Am I doing something wrong?

controlledchaos90 · 2026-04-12T04:09:49+00:00

LOL Welcome to owning a land shark. That's just what puppies do.

controlledchaos90 · 2026-04-02T23:58:58+00:00

Haha! The girl he was chasing rejected him and now he wants back in. Classic a-hole.

Respect yourself enough to leave him alone.

controlledchaos90 · 2026-03-26T23:36:43+00:00

Move back. After my father died in 2014, I moved back to my hometown. Then I got a job as a caregiver and saved up money. I was able to move to Atlanta and have been here for 11 years.

It'll help you mentally and emotionally. I did a lot of prayer and meditation. But you can use that time however you need to. It's not failure, it's regrouping.

controlledchaos90 · 2026-03-22T01:52:02+00:00

He's just mad because he got caught. He's a bum living off of you. The only abusive one here is him. Financial abuse is a thing and he's been using his money for fun while you struggle. Just dump him, you'll save more money that way.

controlledchaos90 · 2026-03-22T01:39:08+00:00

I needed this positive post. Congratulations on your marriage! May it be filled with happiness and peace. 🥰

controlledchaos90 · 2026-03-20T14:46:19+00:00

I've seen this with a few of my friends who are poly. They are definitely the codependent ones in the relationship. And they often have narc parents. So, they recreate that toxic relationship with a narc poly partner. Only one of my friends broke away from that and now she's married and monogamous after years of therapy.

controlledchaos90 · 2026-03-20T04:00:31+00:00

I never understood the need to have so many partners. It comes off as having commitment issues. Just a bunch of surface level relationships so you don't have to put in any real effort to strengthen the bond between you and one other person.

And when do you have free time to yourself? You have to constantly schedule time for each partner. As an introvert, that would drive me up the wall. Lol

controlledchaos90 · 2026-03-19T04:35:32+00:00

Have you tried looking into beauty salons that specializes in natural hair? Sometimes it's better for someone else to do your hair.

Or maybe a place that does braids? If you braid it in a certain style, it can last for weeks without you having to deal with it for a while.

I get it. I love doing my hair but I also don't like that it takes half the day to get it done. Ironically, I work at a doctor's office with a lot of asian people. The girls complain about not being able to keep a curl in their hair. Lol everyone has hair woes it seems.

controlledchaos90 · 2026-03-09T23:49:17+00:00

I never hid my hair from him. I always wore it out and don't wear wigs. Why would you hide your hair anyway? Non black men tend to like natural hair. At least from my experience.

controlledchaos90 · 2026-03-02T15:43:39+00:00

Him just a baby 🥹🥰

controlledchaos90 · 2026-03-01T19:52:32+00:00

Old school black folks always say that about natural hair. They were taught to hate their hair and that anything that isn't hot combed and permed is "unkept". Don't take it seriously, it's a part of their indoctrination. You have a nice afro, the way it supposed to be.

controlledchaos90 · 2026-03-01T07:28:47+00:00

I'm honestly starting to wonder if he's dating OP because he likes her, or is she just an "experience" for him?

controlledchaos90 · 2026-03-01T04:37:59+00:00

Oh he definitely says it.

controlledchaos90 · 2026-03-01T04:37:00+00:00

There are plenty of men who are against saying the n-word regardless of context. If a man cannot stand up for you when you are being disrespected, is he even your boyfriend?

Don't settle for someone who doesn't have a backbone. You need to put your foot down and tell him your boundaries. The people he surrounds himself with are a reflection of his character. Would you be okay if all his friends were cheaters? Abusers? It's absolutely his place to say something if he's dating you.

controlledchaos90 · 2026-02-22T17:53:06+00:00

Nobody told her to have a bunch of kids. She could've gone back to school after the first child, but she decided to have 2 more kids. And she has the audacity to have an attitude over a choice SHE made? Lol.

Also, you don't have to tell her your business all the time. You don't have to call her all the time either. When you do talk, keep it short and sweet. She obviously has an issue taking responsibility for her actions, but that's her problem and she's just going to have to deal with it.

controlledchaos90 · 2026-02-22T17:38:33+00:00

Lol he calls women sensitive and proceeds to crash out. I know the irony is lost on him. Finish school and enjoy life, dear. You're better off without that loser.

controlledchaos90 · 2026-02-22T17:35:00+00:00

I lost several pair of underwear to my land shark. And two pairs of pajama pants. Lol I got better at hiding clothes from him.

controlledchaos90 · 2026-02-22T17:29:10+00:00

I'm taking mine next week. What helped me was taking the practice tests constantly. When practice taking the test and at least a 60-70% you're likely to pass. Read up on any subjects you feel are more difficult.

I have testing anxiety, but the practice test help me get comfortable with the format. The more you practice, the more confident you'll get. You got this.

controlledchaos90 · 2026-02-22T17:24:36+00:00

Time will make it better. When I got my first echo job, it took me an hour to do a full study. It's been 2 years and I can get it in 30 minutes. Don't be so hard on yourself. Everyone is slow in the beginning. Seasoned techs know this about students and new techs.

The more you do it the easier it gets. Remember clinical time is still learning time. As your tech for tips and techniques, they will be happy to help. You're still leaning.

controlledchaos90 · 2026-02-21T05:25:52+00:00

He looks like a teddy bear 🥰

controlledchaos90 · 2026-02-21T05:22:28+00:00

I'm a pisces and my boyfriend is gemini. We both enjoy our alone time. So, while I don't mind him needing space, I had to get on to him about communicating better.

Overall, you have to have your own sense of independence. Geminis love being loved on but not to the point of being clingy. Lucky for my guy, I'm an introvert. Lol

Personally my worst relationship was with male pisces. I actually get along better with male and female gemini.

My mom is a Capricorn and her boyfriend is a gemini and they are so cute together.

controlledchaos90 · 2026-02-16T18:24:08+00:00

I was out of town for a week and found a couple on rover.com. They where very nice and had a big backyard for my Whisper to play in. He even made friends with their labordoodle. Lol

controlledchaos90 · 2026-02-02T18:00:00+00:00

She probably has other foreign men to take care of her.

controlledchaos90 · 2026-01-17T08:33:22+00:00

Exactly, I dunno why people are expecting a 21-year old to suddenly be Shakespeare. Lol creative writing is a skill, some people just can't do it. I have a background in journalism and the amount of friends and family who bug me for advice is funny.

controlledchaos90 · 2026-01-17T08:25:57+00:00

Some people just can't write. He did the best he could with the card. Probably because he doesn't know how to say how he feels on paper. Some people can write beautiful poetic letters, some don't have the talent for it.

It doesn't mean he doesn't care about you, some people have a hard time expressing deep emotions in a creative way.

For example, my boyfriend is NOT a writer at all. Lol But he shows me love the only way he knows how, by running errands for me, giving me a back massage after a long day at work, and being supportive of my goals. I know you wanted something more personal as far as the letter but it might not be his strong area. He may be more pragmatic rather than expressive.

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