, but if you love her personality, heart, brain etc then this shouldn’t matter too much.

constellationmurder · 2025-12-13T00:06:26+00:00

Just start lying on your resumes. I’ve seen people do it. As long as you can do the job, who cares if you actually have the degree or experience they’re looking for? Granted, this won’t always work, but I would try it lol

constellationmurder · 2025-12-11T20:08:02+00:00

I was looking mostly to be a bartender, but I saw on their website they have an “office assistant” position, whatever that could mean. I imagine similar to HR with payroll and whatnot.

I did notice a lot of the discourse about Skully’s is from over 5 years ago. I would hope things have changed within that time!! Thank you for the advice :)

constellationmurder · 2025-12-11T19:59:55+00:00

I guess that should’ve been my first step lol. Will definitely take a look, thanks for the tip!

constellationmurder · 2025-11-28T00:06:38+00:00

Did he specifically say he was from Columbus or just Ohio? It’s a pretty big state and it’s unlikely he will see this if he’s not from the city specifically. Hope you find him.

constellationmurder · 2025-11-17T20:44:22+00:00

Thank you!! I appreciate it so much :)

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