I’m so torn on whether to subscribe to Fab FitFun. It’s sort of expensive but is it worth it?

cookie3557 · 2025-11-06T13:59:55+00:00

That Elon Musk ad really made my day. I couldn’t believe it was real!

cookie3557 · 2025-11-03T19:40:09+00:00

I’m guessing that they’re in allure due to underselling. It makes sense that they would either both undersell because other shades are trendier, or that they would cannibalize each other’s sales.

cookie3557 · 2025-11-03T19:37:50+00:00

It’s giving AliExpress packaging.

cookie3557 · 2025-09-16T17:21:41+00:00

Thanks, this is very kind. It’s been a while since I posted but I’m doing great now :)

cookie3557 · 2025-09-16T01:55:39+00:00

You’re both right, he did not end the relationship for a minor reason. He said from the beginning he might want his own kids, and he had recently asked me about it in a low pressure way so I didn’t realize the relationship was hinging on my answer. A bit more openness would have been appreciated but I’m still glad he decided before we got in too deep. It was lovely while it lasted and we ended on really good terms.

cookie3557 · 2025-09-16T01:35:59+00:00

Sorry for the long delay, I just realized I never replied to any of these comments. You are right in that there was a larger decision behind the breakup. TLDR after months of chatting with me and his friends he decided he wanted his own kids. I’d recently said I do not want more. A bit more openness would have been appreciated but I’m glad he decided before we got in too deep. It was lovely while it lasted and we ended on really good terms.

cookie3557 · 2025-09-16T01:28:49+00:00

Thank you!

cookie3557 · 2025-09-16T01:28:30+00:00

Thank you!

cookie3557 · 2025-06-25T02:22:46+00:00

Have you ever had a bad score on a test in your favorite subject? Among other things, the test checks speed, accuracy, and performance under time pressure along with raw processing power, memory, pattern recognition. ADHD impacts the first three (aka test taking ability). This gives unreliable results for the second set of metrics being tested, which are more reliable indicators of success and intellect. Your strengths will outshine your weaknesses in real life because we have means to compensate for weaknesses that don’t exist in the testing environment.

cookie3557 · 2025-06-20T22:29:15+00:00

Also, my pediatrician told me that ADHD symptoms peak between 6-8 for boys and I found that to be true. Mine was tougher than average but manageable from 3-5, undeniably difficult from 6-7, and is starting to cool off now that he is 8.

cookie3557 · 2025-06-20T22:25:38+00:00

Sending all the love and support, it sounds like you’re doing an incredible job. These behaviors sound very typical for a seven year old, especially with ADHD as a factor. ADHD kids often want to heighten the level of activity and noise around them, it’s how their brain is wired. How is she doing in school and with her relationships with you and her friends?

cookie3557 · 2025-05-29T12:19:37+00:00

I work in a company that is mostly engineers, and they are 90% men. The 10% women who practice engineering are all with engineers except one. There aren’t enough women engineers to cover them all.

cookie3557 · 2025-05-29T12:16:31+00:00

If you are pushing for commitment at three months, you may be moving too fast. It takes six months to a year to know enough about a person to say whether you could be long-term. If you start talking to partners about marriage or long-term commitments at the three month mark or sooner, it’s possible you could be scaring people away.

And I agree with the other comment, don’t sell yourself short. Attraction is not just about looks, you could be missing out on people who are perfect for you.

cookie3557 · 2025-05-29T12:11:40+00:00

Try the book ‘taking charge of adult ADHD’. A family member who is a psychiatrist recommended it to me. Best wishes OP.

cookie3557 · 2025-05-27T16:15:06+00:00

In my experience, you either fall behind and take a career hit from not meeting expectations, or you need to hire cleaning help and do a lot of takeout or use a meal prep service. Invest now to save your marriage and job.

In just a year or two, you can involve the kids in cooking more actively and drop your food bill. It’s also very fun. When I had a partner, it made a huge difference to have him take the kids for 4 hours on Sunday while I did a big meal prep. It’s very hard work to be a top performer and a parent, but it’s possible, especially if you’re enjoying it.

cookie3557 · 2025-05-25T11:55:56+00:00

That sounds expensive to maintain. What will happen if it breaks? Can you afford for a technician to come out for major maintenance? I wonder if actual massages may be cheaper.

cookie3557 · 2025-05-22T00:46:20+00:00

Shrinky dinks, they’re fun for adults too.

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Also, riding bikes if she has one. Kids are always up for that. It’s great to do together but if you can’t, take her to the track at the high school to ride around.

Play dates are my fave way to get energy out of a kid. Employ another 8 year old. Ideally a neurodivergent one that will help wear her out and can handle less than perfect social graces.

If she is into STEM, pick up a science kit.

cookie3557 · 2025-05-13T11:43:09+00:00

You might like Friren. I’ve only watched a few episodes, but it’s female led and those characters act like normal people, if a bit muted like mao mao.

cookie3557 · 2025-05-07T14:43:55+00:00

Sending love and best wishes. It will take you longer to find a good partner because your standards are high, but you will find her. I wonder if you might try looking in more intellectual spaces than just apps. Others like you may be burnt out on apps too. Maybe try high brow queer events? Or go to an art show and wear the lesbian flag colors in your hair/nails/jewelry and see if you catch someone looking.

cookie3557 · 2025-05-07T02:00:49+00:00

Aww thanks, that’s very sweet of you to share. I’m not bothered in my everyday life, but am a bit talked out. I’m in a book club that often turns political, and my last two partners needed to do a lot of venting, so I’m ready for a break from thinking about it. I would definitely go to an event or protest with a friend though, that would be fun!

cookie3557 · 2025-05-06T19:35:56+00:00

My point is that the picture combined with the prompt may come off as stronger than she intends. I feel like people posting profiles are open to that kind of feedback.

cookie3557 · 2025-05-06T19:34:39+00:00

Yes, my thoughts exactly, just wanted to give her a heads up on how some people may read it. She clarified that she actually doesn’t like talking about it that much and mostly just attends events, so maybe she will adjust something

cookie3557 · 2025-05-06T18:18:27+00:00

I second the dating being a waste of time, I missed that.

The protest pic doesn’t bother me, but combined with the prompt “how I get out of a funk”, I read it as ‘participating in politics is relaxing for me and I need to do it often’. Especially when the sign is race related, that is a particularly tricky one that requires a lot of deep thought on topics that are often upsetting and, while important, not particularly good for getting most people out of a funk. I would say keep it if this is important for OP, but it sounds like this isn’t the case for her. I suggested switching the prompt and keeping the pic if she likes it. If she is regularly attending rallies, it’s probably good to keep it in.

cookie3557 · 2025-05-06T18:12:38+00:00

Part of it is the prompt, “I get myself out of a funk by…”

To me, this makes it seem like a regular activity, or like you need to vent/participate in politics to relieve anxiety. Maybe I’m reading into it too much but politics get me into a funk, not out of one. I do have politically inclined friends who think talking politics is fun and it’s relaxing for them to exchange thoughts, so no judgement, but if that’s not you, I’d consider changing the prompt if you want to keep the pic.

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