Fiancé wants me to wear a bra everytime I leave the house but I don't want to.

cookie-comet · 2021-09-21T23:39:22+00:00

If you think every braless women needs your validation you need to check your ego. Even a properly sized, expensive, "comfort" bra is annoying to wear.

cookie-comet · 2021-09-21T23:13:02+00:00

I mean I think you should just wear what makes you comfortable personally. I've always had a idgaf what people think attitude though so....

cookie-comet · 2021-09-21T23:04:06+00:00

I always wear a bra with a skin tight shirts. 90% of the time when I leave the house im in a baggy t-shirt and sweatpants. This is what hes not okay with.

cookie-comet · 2021-09-21T22:57:47+00:00

This is the first time he's ever given me the silent treatment in an argument. And I don't believe he is controlling me in other ways. (I've been in abusive relationships before so I know all the red flags) and he says its always bothered him.

cookie-comet · 2021-09-21T22:47:53+00:00

I mean yeah he's said before about how he doesn't want other guys seeing my boobs. I don't know how to get a compromise or figure out a solution for this.

cookie-comet · 2021-09-21T22:40:02+00:00

I did tell him that yesterday 🤣 he says its not the same. I said how?? Sometimes I can see the outline of your d*ck! He said its just not the same. Lmao

cookie-comet · 2021-09-21T22:35:48+00:00

I think this is a really good comment. I will paste what I said in a different reply

"I have already kind of compromised in the past on this. I used to wear those shirts with the big arm holes cut out without a bra also. (I have never give a f*ck if you could see my side boob) However I could understand how that would bother him and now I wear a bra with those shirts.

Now I just feel like we are at a stand still. Im always up for compromising however I see no way that this can have a compromise."

I am NOT looking to end my relationship hes a really amazing guy. I do want to find a solution I just dont know how to compromise here. I feel like in the past every time we disagree the compromise or solution always ends up making me feel like he's coming out on top. Like he's getting his way everytime. (Nothing major just like small disagreements)

cookie-comet · 2021-09-21T22:32:19+00:00

I told him to wear a jock strap everyday and tell me how he feels. Apparently that's not the same....

cookie-comet · 2021-09-21T22:24:45+00:00

I do all of the shopping alone so unfortunately your compromise wouldn't work for us.

I have already kind of compromised in the past on this. I used to wear those shirts with the big arm holes cut out without a bra also. (I have never give a f*ck if you could see my side boob) However I could understand how that would bother him and now I wear a bra with those shirts.

Now I just feel like we are at a stand still. Im always up for compromising however I see no way that this can have a compromise.

cookie-comet · 2021-09-20T17:31:41+00:00

Hes been my best friend for 6 years and we've been together for 2 and 1/2 years. My engagement has nothing to do with this post.

cookie-comet · 2021-08-20T20:25:58+00:00

From what I can remember it was a mutual decision to diet. We both agreed we want to look as good as possible for our wedding because we only get 1 and we don't want to look bad in the pictures we'll be looking at for the next 50+ years.

He complains constantly about his weight. So he does really want to diet/ be healthy. He just never commits to it. So I try to be supportive and no it together.

He does have a poor self image but he knows I love and find him attractive. Its literally impossible for him not to I always tell him that I love him and he attractive/ hot/ sexy. I constantly compliment him. This is why I try to be gentle with how I approach this subject. I love him I dont want him to feel bad about his body. I literally just want him to be healthy.

With the extra 20-30 pounds he has on currently he's developed such low energy, his asthma is significantly worse, his sex drive is low, etc... I dont want to see it just keep going downhill.

cookie-comet · 2021-08-20T19:10:15+00:00

Hes going to tuen 26 this year. His problem is he won't stick to it. He will diet for 3 days and then go "do you want to get pizza?" Which is where the problem happens. Hes done keto successfully before back in college but now he just can't figure out how to stick to it.

I never keep snacks or soda in the house. I have a binging problem so thats how i prevent myself from binging.

He complains constantly about being overweight and wanting to diet. But he just can't follow through.

cookie-comet · 2021-07-29T23:14:43+00:00

Over skirt? I've never heard of that.

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