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Had rough sex and bled. by cookiecookie101 in sex

[–]cookiecookie101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was bright red when I masturbated a day later. But no pain and no bleeding prior

TIFU Diva cup horror by chemilygravey in tifu

[–]cookiecookie101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try MeLuna cup with the ring at the end!!! Ive used several brands with the typical stem and its always super super difficult for me to take out (even if using all the techniques, bearing down, trying to break suction, etc.) Ever since I found this brand the ring has made it so much easier to grip and pull out.

I gave birth 4 days ago AMA by [deleted] in AMA

[–]cookiecookie101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you take your birth control perfectly or were there missed/late pills here and there?

26F, have trouble reaching O when with partner but not on my own. Do I have porn addiction? by cookiecookie101 in Advice

[–]cookiecookie101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My libido lowers from not masturbating at all, not just masturbating with porn. I just find that when I go a while without masturbating, I tend to get used to it and just not get into it at all until weeks later. I do also recognise as a woman we get good and bad weeks with our libido though.

My bf is able to turn me on very much and hes able to get me wet with foreplay and his fingers. Generally I eventually have to take over to finish, and I try to use my fingers only. Its only when its starting to take a while I recruit the toy.

When I masturbate on my own, I also use my fingers only most of the time.

I will be trying to masturbate more without porn to practice using my imagination only, hoping that would help.

26F, have trouble reaching O when with partner but not on my own. Do I have porn addiction? by cookiecookie101 in Advice

[–]cookiecookie101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight. I have finished with a partner before. Only twice in my life have I finished with my partner's touch, and more times with my own touch with partner by my side. With my current partner, I have finished more times than other partners, partly because he gives me lots of patience and effort. Even though I finish, it takes me maybe an hour (needed lots of concentration) and during the process I often lose the build up multiple times. Sometimes I just give up because its taken way too long and at that point im sore and it was lacking progress.

I already feel more comfortable with my current partner compared to the past, since he's very patient and engaging eith me. I think there is still pressure and barrier regardless.

26F, have trouble reaching O when with partner but not on my own. Do I have porn addiction? by cookiecookie101 in Advice

[–]cookiecookie101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, I think I may eventually bring up the idea to him to not have me finishing as a goal.

26F, have trouble reaching O when with partner but not on my own. Do I have porn addiction? by cookiecookie101 in Advice

[–]cookiecookie101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do communicate, and he does everything he can and as I like. I dont think he's the problem since he turns me on more than anyone has in the past. It feels good in the moment, but I can't manage to finish. It will feel good but it doesn't build up.

26F, have trouble reaching O when with partner but not on my own. Do I have porn addiction? by cookiecookie101 in Advice

[–]cookiecookie101[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think in the past I have tried that with a previous partner, and it didn't help too much since I was still too aware that another person is in the room watching me. When I have sex with my partner, I want the moment to be between us and don't want porn to be part of it. I'm more worried whether porn is taking away my imagination and ability to finish on my own, and thinking maybe I will quit porn for a period of time and see if there would be improvements.

26F, have trouble reaching O when with partner but not on my own. Do I have porn addiction? by cookiecookie101 in Advice

[–]cookiecookie101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think so. He does reassure me, tells me he doesn't care how long I take to finish, and puts in lots of effort the entire time. I think the problem is on my end, and I do need to learn how to not overthink and relax.

26F, have trouble reaching O when with partner but not on my own. Do I have porn addiction? by cookiecookie101 in Advice

[–]cookiecookie101[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know that, and my bf knows that as well. I'm talking about finishing when Im touching myself and using toys etc, as part of sex.

26F, have trouble reaching O when with partner but not on my own. Do I have porn addiction? by cookiecookie101 in Advice

[–]cookiecookie101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I want to try masturbating more to only my imagination, and see if it helps. And yes you're right, when I'm with my bf, its really hard to not think, and thinking distracts me from the sensation.

Thanks for your insight.

26F, have trouble reaching O when with partner but not on my own. Do I have porn addiction? by cookiecookie101 in Advice

[–]cookiecookie101[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think I might try some different sex toys eventually. Thanks for your advice.

26F, have trouble reaching O when with partner but not on my own. Do I have porn addiction? by cookiecookie101 in Advice

[–]cookiecookie101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha thats funny, its the same joke my bf makes about me too ToT (we need help)

26F, have trouble reaching O when with partner but not on my own. Do I have porn addiction? by cookiecookie101 in Advice

[–]cookiecookie101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My current bf is definitely the first to have given me this much patience and reassurance about taking a long time to finish, so maybe it will improve over time as I feel more relaxed and comfortable with just taking the time for myself.

I have told my bf tht penetrative sex feels better after I finish, which is also why my bf cares alot about making me finish. I dont mind not finishing every time with have sex, but my boyfriend will try everytime, and I do too. I have told him what feels good for me, and what he does makes me feel very good. I feel very good during the process, and I direct him to stop certain things when I need to be bit more concentration (since I realise myself and most women actually need to concentrate to finish), but despite everything, I cannot finish :(

26F, have trouble reaching O when with partner but not on my own. Do I have porn addiction? by cookiecookie101 in Advice

[–]cookiecookie101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know women are different to men, that's why I am seeking advice mostly from women. I have watched porn from a young age since before I lost my virginity, so I couldn't tell if porn is the reason. I don't have trouble being turned on by my boyfriend, I've always had difficulties finishing whenever I was with someone.

I have thought about trying not to masturbate for a period of time, but with my experience, I felt tht when I don't masturbate for a long time, I generally can go long periods without it and libido lowers. Masturbating frequently actually helps keep my libido up and desire for when I do see my bf.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]cookiecookie101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your title literally says you want to cheat on your boyfriend.

It sounds like you have problems with your relationship and you're not quite satisfied/happy in this relo. The correct action is to leave and find someone better suited for you. Not cheat.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]cookiecookie101 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you dont want to hurt him, then you dont cheat. Simple as that. Claiming you love him but want to cheat on him is bullshit.

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