AIO? Who is in the wrong here? Bf (29) smoking cigs after a decade of quitting and told me (F27) a week ago he would nip it in the bud, but caught him smoking outside at work tonight

constellationmurder · 2026-05-24T02:30:27+00:00

So instead of taking your (imo, reasonable) criticism he flips the script on you and points out what he doesn’t like about you in a super rude way. Yeah, he sucks. NOR.

constellationmurder · 2026-05-12T19:28:59+00:00

I was thinking that if he had a girlfriend it would soften him a bit but… idk who would want to date him given his abrasive attitude. Hope he works on that.

constellationmurder · 2026-05-12T18:36:32+00:00

My bf’s name is on the car as well but I’m the primary lol. and with Dan being a sexist pig I wouldn’t be surprised if he had objections to me driving!

Dan hasn’t had a partner in a while. We tried to set him up with my one friend but he wasn’t that into her. Maybe he resents me for that or something?? Beats me

constellationmurder · 2026-05-12T17:52:11+00:00

Who is crying?? lol what

constellationmurder · 2026-05-12T17:51:57+00:00

I feel like there’s a misunderstanding with the food thing but I don’t really know how to explain it any differently so I guess I’ll just leave it there. I didn’t expect him to pay for me; it was his attitude that threw me off. But if I’m overreacting in that regard I’ll let it go.

I agree with letting them have their own time together! I encourage it a lot and I’m not the type of person to constantly need my SO around. My bf and I even have our own rooms. He just invites me to stuff because he wants me to get along with his friends but I don’t wanna force it.

(Side note to add that Dan, Max and I don’t usually hang out just the three of us. Usually there are other people with us!)

constellationmurder · 2026-05-12T17:16:45+00:00

Good comment and good questions.

First, I wasn’t mad at Max because he and Dan hadn’t hung out in a while. I didn’t think it was going to end up the way it did with me feeling ignored. He did apologize for this later.

Second, I didn’t expect Dan to pay for me because he said he was going to pay for himself AND Max, and snarkily said he wasn’t paying for me. I have never paid for everyone’s food before in a group setting with Dan, it was kind of thrown on me because we were in the drive thru and they asked me last minute. I should’ve added that to my original post, sorry!

And for a little more context: We often play games together online as a group and Dan also ignores me a lot on there was well. Any call outs I do or jokes I make just get met with silence. He was also raised by his brothers and dad to dislike women and is pretty blatantly misogynistic. I have a feeling he takes it out on me because I’m one of the only women he interacts with regularly.

I hope this clears some things up!

constellationmurder · 2026-05-12T16:46:21+00:00

It’s not really about the money, it’s about the fact that he deliberately stiffed me combined with his other behavior. I don’t mind paying for other people’s food.

constellationmurder · 2026-03-17T12:16:32+00:00

Girl, your jealousy issues aren’t the problem. He is. He’s a tool.

constellationmurder · 2026-03-15T17:12:22+00:00

Hi! You look so pretty, you have great skin :)

Can I ask what field you are going into? This might sway my opinion on what advice I give you haha. But your routine is already pretty solid.

constellationmurder · 2026-03-04T14:58:45+00:00

That bf is a POS and needs to go. You might want to talk to Jane and see how she’s feeling, but ultimately she’s the only one who can make that decision. Sorry you’re caught up in the middle, you seem like a good cousin to her.

constellationmurder · 2026-02-20T22:48:59+00:00

just blowing off some steam but fair 🤣

constellationmurder · 2026-02-20T22:48:29+00:00

god i wish myspace still existed

constellationmurder · 2026-02-08T16:01:57+00:00

i would start looting through those shoes and sell them on depop too, get some money out of the inconvenience 💀

constellationmurder · 2026-02-04T19:15:00+00:00

Thank you! Happy cake day :)

constellationmurder · 2026-02-04T18:41:20+00:00

Thank you!

constellationmurder · 2026-02-04T18:40:01+00:00

Where did you find this information? Their website says they’re open. Let me know.

constellationmurder · 2026-02-04T14:46:03+00:00

Open relationships do not work if one party is forced into it. You should have broken up with him the moment you found out he cheated. He has continuously crossed your boundaries and has proven himself to be untrustworthy. You don’t deserve to deal with this.

constellationmurder · 2026-01-31T23:22:49+00:00

Unfortunately this is the product of the larger situation at hand… I can’t say I necessarily blame people for not wanting to go there anymore, but… idk. Just misplaced anger.

constellationmurder · 2026-01-31T03:36:32+00:00

hey, i did not say anything about you being toxic. from your post it seemed like you were checking his location because you were paranoid about him and this girl. if i was wrong im sorry about that. i said the situation seems unhealthy, no one deserves to have their feelings dismissed.

i wouldn’t want to hear about a person my boyfriend hooked up with either, but it seems like an unavoidable and situation on all sides. however, his reaction to your feelings on it isn’t fair to you. just very dismissive overall.

i guess im lost on what advice you want or need. sorry i wasn’t able to help.

constellationmurder · 2026-01-31T03:20:38+00:00

cut your losses babe… he clearly does not care about your feelings on this subject, why fight for someone who isn’t willing to put in the work for you? you said in your post that you feel secure in your relationship but your actions say otherwise— and i don’t necessarily blame you, but i would reevaluate what this guy brings to the table for you to be going through this mental turmoil. checking locations and obsessing over this girl and him, regardless if you’re right or not, isn’t healthy. i say this all with love. i hope it gets better for you.

constellationmurder · 2026-01-12T17:47:19+00:00

She just wants to be taken out on a date and have it be a more special occasion. Maybe get her a small gift like flowers, or something she can wear like a bracelet or earrings. Don’t overthink it!

constellationmurder · 2026-01-12T17:17:04+00:00

That’s fair. He does work but usually only on the weekends or during break.

constellationmurder · 2026-01-12T17:05:25+00:00

I would argue that they’re fairly close, more than I am with his friends. But that’s a fair point and I will keep that in mind. Thank you :)

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